Trying not to let tragedy mess me up

So this time last week my family and I found out that my oldest brother was killed in an accident, he was only 33 years old. We were devastated...I'm still in shock...feeling pretty numb.

The past 2 days I have eaten a few bites of 'starchy foods'  here and there. Enough to make my body feel like crap. I promised myself that if something like this happened in my life that I would NOT let it derail my healthy eating habits.
Now I get to detox my body of crappy carbs and get back to a high protein low carb lifestyle.
Oh yeah, and I'm not getting enough water...I think that is another reason my body is rebelling.

Prayers for strength would be most appreciated.
Any good ways to detox the body of refined carbs?? Cold turkey?? or with the help of herbal teas?

I am 15 months postop and have 9 lbs left to lose to get to my personal goal of 150 lbs. My surgeon wants me between 135 and 145lbs.

Thanks for listening to me vent.

~Amy

(((( HUGS))).. 

There's no rhyme nor reason to this sort of tragedy, sending warm thoughts and sympathy...

Thank you, everyone for the kind words.

Not only do I love learning all the cool stuff on the message boards, but I love the support on here.

Thank you again.

(((((HUGS))))) 

When more important issues take over its hard to think about managinh a food plan.  Hang in there.  This wls thing stays with us through everything else for better or worse.  You can do this cause you must do this. 

My condolences to you and your family. 

Amy, I'm very sorry about your loss. Lisa is right about the many reasons that you might be feeling so bad.  My only advice is to stick to the basics of your program as much as possible.  Protein first to fill you up, hydrate, sleep as much as possible and get out there and take some walks to help soothe you.  Ask friends and family to come walk with you if that would work for you.

sending hugs and prayers for the healing of your family

(((HUGS)))

I lost my older brother 30 years ago... I still can't mentally go back to that time.  It hurts. He was 28. Died in March 1981 in a commercial plane accident.   Horrible time. My sis  and I tried to talk about that a couple a years ago.  We were able to talk about that time. But not much. 

It was very hard for me to accept his death.  Still it is.   (((HUGS)))
 

Amy I am so very, very sorry about this terrible loss.

There are a lot of reasons your body might "feel like crap" and 99.999% of those reasons have to do with grief.  If you're crying a lot, it's easy to get dehydrated.  Depressed people don't move around much, which throws off an already-skewed metabolism, and lack of really good, healing sleep complicates things further.  When we feel extraordinarily sad, there are a lot of things we tend not to do for ourselves, and it's totally normal (unfortunately) for our bodies to let us know just how wrong things are, overall.

In short, grieving people tend to feel awful physically, as well as emotionally.

It's probably not just a few mouthsful of "crappy carbs" here and there.

I remember that when my sister died, I told a therapist that I just wanted to stop hurting, and could she please tell me how to do that?  (I was fairly young at the time)

Please be extra kind to yourself.  Try to turn in early and get a little extra sleep.  Eat well.  Drink enough fluids.  And post back to let us know how things are going.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Do kind things for yourself and let yourself feel the pain.  It has to come out in order for it to subside.

Take care of yourself, your brother would want you to.