I am guilty and I feel bad about what I did today...

Ok, I am going to be accountable for what I have done. I feel so guilty and feel so bad about eating what I have today. This is the first time since surgery that I have really gone overboard and ignored the No-sugar/sweets rule. Today we had a luncheon and normally I am fine without eating sweets but today I couldn't resist. I ate a small piece of cake, some sweet dip and a small brownie (less than 2 bites).

Why did I do it? I felt like this is something that I want and I should not deny myself. Ok, so after I ate the junk how did I feel...horrible and I felt hot. I could imagine in my mind the sugar/fat gong straight to my thighs. If I could have gotten sick I would have.

I am  miserable and I feel even more horrible emotionally than physically. One thing that really sticks in my mind is the fact that I saw a post-op RNY'er of 4 years this past weekend and she has re-gained all of her weight. I don't want to do that, I have sabotaged myself today and now I feel so depressed about it. Tomorrow is a new day and I will not eat any sweets. I will push the protein and cut the carbs.

I want to succeed in this battle for a lifetime..not just a short while. Any advice, encouragement ,and experience is much appreicated. Please tell me I am not the only one who has done this.

hey, Please don't beat yourself up over it.  You have to treat yourself once in a while.   I have been to several lunchons and it is very hard.  One time is not going to put all your weight back on.  Plese don't get so stressed out.  Everyone does it.  We all are not perfect.  We all stray from it.  Keep you head up high. you have done great.  Take care of you and love who you have become.  I am very proud of you for you honesty.  God Bless you.

annielou, where the heck have you been. been missing you. vick

Vicky, i have been so busy lately.  Hubby has been sick and i just haven't had the time.  Still have all you on my mind.  Thanks for missing me. love, annie

Thank you so much for your reassurance. I am one who tends to beat myself up over things and that is something that  I am trying to move past. Before WLS I would have harped on it for so long that I would have turned to more food for comfort, and ate 3-4 times more if not all of the food. Now that I realize how devistating that is for me I try not to do it or at least do it less.
 
Thank you for your encouragement and I will pray for you in your time of need as well.

God bless,
Susan

You are definately NOT the only one who has done this. I think if everyone were totally honest as you have been, you'd find we ALL have had our weak moments.  Understand that this is just part of our growing pains in this new way of life (or should I say shrinking pains).
Yes...absolutely a wls person can and will gain it all back, and then some, if they go into it with the wrong mindset and attitude. Instead of taking the situation you just went through and using it as a learning tool, they make excuses as to why it was ok and continue to do these things. There are so many situations in which we can sabotage ourselves. So we have to be mega aware.
When i want sweets, I try to pick a sweet fruit to satisfy that craving, and it usually works. Now and then i allow myself something that is a no-no, but in a very very tiny amount, and not too often. Only on rare occassions. I'd rather allow myself just a taste, then to end up overindulging later.
One piece of advice I'd like to share that may help you better than any is this: Never say tomorrow is a new day. Instead use the approach and mindset of: This moment begins a new moment, and new opportunity to stick to plan and make the right choices for my longterm success and wellbeing. If you say tomorrow is a new day, you are almost giving yourself some leeway(sp?) to continue to make bad choices for the rest of today... this, we don't want!

recognizing and sharing your imperfection is good therapy. It gives us accountability, but also lets us know we are not the only ones that are imperfect! We all are. Now...no more beating yourself up. It is done and over and you will take what you have learned with you into the next similar situation and allow it to help you do the right thing that next time.
Big hugs! You are going to be ok.. just keep staying aware!

Thank you so much for your response. I felt empowered that I was able to control myself for the remainder of the day. Today I am on the right track as well. I really liked what you said about the "Tomorrow"...that was the trap that I had fallen into before. I would allow myself to do whatever I want for the whole day instead of just that moment. I am glad that you mentioned that to me and it raised the red flag so I can be more aware and control my actions.

Thank you for your help.

Susan

I am happy to help, however I can. If you were one of my bariatric coaching clients, I would have given you this same advice!
In my experience, both personally and with the people I have worked with as my clients, one common thread is that in the past most of us had that "well I already messed up today" attitiude or way of thinking, and it just set us up for falling off the wagon more and more. This is one of the BIG keys for us now, is to fix it in the moment and not allow our self destructive behaviors to reign for the rest of the day.
Kudos to you for reaching out! I know it can be very difficult to admit these goof-ups to others.

wow, talk about getting hit between the eyes. i am terrible about eating things i shouldn't.  i need to quit now while i can and you have just made it so much easier. thank you for your honesty. vick

Hello Vick,

Glad to know that you are working on better  food choices as well. Thank you for your support .

Susan