Bariatric Buddy
Getting worried about weight loss and surgery in general
I'm also worried that I might be making a mistake-people are telling me that I'm not overweight enough to have this surgery; I've dealt with obesity since childhood-first 10#, then each succeeding decade adding another 10#, until my 40's or 50's. Now I'm 5'1 and weigh about 185. I'm pretty confident about having the surgery, but it has me thinking.....
Thanks for any advice you can offer. 14 days and counting.
Rooting for you in your corner. Hugs, Kathy
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Hey Katie! Welcome! Vick andf Kathy gave you lots of great advice. If you didn't worry a bit, you would be extremely unusual as a pre-op. As far as your friends go, they may mean well, but they are NOT you, and may not be in your shoes with the weight, and if they are, there could be some jealousy at play as well. This is between YOU and your surgeon. Remember... First the surgeon would not do it if you did not qualify. Second, your insurance definately would not pay if you did not qualify. Your friends may truly mean well, but this is about you Always remember that!
Now about the food thing. You recognize it, you take responsibility for it. These are good starts Now YOU have the ability to deal with it differently in the future. Take your indescretions, and use them as a learning tool. These are the things that got us to where we are / were. So we know we must change them. We also know it is not easy. Our relationship with food had been developing for a lifetime. Now we have to change it. This surgery unfortunately is not brain surgery, so we have a lot of very hard work to do, for the rest of our journey. There will always be temptations, and we will never be perfect. What we must do is be our best and do our best. You sound like you really feel comitted to doing this.
You may consider therapy for eating behavior, or even a life coach, that can help you in many aspects of this journey. I am a bariatric coach, and sometimes just knowing you have that accountability to someone really helps keep you on track. I know my clients find it helpful. Seek out lots of advice and support. This group is a great place for that, and also your local wls group. It can be lots of help even before surgery.
Now... You CAN lose those few lbs before surgery. Just put your mind to it, remember how much you want this, and take it just one day or even one moment at a time. You may need to avoid some of the social scenes that involve food until later. Or go early or late, to avoid the time frame of food being served. But most of all, remember why you are doing this, and let it be your driving force. You can do this. We will be here to help you through it. One step at a time my new friend.
Big hugs to you!
Patrece
Patrece
JUST DO THE NEXT RIGHT THING!
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Lost 114 lbs. working on getting rid of a recent 10 lb regain...and WILL succeed!