getting divorced

 and yes I put a smiliy on that... It has been a long time coming. My hubby is not the nicest of people and he has been lying about everything. He has also became vilont in the past year.  My only issue nw is my MIL... I could just scream because of her. she is threating me and calling myself and my parents names... coming from a 56 yr old women you would think she would be more mature. being my hubby and I are being civil about everything. 

Yes... you did put a smiley.... so you are good with this? If he is being violent, I must say this is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. NO ONE deserves to live in violence.. not for any reason. I am glad the two of you are able to work through this civally. it helps alot.

As far as MIL... DO NOT take any of it to heart. She obviously has issues and they are not YOUR responsibility to carry for her. Blow it off... Easier said than done for a while.. but seriously... don't allow her the pleasure of making you unhappy and miserable. Sounds like her son has given you plenty of that.  If she says these things on the phone.. reply by saying... "ok then.. I need to go now, bt you have a nice day..ok?"  lol.. It will burn her biscuts! Yet you were nothing but sweet as pie. If it happens face to face, give her your sweetest smile and kind of shake your head and say, I'm sorry you are so angry. I hope you can find peace soon, and walk away. Again this is being sweet as can be and will infuriate her. She is looking for a fight and by not giving it to her, you are winning the battle and she is not a happy camper that you refuse to indudge her.

Let us support you through this. Keep us posted and know my heart is with you.

Good luck on the divorce. If she becomes a problem you cannot ignore report that your being harassed. You do not need that!

My ex  came by yesterday and picked up some stuff. It went well and he said his mother will not be calling me again. I hope not. He was really adult about everything which I was kinda afraid he wouldn't be. He also said he is going into treatment. I really hope he does because in the past couple months he has started hurting himself to get pills. and that really scared me.  My MIL is also and alcholic so I am sure he angry stems some from that. I am seeing a laywer on Monday.  I really hope everything stays nice between us. but so far so good. I haven't felt this great in a long time. My life feels like it is really getting on track.

I'm glad things went well and he was able to be civil to you. sounds like life will be opening up some new doors for you and you have some great things to look forward too!

Well my ex's mother kicked him out last night because he wouldn't take any pilla..and yes I I said wouldn't..she had been drinking {she has a problem with that} I let him stay the night and I am getting him into a treatment place up in the city I live in because my dad knows the people that work there. I just could in good faith let him sleep on the street last night. he watched our girls all ngith and let me sleep. one of our girls issick and the other just got her first tooth so they have been very cranky.

I also say a lawyer yesterday and he says I and get him to take my case for free. My ex said he would give me full cousdy of the kids.

I am glad that there is civility present.  Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers as you go through the process.  Addictions are difficult.  I applaud your ex with knowing that he needs treatment. 

Do what you need for the mental health of you and your family.  Here to support your decisions.  Hugs