Back On Track Together
Im Confused
Im Confused, frustrated ANGRY (mostly at myself) and I am tired of starting over starting over starting over. I HAVE TO GET THIS RIGHT!! Where do i start. I have not been to the sight or motivated since June, 2010. I had a Rouen Y August 2011 loss weight was feeling great and gained weight back. I am so pissed with myself and so frustrated. I wanted to just throw my hands up and be fat an unhealthy because I felt hopeless. I know that I can do this. BUT I can not do this alone. I am a single parent with a 13 year old. I know I am nto the first or last parent out there going throgh and wanting better for myself and my child. Im tired of riding this pity horse. WHERE do I start.....somebody please help me.
Yolanda Calicutt - 41 (about to be 42) - Chicago, Illinois
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Yolanda Calicutt - 41 (about to be 42) - Chicago, Illinois
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Hi Yolanda!
First-- just acknowledge that yes, you are mad and frustrated-- but you are HUMAN and we've all learned that it is the mental struggle that is the hardest part. Please stop beating yourself up!
A good step is to take a few days and write down what you are eating in the course of a normal day. Don;t try to 'be good' for this-- eat like you have been and journal it. Use a program online (I use one on my iphone called Tap & Track) like Fitday (its free) and at the end of each day get a look at your intake. Also keep track of what activities you are doing.
I always thought to myself "I'm not eating that much! Why am I screwing this up?" until I did this and realized I was GRAZING all day long and it all added up to about 2200 calories a day! And I had stopped walking!
I also finally went to get medical help for depression.
The best step you can take is to be honest with yourself. We have a wonderful tool that can help us once we conquer our head hunger.
Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. :)
First-- just acknowledge that yes, you are mad and frustrated-- but you are HUMAN and we've all learned that it is the mental struggle that is the hardest part. Please stop beating yourself up!
A good step is to take a few days and write down what you are eating in the course of a normal day. Don;t try to 'be good' for this-- eat like you have been and journal it. Use a program online (I use one on my iphone called Tap & Track) like Fitday (its free) and at the end of each day get a look at your intake. Also keep track of what activities you are doing.
I always thought to myself "I'm not eating that much! Why am I screwing this up?" until I did this and realized I was GRAZING all day long and it all added up to about 2200 calories a day! And I had stopped walking!
I also finally went to get medical help for depression.
The best step you can take is to be honest with yourself. We have a wonderful tool that can help us once we conquer our head hunger.
Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. :)
Hello there Yolanda!!!
You have taken the 1st big step by coming here and venting your frustration. We all have these days. I am sure you meant to say you had your surgery in 2001. and no doubt you thought once you had surgery the struggle would be over. But as we all have learned, it takes hard work and dedication to this to keep our weight off. I had my RNY in 2004 and ended up gaining 80 of my 300 pounds lost back over the last 3 years and I decided no way was I going to be like others I have meet over the years and they had gained all of their weight back and one guy is bigger now.
So March of this year I decided that in 2011 I was not gaining weight. So I will end this year losing about 30 pounds. It has been sooooo hard. I have been yo-yoing but I think that I am finally stabilizing and going to commit to losing weight more consistently and stop worrying about being perfect. So this will be the 1st year I have not gained any weight.
I am happy with that, but I want even more for 2012. I am going to do better this year. This is going to be the year I get in the 200's! And stay under the 200's. one pound at a time. One day at a time. You can do it to. See I never reached my goal. When I got down to about 310, I might as well have weight 190 I was so happy! and felt good and I still feel good and happy about my accomplishments but as I stated I am not satisfied and I want it all and some and I am going to get what I want.
I have did several things to get back on track. Started posting here regularly which lead me to many other sites and I took some back on track sessions, started back going to my support groups monthly. I am not sure where you live in Chicago, but Little Company of Mary Hospital has supports groups each month for people over a year out. I will be there this Tuesday @ 7 if you want to join us. Look on their website for the address or send me a message and I will email you the info. You can do this Yolanda. BTW, my name is Yolanda too......:-) My nick name is Molly so I use that instead of my real name,
It is not going to me easy babe, but nothing worth having in life comes easy. You can do it. Just never give up. Never give up! I will be sending you and invitation to Myfitnesspal.com where i log my food and exercise and get support there also. I am Mollie on there also.
Sorry about the duplicate emails I sent to you on here. I came back and thought I had not sent the email and I sent same email twice. Have a wonderful weekend and I will keep you in my prayers.
You have taken the 1st big step by coming here and venting your frustration. We all have these days. I am sure you meant to say you had your surgery in 2001. and no doubt you thought once you had surgery the struggle would be over. But as we all have learned, it takes hard work and dedication to this to keep our weight off. I had my RNY in 2004 and ended up gaining 80 of my 300 pounds lost back over the last 3 years and I decided no way was I going to be like others I have meet over the years and they had gained all of their weight back and one guy is bigger now.
So March of this year I decided that in 2011 I was not gaining weight. So I will end this year losing about 30 pounds. It has been sooooo hard. I have been yo-yoing but I think that I am finally stabilizing and going to commit to losing weight more consistently and stop worrying about being perfect. So this will be the 1st year I have not gained any weight.
I am happy with that, but I want even more for 2012. I am going to do better this year. This is going to be the year I get in the 200's! And stay under the 200's. one pound at a time. One day at a time. You can do it to. See I never reached my goal. When I got down to about 310, I might as well have weight 190 I was so happy! and felt good and I still feel good and happy about my accomplishments but as I stated I am not satisfied and I want it all and some and I am going to get what I want.
I have did several things to get back on track. Started posting here regularly which lead me to many other sites and I took some back on track sessions, started back going to my support groups monthly. I am not sure where you live in Chicago, but Little Company of Mary Hospital has supports groups each month for people over a year out. I will be there this Tuesday @ 7 if you want to join us. Look on their website for the address or send me a message and I will email you the info. You can do this Yolanda. BTW, my name is Yolanda too......:-) My nick name is Molly so I use that instead of my real name,
It is not going to me easy babe, but nothing worth having in life comes easy. You can do it. Just never give up. Never give up! I will be sending you and invitation to Myfitnesspal.com where i log my food and exercise and get support there also. I am Mollie on there also.
Sorry about the duplicate emails I sent to you on here. I came back and thought I had not sent the email and I sent same email twice. Have a wonderful weekend and I will keep you in my prayers.
HW 611 Pre-opW 580 LW 302 GW 238
Hi Yolanda!
All is not lost! We all get off track, it happens. You need to get back to the basics. Protein, water, vitamins, exercise. Take a few minutes and read Cathy's discussion at the top of the forum. You need to document your meals, in advance. This way you know what you're going to eat for the day. Start exercising, even if it's just walking.
You CAN do this!
Deb :)
All is not lost! We all get off track, it happens. You need to get back to the basics. Protein, water, vitamins, exercise. Take a few minutes and read Cathy's discussion at the top of the forum. You need to document your meals, in advance. This way you know what you're going to eat for the day. Start exercising, even if it's just walking.
You CAN do this!
Deb :)
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