Another Newbie

Hello Everyone! 

My name is Kristy and I'm 31 years old.  I live in Houston, TX and I'm on my way to get the RNY.  I am going through The Davis Clinic here in Houston and I'm excited about the level of knowledge and compassion they offer.  I have already had my consultation and I'm scheduled for my 2nd nutritionist visit on 11/9/10. The third will be in December than on to insurance approval. 

I'm glad I found this website. I have already learned a lot from posts on here.  I know I haven't come to making the decision to have the RNY lightly.  Like a lot of people, I've researched but tried on my own for so many years.  I've gotten to a point now however that I needed to make a decision.  What I was doing wasn't working.  I have finally accepted that.  I want my life back and I want to take control over my future.  I have a very supportive hubby and my parents are also very supportive and excited for this decision. 

I am nervous about telling the rest of my family and friends.  It's such a personal decision that I'm afraid of being judged and some not understanding.  Would anyone mind sharing if or when they did tell family/friends?  Was it a positive experience? 

I'm looking forward to learning so much more on here and giving / gaining support! 

Hi Kristy! Welcome to our group and congrats on beginning the process to reclaiming your health and wellness. Its great to hear that those you have shared the decision with have been supportive.

Many do not fare as well. Family & friends can be afraid of the risks, and can also be jealous that you can have the surgery. Some will tell you that it is the easy way out.. NOT! Be prepared for some negative responses...but surround yourself only with those who will support you in a positive way. You may even decide that your husband and parents are the only ones who need to know until after the fact, if ever. As you said, this is a very personal decision and up to you to decide who you trust enough to share it with right now.

My husband and kids were very supportive. My husbands Mom tried to be, but she was also scared for me and worried I'd die or something ... lol. (My husband is blind and disabled and needs me...she didn't want to see him lose me I am sure). She is also one who now, 2 years and 3 months later still tries to push food on me at times. She is one who wants to feed everyone, and if you turn her down she feels offended I think. I just explain it all to her over and over again, patiently...

Best of luck to you in this amazing journey! Again, welcome to our group

Hi Kristy, welcome to BB, the most supportive group in OH! Congratulations on your decision. You are on the road to a very exciting trip towards health and wellness and I, for one, am super excited about sharing that trip with you.
Now, as to your question: I would treat others on a "need to know" basis. Get ready for mixed reactions. Some will be happy and excited for you, others will be nervous and afraid. If you have a sister like mine, she might say "well, I guess you will be dying soon too" (in my mother's funeral no less!) Be lenient with people. I forgave my sister almost immediately because I knew it was her fear speaking.
It's best to tell people "after the fact" and again, only if they have to be told.

Hi Kristy, welcome to the group. I told selected members of my family before surgery. Keeping my support group upbeat. Know that we are here for virtual hugs, and support. I hope to catch you at chat some monday evenings. I am sending out reminder notices each monday. Ask any and all questions. even keep a written list to bring to your appointments. It is easy to forget something that you really wanted an answer to. Call the nurses that work with your surgeon, they are great resources.

Hope to read many posts from you. Great to have another friend. Hugs