Support and prayers needed...

Hello everyone,

I am going through some major changes in my life. I had hired an attorney a couple of weeks ago for separation. I am going to give him the papers tonight.  I had told  my husband quite a few times that I wanted to split up but after this last bout of his gambling and we just received paperwork to forclose on our home...I've just had enough. I finally got the courage to hire an attorney and get separation papers drawn up.  I am asking for prayers because I am not sure how he will handle this. I am afraid of him because he tends to get so angry and violent.  I am sending my daughter to stay with my mom tonight for safety reasons.  Over the years the mental and verbal abuse have taken a toll on me and I really want to get out of this toxic relationship. 

I feel like there have to be others in this group that have been through similar situations. Thanks for listening and I just hope that things will go ok. I am just so nervous that I needed to get this off my chest.

sorry you are having to go thru this. it is good to get your kids out of the house. if he is violent or has the propensity for violence, get yourself out also and leave him a note. there is  no reason to take a chance with your life.  it took 5 sherriffs with shotguns drawn to get me out of the house. please don't stick around. go with your kids and leave him a note. you have already spoken with him about this, so a note will just have to be enough for him. remember that you must survive all this so you can take care of your kids. good luck to you. i will be thinking of you. hugs, vick

Vickie is right!!!  If he has to be served with the papers  - then find somone else to do it.  Think of your daughter if not yourself. 

Sorry you are going through this.  Please get away from him, go to a safehouse if nowhere else.  They will keep you safe. ,  It is very serious matter.
   There was a man, that's wife left him and he killed his wife and his nephew and then killed hisself.  It can happen.  Please go to a safe place.   Good luck to you and your daughter.   Be Careful.

Thank you all for your words of wisdom and encouragement.  I will post an update over the weekend.

thanks again,

Susan

Susan, so sorry you are having to go thru all this. Please take everyone's advise and get out of there if you think there is the slightest chance of him becoming violent. We have seen to many cases on the news where this kind of situation has ended tragically. Do whatever you have to do to keep you and your daughter safe. You are in my prayers.

Rhonda

Susan, I am so so sorry for all you have been through, and all I am sure you will go through for a while over this person. (I have a hard time saying man given his treatment of you). I am glad you are looking out for the safety of your child, just please please kep yourself safe as well! I wish you the best of success in this toxic relationship coming to a quiet and peaceful end, and not having too much difficulty to deal with from him. My heart is so with you and your child right now. This will not be an easy transition, but I KNOW it will be a wonderful one for you and your daughter. Please be careful, and if you must get out of dodge where he cannot find you, if you think he may come after the two of you. Keeping you in my prayers., PLEASE let us know you are safe and sound. Big warm hugs.

I am so sorry you and your kids are going through this terrible ordeal. The previous posters are right. Think of your safety first. There is no need for a face to face confrontation. Get out of there and leave him a note! What's the point of telling him? Doesn't he already know that things are going badly?
Waiting for your news anxiously!!

((((((Hugs Susan))))) Keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. Everyone else has said the right answers, just letting you know that I am here for your support. Safety first my friend. Hugs, Kathy