Really? People are strange

I haven't posted my eats, mainly because I've been journaling and doing it on myfitnesspal, but I have been doing better and better at not grazing and staying on track. But today a gal at work told me how at this time last year at our annual award luncheon, she said I looked so skinny but now I am quit fat.(yes she said the "f" word!) then she proceeded to say how she's gained weight since I came to work there and she thinks it's because I am a bad influence on her because I eat all day long, so she started eating more. Grrrr. Honestly, I eat breakfast at home, snack, lunch, and snack at work, when I was off track I would closet eat, you know, shovel that chocolate in behind closed doors. Anyway, my point to this was it hurt my feelings, but it also made me think about how regain hurts in some ways more than being overweight before surgery.  I am so glad to have this group because, rather than fall into a plate of sweets, I came here, looked at everyone's food posts and other threads, told myself I will succeed at losing and just felt a little less alone in the world.  Yup I regained, yup I am still fat, and yup I will keep going.  Thanks for listening 

Un-be-freakin-lievable!!!!  What an evil, vile thing to say!  All I can say is "look at the source", as there is something obviously lacking there.  But you have a great attitude, and your last sentence says it all.  That is why many, if not most of us, are here.  Fact is, you have your "tool" ready and at your disposal.  You can lose your regain a little bit easier than she can, most likely.  Then you can sit smugly, and watch her try to lose what she gained :)

No judging here.  Just people trying to help themselves...and each other.

Oh the things I could say to her....none of them would be considered socially approrpriate but hey sometimes a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. The only "kind" thing I can think of would be related to this quote "she's gained weight since I came to work there and she thinks it's because I am a bad influence on her because I eat all day long, so she started eating more". She just wants to be like you. Obviously she sees something in you that's missing in her own life. jealous witch. Your weight is less of an issue than her poor manners.

As for the regain...how's your overall health? Compared to where you were prior to surgery I'm sure you're a success on multiple levels. You obviously recognize the steps you need to take to deal with the regain. It's not easy but as you realize ---YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We're here for you. Come vent, comment, question and celebrate with us.

- Iris

I could write a book on what this lady said to you.  By putting you down is the only way that she can make herself feel better.  What a sad lady that is.  Of all the people that I have met since having my surgery, I can count on one hand those who have never had a regain.  I don't care if it is 5 lbs or 105 lbs.  regain happens because we get happy with ourselves and start focusing on other people instead of keeping the eye on us.  I am not going to lie, regain is painful because we all got down in our weight and looked pretty good and thought that I never be fat again.  Then, life sends us a wake call in regain and "everybody just knew we were going to gain it back"  it is what we do, mentality sets in.  Some people just don't voice it out in the open to us, they just give us the look.  DO NOT let this person bring your mojo down.  You will succeed one day at a time.  You succeed today because you came here for support not to the source of comfort known as food.  I get so angry when I hear that someone has been put down because of regain.  "Do not judge me least you be judge yourself".  Kind of bible thumping but my blood is rolling.  One of my favorites sayings that I saw on a T-Shirt once was "I may be fat but I can lose weight, your just plain ugly and can't do a thing about it".  Some people have ugly souls and try to sour life for the rest of us because they don't want to be alone.  I am sending you awesome "hugs" today.  Love my BOTTS!!!!

Ignore her. She is trying to push off her own weight gain on you. She's in denial of her own fault in her own weight gain. Tell her you aren't forcing her to eat and she needs to take responsibility for her own heifer-sized behind. . . XD Okay, so you can say it how you want to, but you get the idea. Though honestly, if she's going to be rude, I say you can too. It will shut her up. Good luck, and you eat the way you know you should by your surgeon's guidelines.

I understand exactly what you mean about the regain being more painful. When I got pregnant and told my parents, my father said "Just don't gain all your weight back." Between the two pregnancies, I regained 80 lbs. I felt like I'd done this drastic thing to lose, and failed at it like with all other diets. Then I realized I wasn't given a diet, I was given a tool. All I had to do was use it.  I've lost 45 lbs of that so far. You've always got us for support. We can and will do it, as long as we stick together.

 

Yea, what everyone else said! I'm so proud of you for staying strong and not diving into comfort food. Hugs!!!

Thank you all!! Very much!! I had a good food day because of all your support.sometimes the best revenge is using the tool I have to it's maximum....1000 calories, all high protein, oh and the scale today was kind, 3 lbs down...so I am grateful for everyone's thoughts.

Three pounds is fantastic!

'Nuff said...3 lbs down, YOU GO GIRL!!!