Anyone experience this?

So yesterday I took my friend out for dinner for her birthday. She is a pretty good friend, we talk or text every day. She hasn't seen me since my surgery.  Now, I wasn't fishing for compliments or anything but she didn't even mention my weight loss at all, except to ask  me how much I lost. When I told her she just went...."Oh."  People that I'm NOT good friends with have seen me and said, wow congratulations on your weight loss, you're looking good. Then I had a piece of food start to get stuck (it later went down ok) and she asked what was wrong. When I explained to her what had happened she said, "See I wouldn't want to be in pain every time I ate, I don't know why you do."

This really bothers me. Am I just being hypersensitive? Like I said, I'm not one to fish for compliments but is it  wrong of me to expect some support from  her?

Kinda bummed,

Is this friend one who gives out compliments easily?  Maybe she didn't know how to express her feelings for your success.  So sorry that it came across the way it did.  I am happy to be in your corner and supporting you.  People are hard to understand at times. 

Has your friendship with her had food as a basis, maybe she is worried that things will change.  Maybe she had something completely else occupying her thoughts.

((((((Hugs and congrats on all the progress you have made)))))).  Keep looking for the positive things in life.  Take care of yourself.  Hugs, Kathy

Kathy had some good ideas on what may be at play. Another thing is...is your friend overweight? If not is she an insecure person?
You will often find that some of our friends, even ones we consider our good friends, can feel threatened by or even jealous of our progress. Even if she is not heavy, she may feel like when you are thin, you will be a "threat to her". Or she may just not get it at all if she is thin. It is strange, and there's no reason for it, but this can happen in many relationships after wls.
I do not think you are being hypersenstive. A good friend should support you in all that you do. Even if they do not agree with your choice. Its about you not her, and she should be supportive.
Maybe a good heart to heart is in order?
Hugs and love to you, and as Kathy said...I too am in your corner. And I congratulate you on your progrss and your decision to take control of your health.

Yeah she is overweight as well. Before the surgery, when I told her that I was a size 22 she said she was size 20. I told her I was into my size 20 jeans last night and she told me she was an 18. Like I said, I'm not looking for someone to tell me I'm gorgeous, but a simple..."good for you" would have been great.

I think I'm going to blow it off for now and if it comes up again then I'll have to talk to her. Thanks for the advice, guys!

Hugs,

I think you are facing a case of jealousy / competition. Whatever you do, do not let this person become a sbatuer for you. and do not give her the power to bring you donn. Unfortunately sometimes after wls, we find out who the people are *****ally acre about us, and *****ally just cares about themselves, and sometimes, as hard as it is, we have to move on from some relationships. I am NOT saying to do this now, but if it gets to where is seems like a consistant problem, then you have some serious soul searching to do.
I'm sorry your "friend" is being this way with you. Maybe she'll get over it soon.
Hugs and love!

I agree with Patrece, your friends response is probably due to jealousy, fear that the friendship will change.  Also, keep your whits about you, cherish your successes and do not let anyone play tricks on your head.  You have made wonderful choices, difficult choices and are in the process of becoming your healthiest yet.

I am so glad that you feel safe to come here to vent and get the support we have to offer.  Sukie, I have watched you struggle and grow.  Leaps and bounds of growth as a person.  Keep up the good job.  Take time to enjoy your felting, it is a wonderful way to sooth the soul with out calories.

Hugs my friend Sukie, Kathy