Never say "never" (cross post)

Last evening, I heard that a dear friend of mine lost her battle with Morbid Obesity and died in her sleep.  She was only 42.  I had reconnected with her in March and here is what she said at that time: 
"I had roux en y in 91, i was @ 492, lost 180, went thru a depression, figured out how to get around the wls and gained 80.  I then went 2 OA lost 50, had a long winter and gained 20.  Just started physical therapy this week, hoping 2 get under 300 so i can get a knee replacement."

She had sleep apnea and was losing the battle with the constant pain she was in.  She was a very lovely, kind, gentle free spirit and wise soul.  She will be missed greatly.

My point in telling you all this is to show that "xxxx lbs. gone FOREVER" is only true if you are vigilant and walk the walk and make permanent lifestyle changes.  My friend was really trying, but she lost the battle.  It will ALWAYS be a battle.  Keeping to this board and seeking support in all forms is KEY.  I had invited her to the board and to our local support meetings, but it never happened.

I am also aware that in 1991, many surgeon's did not provide the great after-care that many today provide.  My friend's story is a sad and cautionary tale.

I am so sorry for your lost Bert.  Thanks for posting this much need reminder that we are never rid of the beast.  We can control it and that is what I am learning to do.  Control the beast is imperative.  That is why I do face to face groups and telephone WLS groups.  I will never go unconnected again and I will continue weighing myself daily to make sure I am on point.  

I had gained back 80 pounds and desperately trying to re-lose it.  But it is hard but I am not giving up on myself.  One day at a time.   

Thanks again. 

Thank you, Molly.

We CAN do this!  Support is KEY!

Sorry for your loss, Dawn.  And yes,you are so right when you say that you must walk to the walk and talk the talk to keep those pounds off forever!  I have not lost a close friend to obesity at this time but my life was crazy 5 years ago prior to this life saving surgery.  Your message is great and wanted you to know that!

Thanks for sharing your friend's story.  Her struggle is a true testament to us all.  I remember being a newly post op and believing "gone forever"... sitting here 39 lbs heavier than my lowest... I know firsthand that's not a true statement.  This is a lifelong battle.  One day at a time. 
Lift prayers for you and your friends family.