Caring for elderly mother

You are there in my prayers for sure! So sorry about the ill treatment of your daughter, and your husbands lack of interceeding in it.  I don't understand why so many kids have to be cruel to other kids.. TV, parents, somewhere in life they are taught to behave this way. Sometimes i wish things were back to the "little house on the prairie" days. There was so much less corruption aimed at our youth. It just seems these "meanies" get worse as the years go on. Behavior gets worse and worse and less is done about it. And because this ill behavior is all over the TV the kids think this is ok to act like this.. (OK done ranting..)

I wonder if there is a way you culd print out some info on the malabsorptive issues of our procedures, and supply it to your Psych Dr. Then it is not just "you" telling them this.

I read something somewhere that was referring to men and women and how interact based on what each other needs. Anyhow, it was saying that men come right out with it, and women tend to hint at what they need and so this leaves the man confused on what he is really being asked for. The book recommends that we just come out and say, I don't expect you to have the answers here, but i really need you to listen and support me. I do have to admit here, I have in the past been guilty of the "hinting" at what I need or trying to communicate but never making it clear to my hubby what I really needed from him out of the communication. Once I started just coming out with it, it helped. I don't know if this is the case with you and your hubby or not, but thought I'd put it out here and maybe it could be of help..maybe not.

Hang in there.. keep cming to vent. We are here to listen and support you in any way we can.

That must have been really scary for your mother and very worriesome for you. Never mind the jewelry, at least she is still alive!

Hang in there, both of you.

I agree that her life to me is more important. But being a 90 year old mom who just buried her 65 year old daughter - the broach her daughter gave her had a lot of sentamental value to her.  However, she has since told me that the robbers could not steal her memories so she is focusing on the lovely time she had with my sister when she bought the broach for her.  Same goes for the ring that belonged to her aunt that helped raise her and her siblings after my grandfather died when she was 12.  She was murdered so the ring meant a lot to her.  The other jewelry doesn't mean as much sentamentally.

Marybeth,

I am so sorry that your family has had to deal with this.  My mom lives with us and although she is only 76, I don't think she would last very long on her own.  Your mother must be one heck of a lady to live by herself at her age.

I will keep you all in my prayers; maybe they will find these idiots and you can recovery some of your mom's jewelry.

Colleen

she is.  She's a fiesty one.  She refuses to give up on living.  She worries me sometimes because she pushes herself so hard to do so much.  I tell her to listen to her body and rest.  She gets mad when she falls asleep in her lounge chair or has to take a nap but she's getting better at taking naps in the middle of the day.  she worked until she was 86 - then her employer (a church) told her it was time to retire.  She had already retired from L.A.P.D and the City of Los Angeles.  Then she worked another 20 years for her church as a receptionist.  Tough lady.  Hope I have her genes.   I started a new career late in life and have 17 more years to work in order to have a good pension from the Feds.  That will make me 77 years old. One can hope.

marybeth, so sorry for all you have been through. tell your mom i am also very sorry for all she has been through.  you guys have been through the wringer.  post anytime you need or want to. this is about living life on life's terms and isn't always about wls.  consider yourself hugged. vick