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By now means are you a failure!! Good for you for recognizing the regain, and taking action before you gain more weight. Sadly, there are many people *****gain all their weight.
I haven't reached goal yet, and I am struggling. But I will not give up. It's a battle we have to keep fighting - and really, if we're honest with ourselves our plans are "doable" -- we've just got to get ourselves into the right mindset again.
Congratulations on your babies!! And welcome back here!
Mary
HW: 380 SW: 324 GW: 175
I get angry at myself too. I feel like such a fool because physically I feel better than I have in years. I think I got "comfortable" because it has been 40 years since I've been at my current weight - so that made me feel pleased with myself. But I have to be honest and realize I have 60-70 pounds to go before get to goal. Like I said, I feel good now, but I know I can do better. Keep plugging away. No matter how angry I get at myself, I recognize the fact that I've done great and I have the ability to get to goal -- it's my choice!
Mary
HW: 380 SW: 324 GW: 175
Hey Maria! I'm struggling too. I haven't reached goal yet, and I'm really upset with myself. I'm probably "on track" 80% of the time, but I NEED to be on track all the time, or I'll never reach goal. I'm not gaining weight, but I'm barely losing at all, and I've got about 60-70 more pounds to go.
I try to keep busy, but I've got a lot of time on my hands, and have some depression issues. I must remember to take my medicines every day, I've gotten slack on that. And I must stay 100% away from any breads of any type -- that take me into the Carb Kingdom is I let them in!!
What can we do? Got to keep going: pre-planning, weighing and measuring; tracking, etc.!!
Good luck to you! 
HW: 380 SW: 324 GW: 175
Welcome Back! I'm struggling with reaching my goal. I've lost 149 pounds, and have about 60 more to lose. Have been struggling since January/February.
I'm sorry your husband is not supportive of your efforts. I have a somewhat similar situation. My SO "says" he supports me, but in fact, he doesn't. Although he tells me to do whatever I need to do, he's always, always trying to get me to eat off program. I don't mind what he eats -- he can have all the pizza, ice cream, etc. he wants -- but he's always pushing the food at me. We have many a "word" or two about it. I keep saying when I say No - please respect that and don't ask again. It takes three "Nos" before he gets huffy and stops. But - in the meantime, there are times when I take the food at the "second offering" - sometimes just to stop the food pushing, other times because I just give in. I get so angry at myself. So basically now I told him he can fix his own food and I'll eat later, when he goes down the hall. I tried cooking for both of use, and he always ate what I fixed in the beginning, but now it's "I don't feel like that" or "I feel like pizza". Very frustrating. I'll ask him in the morning "Do you want chicken tonight" and it's "I don't know" -- In the past I've not asked him, just made the chicken, and then he wouldn't eat it.
Men are babies!! 
So now I make sure I have what I need -- it's gotten to the point we can't go shopping together. He'll get a bag of "Bertolli Chicken Marsala" -- I told him he can buy it, but to plan on having two meals of it himself because I can't eat it. "Huff and Puff". What's crazy is he has serious health problems and should basically be eating the same way I am -- says he's concerned about his health -- but doesn't act like it.
What can we do? We've got to take care of ourselves, and let the grown men take care of themselves. Why should they be number one?
Stay Strong!! Take care of yourself, and let the grown men take care of themselves. They managed before you arrived, so they can manage now!
Mary
HW: 380 SW: 324 GW: 175
Hi everyone, I'm posting in here because I'm wanting to lose the 60 pound regain that I've put on over the last 3.5 years. Within this time period I have also been diagnosed with some medical issues and put on 16 different medications and there are several times in a month that I am bed ridden, I also have vision issues, balance issues(constantly dizzy)..just after my medical issues started I got married and my husband was very understanding and so were his kids(he had 3 that lived him permamently but now there are 2 ages 9, 17 with a baby, and now his 24 year old son has moved back home and gets his daughter every other weekend) it's funny because I'm supposed to limit my stress because of my medical issues but there is no way possible but anyway when I tell my husband that I want to start getting back on losing my weight he laughs and tells me whatever good luck and so there I go back into my depression again and so here I amagain wanting to do it again and I told him that I am going to do it and I will not buy junk and he told me that it isn't fair to the kids to do that they don't need it either
I can so relate to fatigue and mindless eating. I struggle with this every time I work. My blessing is I am only working per diem now, so rather than three 12 hr shifts per week, I work just one generally. Still a challenge, but more manageable.
I've been reading about the adult coloring and it's a great idea. I found some free printable mandala designs online that I copied to get started. I also used to cross stitch and that would be great to get back to. Busy hands and all...
Good luck everyone.
Hi everyone. Late posting as I worked last night and slept a while this AM.
Today's plan:
B: 2 slices bacon, 1/2 small apple
L: Leftover chicken stir fry
D: Pork chop, 1/2 sweet potato
S: Kay's protein pretzels
Hope everyone has a great day
L:
Thanks Cathy.
I got right back on track yesterday, but it is just the whole head game I play with myself. Thanks for the reassurance of the whole mental aspect of this. It really is tough and never realized how much I used food to cope with emotions.
Getting back on OH has made a big difference for me. I really avoided the scale and the boards for too long!
Found some mandelas to print for free online. Pretty cool!
~Maria
The process of being on track isn't about having perfect days of eating. Life happens so weekends like you just had are part of it. For me, the most important day is the next day. Being on track (to me) is getting back to your norm, and not extending into the next day. If you get back on track today, that will make you feel better and more in control.
Being a post-op long-term, it is about a 95% head thing. You're right, it is more mental. When we've just had surgery, it is more physical from having the benefits of our WLS. After that window has lessened, it becomes mental. Newly post-op, it is 80% surgery/20% us. After the first or second year, it becomes 50% surgery/50% us. Beyond that, it is more like 20% surgery/80% us. Today, keep your head in the back on track "game" make sure your weekend doesn't extend into today and beyond.
When I need to be motivated, I'll call a friend, cruise OH, check in here like I did yesterday because it really helped, I'll do my hobbies that keep my hands busy and occupies my head, I'll cruise FB for motivating images, and do major self-talking as what I would say to someone else (coach myself).
Keep telling yourself that You've Got This because you do!
Cathy
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Thanks Cathy for the links. Sounds like something I could do too. I always loved to color as a kid and with my boys when they were younger.
Loom knitting looks a little easier than with the 2 needles! Plus I am a lefty and it is hard sometimes to find another lefty to help me out.
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