Bariatric Buddy
how did you prepare you children for your surgery? and other questions
i dont know if anyone else has special needs or high maitence children but my daughter is exceptional in many sense of the word. a normal child that has mood problems and is very high maintence at times. she is going to be 7 but acts like shes 3 or 4 years old. :( my mind and body cannot fathom how to prepare her for my surgery. ive tried talking to her about it and she gets upset thats its not about her and i wont be able to play with her the minute i get home from the hospital. i plan on having her case manager work with her on it but i wasnt sure if there was anything i could do to make things easier for her. thinking of getting her a new game for her ds and some coloring books/packing a special bag for her but cant afford lots of new things. she will only be going to see me in the hosp when they pick me up. must scurry around to find a sitter i trust for the day of surgery but am having difficulty finding sitters so i dont know. considering doing a background check and having someone watch her here for money or sending her to a daycare the days i need a sitter. i dont know that they'd watch her when i say shes not going to school that day because no one can bring her to the daycare if she goes to school. lol...... i need some feedback or ill go crazy in my own mind trying to figure everything out all by myself. she is learning empthathy, kindness, and to play by herself. its getting better and the violence has stopped 99 percent. i just don't know how to make my life easier without saying "i cant take care of u so u have to go to a daycare". hubby only works weekends about 15 -20 hours a week. i hate the idea of paying for daycare, only other option is for him to take 2-3 weeks off.
Several people suggested that what I should do is ask if she could sleep over a classmate's house for the nights I was in the hospital. I probably would have done that if I hadn't already had something figured out, as those households would likely be the most adjusted to a normal 3rd graders schedule.
Now, my daughter is enjoying watching movies with me, and she doesn't much notice (or care) if I fall asleep during them. I do need to cook for her, but I just fix my protein drinks (even if I'm not drinking them then I stick it in the fridge) and clean the dishes at those times, so I can stay out of the kitchen the rest of the time.