Can't stop crying!

So, I called the surgeons office to see if I had to have an appointment for a weight check.  Well, I don't but this is what the receptionist said " Oh well, you had your consultation back in October and with it taking a year for you to lose 40 lbs it shows a lack of determination on your part so I'm not sure if (she, being Dr. Bounuoa) will still do the surgery on you".  "Still, come in and get a weight check and I will make an appointment for you to see the Dr. on the 28th"

I feel so defeated. A lack of determination?  She said, "well, it typically only takes pts 2-4 months to lose the weight they need for surgery".  I think my heart is gonna stop.  Who says **** like that to some one?

All I can do at this point is pray, cry and pray some more and then be there for the weigh in.  The funny thing is I did this on my own. It wasn't Dr. supervised nor did the surgeon say that I needed to drop the weight by a certain time or tell me what I needed in order to drop it in time.  I did know that with my insurance I have a year to get a date or I will have to start the process over again.  That was the only time frame I was dealing with. 

This makes all of my hard work feel so pointless and inadequate.

HUGS! I will keep you in my prayers, I am sorry that is is going on... some people just dont understand and it seems like more and more it comes from the Drs and their employees that we go to for help pull this attatude on us.... Keep the faith you are doing a wonderful job just beleive in yourself and be proud of what you have done so far.

Hugs, Lisa

 Hugs. that is an aweful thing to say to somebody.  I will pray that everything goes on and they set a date. Just take a deep breath and know that we are here for you. 

Well, I have to say that woman was pretty rude for sure. Go in for that appointment and stand proud.. youlost what you were supposed to lose. We all move at our own pace. SHE is not the surgeon and does not make the decisions. You go in with your head held high, show that surgeon how dedicated you really are and hopefully you will walk out with your appointment.

Your efforts have NOT been wasted. And if by chance they say no.. go to another surgeon. You are NOT defeated! But I have a feeling once you see the surgeon and he talks with you and feels your conviction to doing this, all will be well.

Hugs to you lady... and don't give up or give in...keep on plan!

Hi Gigi! I am so proud of you losing 40 lbs by dieting! That shows plenty of determination! If losing weight by dieting was easy we would all be thin by now aand wouldn't need to go this route of surgery! You have done fantanstic and that woman doesn't know what she is talking about.
I had to go see a Psychiatrist before I could have my surgery. Have you had to do that yet? It might be good to talk to someone who is compassionate and caring but can still keep a professional viewpoint.It may help with dealing with cold unfeeling strangers and it may help you see that  you are doing well.
When is your year up? You don't have to deal with  a Dr. that has meanspirited people working for her either. You may consider switching. The Dr. works for YOU. Patients often times forget that! You are strong and you have options. Take the bull by the horns, Girl!

Janelle111,

Thanks so much for the encouragement.  I did go to a psych evaluation.  It wasnt much to me nor did he ask very many questions.  I talked a bit so maybe that was the point so he could see where my head is at eh? 

I would love to chose another surgeon, problem with that is that she is the only surgeon in the area that excepts my insurance that does gastric bypass so I am stuck with her.  This is the second problem that I have had with the new receptionist.  The first problem was when I lost 23lbs because when I had done my consultation with the surgeon I was told that I would need to lose 23lbs.  I told the receptionist on the phone that I had lost the weight and so she told me to come on in.  I was kinda leary going in if I needed to lose more weight because I would have to drive a little over an hour one way just to be weighed.  Nonethe less I was also excited because I did as I was supposed to do.  Well this was in March.  The receptionist was new and she weighed me and even though I told her on the phone how much I weighed and she told me to come on in she tells me "You haven't lost enough weight.  you need to lose another 13-19 lbs.  I was so heart broken.  I was like "which is it, 13 0r 19 because I dont want to lose 13 only to be told that isnt good enough.  So, I left there and cried for the majority of the ride home.  I went of the diet because I was feeling "whats the use".  I am an emotional eater.  If Im mad, I eat.  Sad, I eat. Scared, I eat.  That went on for about 2 months. 

Well I decided that I needed to keep going and so I have been making changes and getting in some physical activity.  Never in my life have I lost 40lbs....ever!  So, for that receptionist to say that to me just really hurt.  Not to worry.  I plan to give her a peice of my mind as well as inform the surgeon of what was said to me.  I think she should be aware but perhaps (and I pray the opposite) she is as uncaring as that twit at the front desk.

 

Some people can just be rude. I'm sorry you had to deal with someone who wasn't empathetic to your situation. Perhaps if she knew what it was like to be in your shoes she would have chose her words a bit more carefully. Don't let her stop you. you have a goal and your determined to make it and you WILL make it! 

I would inform someone at the facility you were dealing with that their employee was treating you badly. If you don't let them know they may never know how the clientel are being treated.

Gigi, keep your positive attitude up. I am surprised that the time span for expected weight loss was not made clear from the start. No fair playing with the minds of others. Shame on them. You have done amazing on the losing. It is not easy. We share your being upset with this staff person at the surgeon's office.

Walk into the appointment with your head held high, you have done the impossible, at least it feels like impossible when faced with losing weight the old fashoined way. Get your questions answered and fly on back here to OH to share your news. You are a winner Gigi. Hugs