Ashamed.....

I have been away for a while and have gained lots of all my weight back.  I have been in depression and very ashamed. I just knew this wouldn't be me here. I knew I just had this....could stay in control and look at me now,  I want to get back to the basics. Please share what changes I can start making.  Can this be done? Is my pouch ruined? Am I a loss cause?any suggestion/advice is helpful.  It's taken me 6months to post this.  Thank u!!

Hi Chele

I really like this group because it is safe.  No one criticizes me for doing so poorly at WLS.  I am losing very slowly and do the best when I plan and edit my food journal here on this group.  Look at what you are eating and change bad habits by replacing them with new healthy habits.  Best wishes on your journey.  Tri 

Hi Chele,

I understand where you are because I find myself in the exact same place. I had a follow up appointment with the doctor who did my RNY 10 years ago and was scared and ashamed to go back to him having gained most of my weight back. What I gained from that appointment with him is that it is in the percentages that most will regain the weight back after 8-10 years, however -- he motivated me to use my tool -- ie my functioning pouch -- and 'Do the work'.

What I took that to mean was that my pouch is still in tact but I have to reset my mind to know that I have everything I need to get back on track, lose the weight and keep it off. So as your fellow re-gainer -- I want to encourage both of us -- as this is my first day back on track myself -- that 'NO' you are not a lost cause and neither am I and 'YES' we CAN/WILL do this by just doing the work.

Let me share with you my plan:

1. Spend the next 5 days tracking my 1900 calorie/day meal plan on FitDay and MyFitnessPal apps.
2. From day 6 - 10 add in 3 days of 40 minute exercise along with step 1.
3. From day 11 - 32, since they say it takes 21 days to create a habit I am going to repeat steps 1 and 2.

I am not thinking further than these 3 steps until I can mark them completed. I hope this helps and I would love to take this journey with you and all the others on this board.

Be encouraged,

Trina M.

                                                "Your life becomes the thing you have decided it will be."

                                                                      Raymond Charles Barker

I had RNY in June 2007.  I lost really well and went from 366 lb to 185 lbs.

Then I went haywire and gained back to over 300 again.  I could give you my excuses, but that is all they are - I just started dringing lots of wine and eating irresponsibly.  I broke all the rules (drinking with meals, getting adequate protein, taking vitamins, etc.

I was miserable, could barely walk in house and a trip to the store was exhausting.

last January I reviewed the educational materials I had been given, rejoined this website and returned to the basics.  Now one year and  five months later I am just a couple of pounds away from 185 and I plan to go done from there.

It can be done and my pouch was still there ready to work for me even after all of the abuse I gave it.  Don't beat yourself up, we are imperfect beings that can learn from our errors and do better in the future.  I try to remember that I am not like people who have never experienced being overweight to the extent I have.  I cannot eat the way they do and never will be able to do so without very negative consequences.  Also, I have begun to feel my emotional pain rather than bury it under a ton of comfort food.  It has gotten easier to recognize some head hunger as emotional repression hunger.  One step at a time.

hope this helps.