HELLP!!!!

WHEN I FIRST HAD THE SURGERY, I WAS MOTIVATED AND DETERMINED AND HAD WILL-POWER TO REACH MY GOAL.. BUT SOMEWHERE ALONG THE WAY I LOST MY MOTIVATION, DETERMINATION AND WILL-POWER.. AND I STARTED EATING AND DRINKING THE WRONG THINGS THAT IM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE EATTING OR DRINKING.. IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME? IS THERE ANYWAY I CAN GET IT ALL BACK? IF SO, HOW CAN I DO JUST THAT? CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME..

hi Well im no expert but what I myself would and am doing (re gained a ton during pregnancy)is jkust setting a plan and sticking to it.. go back to the dieting and start from square one... work out etc. i just plan to work at it. nothing is wrong with you. your human...

Hi..I'm no expert either, just had my surgery July 1st. But I remember all too often that while I was "dieting" I often sabotaged my own efforts.. maybe you did also, and maybe an old habit is showing its ugly head.Set simple goals and reward yourself ( not with food though). Come join us Monday nights at the chat room and talk with others who are going through or have gone through this stage of the journey as you have. You've come too far and accomplished too much to throw it away..try looking up some motivational sayings on line..find one(ones) that move you and write them all over your walls..you're worth this journey and its not over..you're not allowed to give up..Believe in yourself..you once did and you can do it again..

Hello there wls friend.  What is your first name?  I don't feel comfortable addressing you as your screen name says.  You will win this battle, with the help of others for support. 

I had my RNY about the same time as you.  And to tell the truth, I can and do get by with eating things that are not the best for me.  My weight loss has stalled too.  I keep bouncing in the same area, up 2-5 pounds, then down those 2-5 pounds for the last few months.  I wish there were a magic wand that could help both of us.  It does not exist.  My surgeon's office keeps reminding me to journal my foods.  I did the journalling religeously in the beginning, then drifted away from the journaling.  Still finding it hard to make the time to sit down with the paper and pencil, or computer to journal. 

Time for us both to go back to the beginning basics.  Write down every morsel that we place in our mouths, keep track of protein, water and activity.  Can we do this, yes indeedy.  Will we do this, that is up to each of us.  Doing what we need for utmost health should be number one in our lives, it amazing how we let ourselves slide out from the most important position as our lives become busy again.

I challenge you to start journalling your foods, paper and pen, computer sites, doesn't matter where or how, let's just do it.  My nutritionist even recommended having a pos*****pe note that sits on the kitchen counter.  If you sample something while cooking, put down a mark for each bite of sampling.  Use the number 25 calories per bite and add this to your daily total for the day.  Amazing how many tastes you can and do take while preparing a meal. 

Today is the start of the rest of our lives, let's do this together.  Hugs

I am right there with you. I have lost the strength and focus I had a year ago.

Kathy,  I'm with you on the journaling. Its strange how I can always seem to make time for everyone else's needs but always use the "I just don't have the time" excuse when it comes to my needs. I am using journaling as my goal this month. Of all the habits that I need to tweak, I think the most important one is going to be putting my some of my needs before others peoples wants.

I heard a catchy phrase on a commercial the other day. The TV was on in the other room, so I don't even remember what it was for, but it was odd how I caught this little slogan. "One good decision can lead to another". I have to get out of the all or nothing mindset. One good decision can lead to another good decision, but I shouldn't let one bad decision lead to even more bad decisions. It needs to be that...one bad decision....it happened, but it doesn't have to happen again. And when I make a good decision, I need to acknowledge that, feel good about it, and let that feeling carry over so I am in the right mindset when it's time to make another food decision.

Thanks to everyone here for your great support.

Erin Bickley

It can be sooooo difficult when we lose our focus and our initial motivation. But one thing that I have found that really helps me is to think back to how I felt when I was scared they'd say NO to me on having my surgery. Then the hope I felt when I was approved. How excited I was to put an end to my obesity. And I embrace those feelings, even now, to help me get through the hard times. Remember how you felt pre-op? how yucky, how tired, how blah? Look at how far you have come! Use this accomplishment to fuel your motivation again. Think of how great your body will feel when you are putting the right things into it again..

You never want to return to where you started.. I know this as much as you do... Time to embrace this journey and love yourself... and JUST DO THE NEXT RIGHT THING in each moment. Thats my motto... Just do the NEXT right thing. It can help reduce the pressure of looking at the big picture.

Best of luck and keep reaching out. Thats what we are here for,