New to the group...

Hi everyone my name is Laura and I have decided to go for a gastric bypass and not back down this time...I have struggled with my weight for years as long as I can remember actually...I remember when I was a child and getting the name calling from kids at school or some of the kids standing behind me as i walked going boom boom boom boom and crying because I hated being like this...As I got older it only got worse...My senior year of high school I was already over 300lbs....I stayed about that weight for a very long time and I met my ex husband...Things were fine and him being 6'3 and 145 and eating what he wanted was a bit upsetting but he always said I love you the way you are...He ended up joining the service and we moved to Germany where our marriage just went down hill...We were happy for awhile very happy...Then he was sent to Iraq and my dad died and this just made things go faster down...He cheated on me for the first time and put me in a big depression I ended up gaining a lot more weight...When he came back from Iraq the physical and mental abuse really started...I found out he cheated more and the pushing me around and his favorite line to me was I was a waste of a human life...He blamed me for everything and he blamed my weight because I have PCOS that we did not have children he came out and said he wasnt attracted to me any longer because I was fat and would never date another fat person in his life because of me...I ended up not eating from stress and lost weight finally when I moved away from him I came back to the states and moved to Ky where I lost more weight when I came to Pa to visit family I ended up in a car accident that changed my life...My health started going down hill I found out I had Chiari Malformation w/ syrinx which makes it hard for me to do much and the weight poured back on...So here I sit at about 360 lbs....I have sleep apnea,Pcos,high trygylcerides,Chiari to name a few...
I know I am at a point in my life I have to do something and I have to do it now or I will die this way!  So I have started my journey...I went and started it with Dr Bono in Hazleton Pa...I am very excited and very scared about this journey but I know I can do it this time with the help of friends and family and this wonderful group...Thank you for excepting me...
And now I will end my book...

Hi Laura. So glad you have joined us here. I know just where you're coming from. I have finally made that decision too and am waiting for my date for my surgery. It's scary and exciting and crazy all at once. I can't help but daydream about being able to do things I cannot do right now, and about being able to shop on "the other side" of clothing stores, LOL. But most of all, knowing that I'll be healthy and live a lot longer and feel a whole lot better! I've really started to notice my body protesting and hurting and unable to do things I could do previously , just in these last few months. I want to have the energy to paint a room, clean my bathtub down on my knees, and all the other ordinary things we take for granted til we start to be unable to do them!
We're on our way, and I'm glad to have another buddy to walk with on this journey!

Hugs,
Rhonda

Hey Laura! Welcome to our group. It sounds like you have really gone through alot. I am so sorry for the lifetime of misuse and abuse you suffered. I too went through many difficulties and amny due to my weight, but not all. But i will say that it seems that almost any difficulty is easier to bear when you are not fighting obesity aong with it. (I am refering to my hubby's work accident that left him blinded and with severe permanant pain pretty much head to toe, due to being crushed by 22 tons of cement.) After that is when i decided I HAD to do this surgery. I had to be able to take care of him, but I just kept gaining weight, and getting more tired and more sore and just wanted to sleep all the time. I was pretty sure I'd have wls befoe that, but decided firmly after. He is 46, I just turned 43. Thats a lot of years I need to be alive and vital to see after him. This was not FOR him tho, it was for me.

We are here for you, when you need a shoulder, a friend, a boot in the behind.. lol. This is a great group of people here! Welcome! YOU CAN do it!

Hi Laura, Welcome, welcome, welcome, so glad you found bariatric buddies.  Sorry you have had those struggles in your life, they are making you the strong woman you are now.  I have had the shopping list of problems too, finally decided to make the difference.  Had my RNY 3 months ago and loving the resulting weight loss, still a work in progress.  I have gone from 359 to 262, my knees and health are thankful for the changes I have made.

We are here for your support, questions, concerns, joys and anything in between.  Looking forward to getting to know you better along the way.  Hugs, Kathy

You look so awesome kathy. I am so jealous. LOL I finally got approved and will have my surgery at the end of this month.

Congrats on the surgery date.  You will be joining us on the losing side of surgery sooooooon.  Keep up the positive attitude.  Waiting here for you Mori.  Hugs, Kathy

laura, welcome to the family.  sorry about all the bs u have had to go through.  hope that you will find what u need here in the forms of support and friendships.  let me know if i can help you in any way. vick

Hi Laura! Welcome to the group. You will not meet a nicer bunch of people than on here I can promise you that. I am sorry to hear about all that you have been through, but have faith that for all the pain you have had to endure you will be doubly rewarded. I wish you lots of success with your WLS and remember we are here for you if you need anything.

You'll be fine Laura.
I too tried 2x and didn't go through with it. Third time is a charm.
There is no better time than now.
Best of luck to you.

: )

Kevin

Hello my best friend :) Glad you joined this group. Glad we are doing this together. Love you