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Must be nice to see Ben in your son.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Luckily, BFF is a ride or die friend of 40+ years. We had a chat today. All is well in our world. One thing is that is true about the relationship he and I have is that I will never fully understand his anxiety, depression, and proclivity to catastrophize. I empathize, but I don't really "get" it.
on 4/18/25 8:39 pm
Peps, we should hook up your bff and my almost-former friend/neighbor. They would get along famously! Or, it would be like crossing the streams from the Ghostbusters proton packs and be very bad...
I wondered if we were making very slight headway with olive twigs (not branches), but today the HOA sent out the new fine schedule significantly upping the fine for operating a customer-based business from your home. It was $25 which is no deterrent. It's now $5000. Otherwise, why wouldn't they just pay the fine and keep breaking the rule? If she stops by July 1st, the fine is $0!
She texted me (I don't feel like cleaning up her typos): did you and other board members approve the document just sent out or is this just martha (the president) who did it?
Me: She signed it, but HOAMCO (our management co) and the board gave input and approved it.
Her: you and the board truly are vindictive!
Her: his teaching doesnt hurt anyone in our neighborhood!!!
Me: Amy, It's not meant to be vindictive, it's meant to deter and also covers short term rentals which are another form of commercial business. If the CC&Rs are followed, there will be no fines applied.
Honestly, the "you" in "you and the board truly are vindictive" stung. This isn't on me, but I am a convenient target for her. There are no fines if she complies with the rule they are breaking by July 1st, which is very generous I think. I am less and less inclined to want to try to keep her as a friend. And while I would be happy to sit down and try to help her understand any part of this, I don't think she can absorb anything but what feeds her sense of being a victim rather than responsible for not abiding by the rules she agreed to.
On a more interesting topic, the weather here is bonkers. After 87 degrees last weekend, it snowed again today. I posted someone else's video from today on TT. Stunning!
So nothing else here, just dealing with text-induced adrenaline spikes that leave me a shaky mess and trying to stay warm despite Kirby wanting to go outside to sniff all the wet smells and wanting me to join him.
Take care all...
Greetings all
A cloudy day has turned sunny. Almost t shirt weather. I got DH to take our big bed cover to the laundry today so it will be washed and dried tonight. Dog dirt was getting pretty bad though it does not show. You have to take it early to insure getting it back the same day. Hence DH. i don't do anything early. Later he went off to the Romeo lunch and brought home a big burrito. It will be dinner for both of us. Then I went to the studio and played with some clay. Ho hum. Another day. Skipped the gym. Gallery duty all day tomorrow so may get to walk the ramp there if there are slow moments.
Liz I can envision that mural re-done as a colorful sunrise or sunset. ( like a CC photo). Imagine bands of color instead of grey. I agree it looks a bit gloomy. Or just get rid of it. Mirror frames look nice. Post what you decide.
Friday high weight day Peps. Makes sense for a lot of reasons. Boo to BFF for creating too much drama over trip arrangements. Did he ever hear of Uber? i have gotten pretty weary of such drama lately as it occurs frequently at gallery. We need a drama free zone. Hope Ron makes it safely though the Easter weekend marathon. What ever happened to Day of Rest?
So we are going to a nice restaurant for Easter dinner. Thats it. I was going to buy some Peeps to share but have not even gotten that done.
Paula nice to have some grown up couple friends. Enjoy. As we age we have fewer and fewer of those.
Enjoy the theater DD. So cool that you have lots of it to sample. How many more days for you?!!
Not much else. I need to investigate in the back yard as I think the dogs are tunneling under the shed. Lord knows what else is under there.
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My high weight for the week is usually Friday, too. Not sure if it's related to the school week and availability of "free food" at school, or if it is because shot day is Thursday, or if it's a combination of the two. Either way, today was my high for the week: 206.0 That's up 2.5 from Monday.
