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Charlotte Paxton
on 10/21/09 9:25 am
Hi everyone, I am needing every ones prayers.  Monday morning I had to put my Dad into the hospital.  He had double pneumonia.  He was so sick, his o2 sats were down to 70%  He was not talking to anyone, just a scary time.  The ER doctor came and talked to me, and told me all that was going on with him, and said that he was not sure that he would make it through the night.  This news sent a nail right threw my heart.  The admitted him to ICU, and my sister and I took turns sitting with him.  I ended up being there for almost 24 hours.  He did make it through the night, but he was not out of the woods yet.  As I talked to the doctors they told me that his lung function was extremely poor.  Which I knew that, he has emphysema and is a smoker of 3 packs a day of non-filtered cigs for more that 50 years!  They were not sure if he made it through this bad spot if he could handle another time getting sick.  My sister and I made the decision to put him on hospice.  To ensure that he would not have to go back to the hospital again, if he got sick.  And to have someone on our side to make sure he stays comfortable and out of pain.  I am my Dads full time and only caregiver.  I am such a Daddy's Girl, that I am not ready for him to leave me, but don't want him to suffer. 
But, during all of this and the stress of my Dad being sick, my emotions are trying to get the best of me.  Before I had surgery I ate to cover and make the sad feelings go away.  I found myself trying to nibble on stuff, even when I was not hungry.  That makes me so mad at myself.  I just need every ones prayers to help me get through this tuff time with my dad and my emotional eating. grrrrr
sorry that this is such a long post, and for spilling my troubles

                    

Kathy B.
on 10/21/09 9:56 am - Virginia, MN
  Great big ((((((Group Hugs))))) to you Charlotte, keeping you, your sister and your dad in my thoughts and prayers.  Do remember to take care of yourself during this difficult time.  Hospice is such a wonderful support, different from the support here, but oh so much needed during these times in our families.  I am here anytime you need to vent.  Make your posts as long as needed.  Use the writing here instead of feeding your struggles.  Take care my friend.  Hugs, Kathy
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Patrece S.
on 10/21/09 10:31 am - CO
Ohhh charlotte sweetie! I am so so sorry your father is struggling so! I know it must hurt tremendously to see him suffer and to consider the loss of him. My heart is soooo with you. If you need to talk, PM me, and I'll give you my phone number, or you can send me yours. But makes more sense to me that you have mine to call when you need to talk... 24 / 7...I mean it too. ANYTIME. You and your family are in my prayers for sure. I'll add an extra request in for you, to help you get through this time without turning to food.

I know the food seems comforting, but it will be anything but. So please, as kathy suggested, reach out here, call me, take a short walk...do anything but mindless eating. If you do want to eat.. have things like carrot sticks and celery sticks and fruit available and easy to grab. This will definately be a better choice than just grabbing any ole thing. These are the times our wls lifestyle is challenged big time. Hang in there and reach out anytime.

Great big hugs and lots of love coming your way. Prayers going up!

Patrece
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vickie O.
on 10/21/09 1:38 pm - amarillo, TX
charlotte, so sorry to hear about your dad. i can really relate.  hang in there and realize that you do have support here.  be sure and take care of yourself and get as much rest as you can. so soon after surgery, it is very important.  take care. hugs, vick

 

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Tere O.
on 10/22/09 2:59 pm - West Saint Paul, MN
How are you today?  Your post was over 24 hours ago...but I just read it and tears came to my eyes.  Oh honey, cry -journal -write here -pray...what ever you need to walk through this time.  It is hard.  No way out of that, but have faith that you are not alone and that HE is still watching over you and providing through all of this.  I want you to know you are loved and your concerns are HIS.

In the meantime, take up the offers for someone to call.  It's an open door.

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Lord, give her your peace and comfort her.  Tho she cry and tho she is pressed, strengthen her to touch the life of her father in all the ways she can.  Help her to know what touches his heart and gives rest to his soul.  May faith in you bring strength to them.  Thank you Lord for ever being near.  Amen.

Journal your eating..if you bite it write it...that will keep your focus without you trying to mentally keep track.

Let us know how you are doing.  Let us know how he is doing.

   

     
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Patrece S.
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Kathy B.
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