Havent been here in awhile

Hey everyone,
I havent been here in a VERY long time. Been going through some hard times as of late. My Mom passed in Sept. and my MIL passed in Dec. I have NOT been approved for surgery because I am not "sick" enough. I am discouraged and an emotional wreck. BUT on the up side I am getting my career life on track (as much anxiety as I have about going into public) I have started a CNA class. I am hoping that being out in public will help me someway. I am so selfconcious and paranoid that everyone talks about me and my weight. Hence why I have anxiety attacks being in public. It takes alot for me to be "out and about" but I realized I had to do it not only for me but for my lil ones as well to make their future brighter.
As far as not being approved for my surgery I dont know what I am going to do. I cannot make my self sicker or give myself any more severe comorbidities. I dont want to give up but unless by some miracle I get sicker I have no hope. Its kind of sad that you have to get sicker in order to get healthier.

Anywho, Thank you for listening.

Welcome back Jeanine.  We acept you, even though insurance did not.  So sorry to hear of the losses you have beed going through.  I am glad that you are being brave and getting out in the public.  It is easy to hide and avoid situations.  Keep focusing on living as normal a life as possible.  Come back and share any ol' time.  Hugs

Wow Jeanine.. you ave been going through alot. seems to be going around a bit,. So sorry for your losses. Also sorry for the insurance denial. My suggestion is to appeal...do it over and over. Maybe consider getting an attorney that specializes in fighting insuirance companies for wls. they are out there! But If i were in your shoes, I'd appeal until I got an approval.

Welcome back.  I agree with Kathy and Patrece; don't give up.  I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your mom and mother in law.  You and your family are in my prayers.

Colleen

jeanine, sorry about your troubles.  i agree about appealling. what are your comorbidities, if you don't mind me asking?  doesn't seem right that u almost have to be dying before they will help.  find out from your insurance policy what the guidelines are. medicare paid for mine.  hang in there and be brave about the put yourself in front of people. you are brave. vick

Jeanine, so sorry for your losses. You and your family are in my prayers. Sorry about the denial also. I agree with what everyone else said. And if none of that works - get your CNA, find a job and maybe have different insurance that will cover WLS without your having to be so sick to qualify! Just don't give up and good for you for being brave enough to just get out there and do it!

Rhonda

Thank you everyone..my insurance needs a severe comorbidity like high BP, high cholesterol, diabetes...i have some things going on that are caused by my obesity but the are not "severe"...my cholesterol is getting high..its almost borderline high cholesterol i think its 189 and border line is like 200..so who knows maybe when I get my blood work done again in a few months it will be higher...