So, when I gain weight for no real rhyme or reason my disordered thinking starts to kick in. I generally get one of two messages. One is, "Well, F it! Might as well eat what you want. Doesn't seem to matter what you do." The other is, "Cut back. Cut waaaay back. You don't need to eat. Just get in enough protein and starve during the day and leave enough spare calories for ice cream. Remember, keep those calories LOW!" Today I was gifted the F It message. LOL! I actually prefer the starvation message, but it seems to depend what's going on in my life.
Yesterday, BFF irritated the bejeebers out of me. I was pissed when we hung up. He was ready to cancel his entire trip this summer because I was not going to be available to pick him up from the airport when he returns. Yes, I had told him I would, but I had an opportunity to make a trip to Ohio with a friend for a 5 day dog show at which one of my good friends will judge. I jumped on the opportunity and figured it would be no big deal. You'd think I had promised his first born child to the gypsies! He told me I caused his whole trip to go to **** Can you say rigid and tantrum? His lack of flexibility and extreme anxiety are wearing thin for me. Plus, he refuses to seek psychological help. "It's just the way I'm wired," is the all encompassing excuse. So.... being frustrated and peeved led to less than stellar eating yesterday. Non planned food included the following: 2 brownie bites, 1 home made cheddar jalepeno cornbread muffin (delicious!!!!), a cafeteria "healthy" strudel courtesy of the lunch lady (she leaves me treats while I'm on yard duty - DD should understand this), and a few spoonfuls of ice cream that were not part of the plan.
Exercise has been great this week. I've upped weights and added a few new moves to start sculpting body parts and hopefully filling up some loose skin in the chest area. The belly skin I'm hoping to just get as deflated as possible.
Ron's Easter hell has begun. It actually starts for him on Wednesday with the final choir rehearsal before all the masses start. Last night was Holy Thursday service, today i have no idea how many masses he will do for Good Friday. Tomorrow is the Easter Vigil. Sunday I think he is doing only 2 masses, but by then he will be utterly exhausted. It will take him half the week to recover. Historically he falls asleep Easter Sunday afternoon - no matter where we are or where he's sitting. One year he even fell asleep sitting at the picnic table in my brother's backyard before we were done with Easter lunch.
29 more work days. 
126.something. Tried a new protein bar today that I ordered off Tik Tok. David brand. I got the sample pack. First one I tried was pretty good and the macros are awesome. 150 calories, 28 grams of protein, 1.5 grams of fat and 14 grams of carbs.
Tonight we're going out for pizza with friends and then coming back to our place for drinks and game night. They are really our only "couple" friends and we have a great time with them. Too bad the relationship between our sons didn't work out!
No plans for tomorrow except for DC1 coming over for dinner. I'm itching to go hiking outside but don't think it will be nice enough (by my standards).
Sunday we are going to make the 3 hour trip to my brother's and have Easter dinner with him, his wife and Mom and then back home the same day. We will bring DC1 with us. I'm missing DS3. I see/talk to him the least. School keeps him busy but even on the rare occasion he comes home, he holes himself up in his room. Him being on the spectrum is more and more evident as he gets older. So much like his Dad in his intellect, quirks and social awkwardness! I miss Ben too!
Enjoy the weekend everyone and for those that celebrate, have a joyous Easter!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
Those look really nice CC!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
I had looked at this site in the past but I do think Nick can do it for less (it was pretty cheap when I did it at my other place).
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
on 4/18/25 9:14 am
I did some of these in my last house: https://mirrormate.com
Probably less expensive to have it done by someone working on the bathroom, but great for a DIY update to a bathroom! They just stick on.
Yes, that dark brooding grey tone does not fit your style. Now that this is your home home, it should align with your tastes. I like the framed mirror look too. We have the big builders grade mirror in our bathroom, and I think it would look upgraded if we trimmed it. DH is worried he'd ruin the mirror. So it sitz, looking as it does...
I'm off to do a little real store browsing. Maybe they'll be something awesome on the clearance racks. Part of the thrill.
Tonight we're going to a play at The History Theater in St. Paul.I've never seen anything at this venue, but they are usually well reviewed.
The weight loss hasn't been as arduous as I was expecting. I'm .4 away from what I consider the top of my range. That's a relief. Onward! ( or should I say, downward).
