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So my Mom had a BFF who has passed away. Her daughter had a challenging relationship with her own mother, ( the BFF) but loved mine. She just called , drunk, wondering why I hadn't told her my mother passed, that she had to learn about it from another friend, that she had a pact with my Mom that my mother would call her if she needed anything, but she didn't call, that she and my mother had long talks but what they talked about, she wasn't going to say. Well, that was fun. Can't wait to see her at the funeral.
120 on the dot again.
Started the day with water aerobics, a little time sunning by our pool and then DH and I went shopping for a golf cart. Our new ride should be delivered next week!
Sickness is still lingering. I felt more congested and fatigued again today and did take a bit of a nap this afternoon. Big Mac salad for dinner.
Hope your sickness doesn't become worse Liz. And boo that CC and Bonnie are still struggling with their sickness too. Whatever this is, it is a bugger!
Sorry you are having so much discomfort Peps. And yeah, the weight gain if from surgery for sure. I know I was up quite a bit even with belly and thigh skin removed!
Enjoy your time with DS before the cruise Liz! I guess every year there is a ladies cruise with gals from my community. Sounds fun but I want to prioritize getting together with all of you first! Are we still thinking Sedona in the Spring? If so, we should set dates and perhaps get a Airbnb to house at least some of us!
DD, I know this time is difficult and overwhelming with things to do. Your Dad sounds like he is still in shock really. It may not really sink in for him until the funeral is over and he is alone. Like Diane said, take time for self care too. I'm glad DH can be with you. He indeed is a rock and a rock star! You two were made for each other!
Yay for big sun Diane and leftover pizza! We have a fridge full of leftovers right now. That is what is for dinner tomorrow night!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
on 1/9/26 4:21 pm
My mind mostly ignores the bad years at the end and focuses on the good years. I hope the same is true for you! 
on 1/9/26 4:19 pm
Heat the water a bit in the microwave - makes all the difference in comfort!
I am so relieved after meeting with the funeral director. My parents attended church all my life, but in the last years, they were not connected to any church in the area. How was I going to plan a funeral that reflected this part of them? The funeral director told me that there was a pastor right next door who worked with him in these situations, and he came and met with us. Such a nice man. The service will be as it should be.
My Dad is still talking nonstop about anything that pops into his head. He decided to come with me to plan the service. It was somewhat crazy, but I powered through some of his monologues, and other times let him speak. Then he decided I needed to meet his banker, and more monologues. She was lovely, and deserves a medal. He took a nap when we got back, and then went for his walk as it is 33 degrees.
DB came over and he is also processing verbally all the things. He struggled as much as I did with the chaos and dysfunction these last years. We keep telling each other we did the best we could.
So he could stay with me last night, DH drove back to Minneapolis this morning at 5am to go to work. It was the last day he was working his part time shift before his 6 week leave. He went to our house and after his shift, and now he's on his way here again. I am anxiously waiting. He is a rock, and a rockstar.
These last years the chaos and pain was so overwhelming that I would tell DH I can't remember anymore who they used to be. Today some of the memories are coming back. As I walk around the house I study pictures of earlier times. And I remember there were happy times too. Maybe those will memories will move to the forefront again one day.
Today's quote:
Remember when old ones died, and new were born And life was changed, disassembled, rearranged ~ Remember When by Alan Jackson
Again, Thank you for all the caring and support. It means everything.
Greetings all
More big sun which allegedly will remain for a number of days. Truly a mood lifter. DH is at lunch with his buddies and will likely bring home pizza. I will be making chili for studio buddy who is coming over at 4 to watch football. Hopefully DH can wrestle away her phones and so the transfer on our high speed wi fi so she will stop fussing about it.
Goodness you sinus infection victims! Hoping it resolves soon. Liz you don't need that lingering on the cruise. Hope you can get a bit of rest.
CC the nose car wash sounds more and more appealing. Maybe I will get our Navage, though my cold seems to have passed. I am back to my ordinary sinus issues. And wow a 750 lb piece of stone!! Sounds beautiful. Need a pic. Lucky you to have such a good contractor.
Peps weight gain comes after surgery I think because they have you on an iv and pump you full. Hoping your pain subsides soon. No pain no gain, right?
Thinking of DD and all she has to do. Wonderful obit posted on TT. Don't forget to include a bit of self care in the preparations.
I am beginning the ritual of washing the dog blankets which have become the same color as the back yard dirt. And now the dogs are asking to go out - no doubt to discover additional dirt.
DS
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5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
I don't think I have ever come out of surgery with out a weight gain. Liz is right. Fluids all the way. Power through, friend. Face lift is like having a baby; when you see the results all will be forgotten!
DEFINITELY fluid! Not a good time to weigh. The discomfort will pass but the first few days are quite uncomfortable. I think I didn't focus on it much other than the headache because I had a tummy tuck at the same time so I noticed that discomfort more.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
