Sharing a decision I have made.

Go for it and enjoy even more how you look afterwards.  This is about you, not about anyone else.  Be thankful your DH questions whether you need it.  That means he loves you just the way you are.  But you need to love yourself too.  And once he sees you, he'll understand why you did it and will like it too.

Hugs

Wanda

Alright Patrece!  Be happy!!

Thank you everyone, for the support and encouragement.

Unfortunately, my hubby can't "see" the difference. But he can feel it. He was crushed almost to death in a work accident  2 years ago this past July 9th. He was never expected to survive it. His face was crushed also , and he was totally blinded. Not even light perception. Its been very very hard on us both. BUT he will put his arms around me and ask "Okay where'd you hide my wife?" Or tell me wow you are gonna disappear if you lose much more.. lol.

Thanks again for the loving support. I really do feel I need to do this for me. I do look way better than when I was 270, but I hate the way the loose skin hangs over the top of my pants a bit and looks like a fat roll. LOL.

Hugs and love to you all!
Patrece

Hello
 i would like to offer my 2 cents worth
 you are right only you know what yoou need and how to make it happen and what makes you feel better about your life
 to your friends and loved ones i dont think that they were meaning anything bad from it i think that they thought that they were tring to be supportive in their own way by tellling you that you dont need it that you look good as far as your husband being supportive but asking why this is a no win stiuation for him if you go to him and ask do i need to have it if he says yes  you would feel hurt   as for him asking why  may be he is trying to understand what you are going through.  i am sure that he loves you just as much now as when you first meet
 you say you have mentioned to several and have gooten less than a positive responce not that you neeed to explan you life or dicisions but have you tried to educate those that you have told as to why you will have the surgery done they may not understand  thry may not know that they are hurting your feelings but their coments
 i wish you the best of luck
 May God bless you with with your decision and with the surgeryand your recovery time
mark

You are taking good care of yourself. That is a very wise  thing. You've worked hard and long to get to this place.  It is hard if one is a people pleaser to let go of others opinions.  I pray you feel peace and confidence as you move forward.
Annie

Thanks Annie! I wish the same to you in your forthcoming journey as well. Hugs!

Mark...
I am sure that most of them think they have my best interest at heart. They worry about something not going right, or whatever. I do understand they care, but they have to understand that I would not be putting myself through this, if it wasn't important to me. I guess i get tired of feeling like I am having to defend myself or like it is my job to convince them it is right for me. I do explain it to them, but they are not where I am and never have been so they cannot understand how I feel and why. I do understand the point you are making, and it is valid. I guess i just feel like at this point in my life, (I'm a grammy!) that people would give me credit for being the adult I am and not make me feel like I am being challenged.

I think a lot of it has to do with the approach they use. I have no problem with them asking questions or expressing the concerns they have. What bothers me is that they feel like they can decide what I do or do not need and that is what infuriates me. I went through the same think over getting my RNY.. finally told anyone giving me flack, "look...this is MY LIFE and I have the right to do what I feel is in my best interest."  My husbands mother was the big offender when I wanted to have my RNY.  I am not even telling her about this until it is done and over..

Thank you for helping me to look at all angels Mark! I appreciate it. It is good to have a mans perspective as well! Thanks for being a part of our group!

I am sorry you are feeling that way.  It is hard enough to share your decision with others. When you are then discouraged it is heart breaking.  I am getting the same thing about deciding to have surgery.  It is hard.  I have decided I am not telling anyone else because it is none of their concern. 

As for the plastics, I thought that was just part of it.  I have my $ tucked away for a full body makeover when I'm done.  You go GIRL.....

Patrece,

You have worked so hard and come so far, you deserve to get all the way to the finish line. Just make sure you have the best surgeon you can find who is familiar with surgery on bariatric patients. I've come across a lot of info on plastics while I've been reseaching WLS and I've seen that many people who thought they would not be interested have changed their minds after reaching or nearing goal because they are unhappy with the results. I don't remember which site this was on (possibly OH) but one brave soul posted pictures of herself showing all the hanging skin left after her weight loss and then pictures after her plastic surgery. This was to help people know what they might look like after losing their weight. If you are willing to go through the pain, expense, and long recovery for these procedures, I say go for it and we'll be here praying that things go well for you and cheering you on. Just choose that surgeon carefully!
We want someone who knows what he's doing to take good care of you!

Hugs,
Rhonda

Thanks all for your support and encouragement, and caring. You just never know what the end result of anything in life will be until it happens. For a long time I thought I'd be just as happy not to have it,  but these last 10 or 15 lbs have really created a difference, and have changed my mind. Of course I have my worries just like we all do with our surgeries, whatever they may be.  I can't afford the big big high dollar guys, but am using a surgeon that I have heard and read many positve comments about. And had many here on OH highly recommend. I figure what will be will be. And hoping for the best of course.