Feeling so lost...

I just don't know what to do.  Sticking to my eating plan is so hard.  Getting started on an exercise plan feels impossible.  All of the sudden, I full-on hate my job.  And my boyfriend, my wonderful loving boyfriend who treats me like a queen, is breaking my heart because he hasn't proposed yet.  I feel like I'm on a downward spiral and I don't know how to turn it around.

Hey Brandi!

First of all..........


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Okay...now to your concerns.  Yes, sticking to an eating plan is so hard.  It SUCKS.  I will be posting my bad, bad day yesterday soon.  But the thing is to not let bad eating days get to you...and to just brush yourself off and jump back on the wagon.  And I am RIGHT THERE with you.  I HATE my job.  I know I should feel lucky I have one...and I do...but that does not take away the fact that I am tired of the stress and the daily BS.  I am tired of being away from my babies 9 hours a day. :(  Plus, my house is a cluttered MESS and that is a huge source of stress, too. 

I think you coming here and talking about it is a good first step!  Can I ask why you hate your job now?  Did something change?  Is it something you can control?

Your boyfriend is a whole other topic.  Can I ask how old you both are?  Maybe he feels he is too young to "settle down"?  Did you talk to him about proposing?  What does he say?  If you have not had that open conversation with him, I think it is important.  Why are you so determined to be engaged?  Are you feeling stress from *other* people about getting engaged or is it coming from within you?

I know things might look bad right now but please try not to let it pull you under.  At one point you took control of your health and your life and you turned it around.  I am confident you can do it again!!

Hugs,
Jersey Mom

Thanks for the hug! I sure can use it!

I'm not sure why I suddenly feel so miserable to work.  I started this job about a year and a half ago.  I took it because it is closer to my family and pays a lot more than my old job, but...I loved my old job.  I've never been ecstatic here, but lately, I just don't want to go.  Today, I left for work in tears.  I don't know why all of the sudden it's more than I can bear.

As for the boyfriend, well, everything is technically fine in our relationship.  He relocated to Virginia from FLorida for me (and my job, blech) and we live together are committed and we have talked about the future and marriage.  We are 33, so we are definitely at the marrying age.  We had a great Valentine's day, flowers, cards, candy, dinner out, the whole deal.  Lots of time together.  I loved it, but I couldn't help but wonder if there was a ring in my future... which there wasn't.

All of this sadness and anxiety makes me so tired!  And then I just want to sit on the couch and eat...I just don't know how to turn things around.

Aww, Brandi!

I am sorry you are having a rough day....well, a rough time, actually.  Maybe you can talk to your doctor about the way you are feeling and he can prescribe something to get you through this rough patch.  It doesn't make you a failure and it really does wonders for people (myself included!).

Have you ever talked to your boyfriend about marriage?

Jersey Mom

Ya know what? It IS hard!

Im so grateful for the 75lbs wls has afforded me to get off, but I get really jealous of people who seem to be able to get to goal so easily.

Im at the point where Im dieting just like pre op.

Just want to tell you to keep trying. It took me a good two months of trying...yes, it was half-assed...before it took.

As far as exercise, I started with Zumba. I needed to actually sign up and pay for something that I had to go to. There are all sizes, abilities and age ranges in that class. The good thing is just moving is good. you can either do a little kick or jump up and down as hard as you can. Ive made 'friends' to the point of people asking where I was if I miss a class! AND, it actually is fun. I signed up thru my local parks and rec. If youre interested, check the Zumba website. They have all the classes listed.

Good luck to you!!!! You can do this!

I hear you.... It is hard.  Nobody say it would be easy.  Except Dr Oz... ... (moron)...

As for the BF... well.. he showed you he is there for you... how long you have been together? Maybe it is time to talk to him about that. And see where he is with that?  6 months? one year? If you guys want children... then you better start working on that. If not - why a piece of paper is important to you?  What would that give you that the current situation does not? people get married, but they also get divorced as fast.  Marriage does not guarantee long term love and respect. 

 Everybody has such good advice this morning.  I am just going to pass on a lot of {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}!