A 2 month stall...? Really?

Hey folks.  Haven't been on much. No particular reason. I should say that I do come on OH but just don't check in.

Well I am on now because I need to vent and get some suggestions that I already know that I should be doing but just need the support and a good ole' I told you so!

My problem is that I am having one hell of a stall and I am about to pull out the little bit of hair that I have left! In the past 8 weeks I have only been able to lose about 9 lbs and trust me it fluctuates.  I can not say that I am surprised.  Although my eating amount is still small portions I have returned to eating regularly and no more protein shakes.  I am limited on what I am able to eat because of the discomfort or nausea but I still eat.  Apparently I eat enough to maintain my current weight of 239lbs.  I have stopped walking and or exercising which has lead me right to the current **** pot that I am in right now.

For a moment there I had given it a try with better eating and replacing one meal with a protein shake. Did that for a wk with no results and just said "to hell with it all".  I want to pick up my pieces that are scattered about my life right now and for some reason just totally lack the desire to do the work to get it.  I know what I should be doing and simply don't do it.

Guys just help remind me of why we all made this choice.  I want to be healthy, I want to look and feel good, I want to live longer, I wanna set a better example for my daughter and so much more.

I talked to someone today that noticed that I have lost weight and I told them how I had achieved it.  It was so good to talk to someone.  I hope that talking to you all now will help what I am going through as well.

I know that another big part of whats going on is that I am a people person at heart but I have not a single friend.....zip.  I have my family but I don't quite feel that it is the same as having a friend. I never leave the house unless it is to handle business, take and get my daughter from school or to see family.  I have no one to talk to.  My family really doesn't seem to have an interest in my weight loss except to tell me that they too are losing weight and so are still thinner than I am. So why bother talking to them?

My days pass by with me closing all the doors, window and curtains to make sure that it is as dark as I can get it. I use the toilet, get something to eat, check my "cyber-I-have-no-life", and wait for my daughter to get out of school so that I can entertain myself with single parenting. 

I will stop before I bore you all but I am sure you all can see something that I am missing or can lend me shoulder and ear.

By the way at SD:325lbs on 10/18/2010; CW: 239lbs -86lbs in 6.5 mo.

I know how frustrating a stall can be but we have all  had them.  For many of us, when we hit that stall it is a matter of our bodies catching up.  We might not be losing weight but we are losing inches.

I also wanted to point out that hormones are stored in fat and when we lose fat the hormones kind of come out of hiding and can really screw with your head. 

Your weight loss will kick in again;  just hang in there.

Colleen

Hey girl! Great to hear from you. Kudo's for knowing when to reach out.

Now first thing is first! Look at those dates and weights you entered at the end of your post! When was the last time you lost that kind of weight in that little time? (Never maybe?). So take a deep breath, pat yourself on the back, and recognize how far you have come and how much you have accomplished so far.

Second: After 6 to 8 months it is very common to go for longer periods of time with little to no loss. NORMAL! I would go 6 or 8 weeks sometimes. It took me almost 2 full years to hit my goal weight and I only had to lose 112 to do that. Be patient with yourself and your body as you go through this process. Your body is adjusting every day to all the changes. AND the lower the amount you have to lose, the slower it comes off. It requires more activity to burn the same number of calories, as it was much harder work to walk 300 lbs down the sidewalk than it is to walk 238 lbs the same place. And you can never compare your loss to others. We are all individuals, and our bodies are different and react differently to this process.  Remember giving up IS NOT going to get you to where you want to be! So in a deeply loving way I am giving you a virtual butt kick to propel you back in the direction you need to be heading. Get rid of the "I give up" thoughts and replace them with "I CAN and WILL make this happen!" thoughts.

Instead of replacing a meal with a protein shake, add a protein shake and keep the meal in place too, while keeping it wls friendly. Up your water, and begin to work in some activity again. The weather is turning and becoming nice. Get out there and experience it. Walk, play with your daughter at the park, plant some flowers in your yard or a planter by the front door. Start living your life a little lady. Thats what life is for! We need balance in our lives to feel whole. You need to start living, not simply existing. BY the way, these are things I had to learn to do too. I too, was a recluse, for far too long.

Now think back to how happy you were when you finally got your approval for this surgery. Remember the promises you made to yourself about doing it right? About how you'd make this work? remember the sense of hope you felt? Yes... get back in touch with those feelings and memories and hold them close to your heart to help you through the hard times. You will one day hit a point where this surgery has done all it will to assist you, and it will be totally up to you to maintain. Don't lose this precious wls time. Do your best each day, allow your body to have times where it can adjust before dropping the lbs again, and stick to the program during these times. Relax and try to enjoy this journey honey. YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU CAN. I remember your pre-op time, where you had to lose all of that weight just to get aproved. You faced many challenges, yet YOU DID it! You can CAN do this too!

Big hugs and lots of love coming your way lady! Don't be a stranger!

Thanks guys. Seems so easy to give up at times and I appreciate the kindness and really needed the virtual butt kick....seriously. Thanks for reminding me of the times before WLS and what I've gone through to get to this point now. Today is a new day and all I can do is my best. Got a protein shake in hand and trying to figure out what activity I want to get myself into today. Hugs and kisses!

Hi there,
    I'm just out 4 months so I don't have any advise on the weight loss section. Those who have posted gave you great information.
    I can talk about depression. I'm bi-polar and tend to have more depression that manic episodes.  I went through a long depression after my Mom died. She was my best friend. I did the same thing. Closed the drapes. lived in the dark. Didn't call people or answer when they called me. (for 3 long years) I don't know what will be your way out of the gloom, but I can tell you this; nothing started getting better until I determined in myself to make a change. My first change was to throw open the drapes. Get out in the sunshine. I decided that I needed to reach out to others. I needed to let others know I was struggling. (You have done that by posting. Good for you.) I went back to church. Everyone there was wonderful to me. Then I joined a local support group for grieving. I learned so much and made new friends. Felt the overwhelming darkness lifting.Then I realized how it feels to be happy again.
    You can (and I believe will) overcome this place you are at. If you don't have much of a life start some changes. Start somewhere. Anywhere. I didn't make all the changes at once. I just found one or two things to make a difference for right now and right then,  Wishing you peace, happiness and successful eating with more and more weight loss.       Mag      Sending you hugs and a sisterly kiss.

Gigi, so glad you stopped to post. I was going to share some of the ideas Mag had. Hiding, darkness, depression breeds more of the same. Get out of the 4 walls of your home. Walking helps lift the doom and gloom that can surround us.

I had a long stall too. Thought it would never end. Nine months for me. I am so glad that spring has finally sprung. Take a walk, simply smile at others you encounter. Window shop without funds in hand. Walk the mall, leave your wallet in the car. Listen to the birds singing of spring. Watch for changes in the environment.

Encourage your daughter to join you on the outings. Borrow a pet to walk. The options are endless. Most importantly, know that you have made great strides in the last few months, you are important. Hugs (((((Gigi))))))