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I think you are so right that what your friend will need his social support. When my FIL was widowed, some of their friends seemed to just forget about him. He ended up making a whole new friend group at the Officer's Club (he was retired Air Force Major). The weekly lunch with DH will be something very helpful for him most likely. Maybe a monthly or biweekly dinner invitation so he knows he can count on that? I suspect the evenings are sometimes the hardest.
Yes, it was wonderful and a chance to catch up with him 1:1. He is my chatter!
Yes, DH does love entry level hoarding (no actual garbage, or unsanitary things, but so. much.stuff) .Our agreement is to limit it to certain spaces. The garage rule is, there is a spot where I can safely park my car, and nothing can impede my doing that. I am not scrapping snow and ice off my car in the winter. His car sits on the driveway, because his parking spot is full of important stuff, like old kids bikes and toys.
Greetings all
Love everyone's Christmas reports. We had a nice day with our bereaved friend and the group of 8. Host shed some tears during a toast to his deceased wife but overall the day was pleasant. Their entire house is imbued with her spirit. She does tons of holiday decorating and it's all over. Multiple decorated trees, abuout 25 elf soft toys on the buffet, lights and all manner of Christmas fru fru. Host held up pretty well and their housekeep/friend took command of cooking and clean up. I wanted to make sure he was not left with a mess but no worries. I offered to help him with and business and paperwork as I used to do all that for a living. Our other friends are good and gifts were exchanged.
So we are trying to think of what else to do for our bereaved friend. He and DH and one other guy do lunch every friday and they will keep that up. Some of our friends are making a schedule of people taking meals to him though in truth it may not be the real need since she kept a huge pantry and had a full sized freezer in the kitchen and a packed refrigerator. I think company might be more important. Anyone have any ideas? We may offer to help take down the christmas stuff since it's loads of stuff and he has Parkinson's disease and is a bit shaky.
DD what a great gift from your DH - NYT. What an absolute treat! Don't you just love that smell of a freshly opened newspaper!!! We used to get the SF Chronicle here and maybe should start again. Sorry to hear that your Mom had a meltdown. Seems fairly common for an older person to become angry at their limitations; none of which are your fault or within your control. Good ideas on the leftovers. Glad the other company was fun.
Ditto Liz, a little kid at Christmas is such a hoot. Always makes Christmas more fun. We had wrestling dogs.
Well Peps, guess you learned not to drink evening coffee. Occasional reminder needed. And Yay on the garage reaching crisis proportions so that Ron will cooperate. As I have mentioned my DH is a junior hoarder and our garage is beyond crisis. Full blown disaster. Ditto ever other room.
Paula all sounds good with your group. That scan cannot be soon enough.
I plan to get back to gym today and then studio. We have loads of food here as well and should be well fed on reasonably healthy leftovers for days. I made waldorf salad with a fairly light dressing so thats healthy.
We started the series Ripley" last night. It's good but peculiar. Black and white and rather artsy but there is a plot and it is well done.
Trying to do some year end banking and our bank has changed its bill pay system and it's all FFFkked up. Another day on tech support I guess.
We discovered that one of our group needed a ride home last night and she lives very near us. So another good person to add to my playgroup. She left her purse in our car so DH took it back this AM.
Not much else. It's raining and will do so for a few days. Good time for indoor activities.
Diane S
I think I have finally hit that "age" where I have to be careful about caffeine intake in the evening. Booooooo!
Yeah coffee (or anything with caffeine) is always a problem for me.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Oh, I love this day, too!!! It's the best. Maybe it is the teacher in us? But it is the first day I truly feel like vacation has come! Nothing pressing, the house is over all clean (except for the garage and paperwork on my desk), and I can putter about feeling no pressure!
Sorry about your parents. It sounds a bit like they have some dementia starting along with the physical limitations they have. My dad no longer seems to have anger issues, but he still perseverates about things on occasion and can "over react" to emotional triggers.
Enjoy your day and your dinner with your old roomies!
Happy Boxing Day! I am actually going to be boxing up some old clothes today and getting them ready for an early morning run to Good Will tomorrow.
214.5 Down a bit more from yesterday. This is more the downward trend I would like to see. I made sure to get 50 grams of protein in before going off for our Christmas festivities. Dinner was mostly protein and vegetables, but I did have a wonderful sampling of all the deserts. Tirzepatide has NOT made me sugar averse. Frankly, I still love the flavor and taste of all foods as much as I did before going on the med. I just understand my limitations much better on the med.
Our garage clutter has finally reached the untenable level for Ron, too. He had not put the wrapping paper box back in its place and it was lost somewhere in the midst of boxes, bags, etc... I was greatly amused. He was not. But that means I will now have help in getting things cleaned up and organized. The last time I did a section of the garage, he filled it up within two weeks. I threw up my hands and just went with it. Our living areas are kept clutter free. Like Diamond D. I pick my battles. I think her DH has a "collection" problem, too????
Made a tactical error last night and asked my brother in law for a small cup of coffee around 8 pm knowing I had an hour drive ahead. I drank that half cup of coffee (that was kind of espresso like) and was wide awake until 2:30. I forced myself to go to bed even though I wasn't the least bit tired! At least I did not lie in bed wide awake. I loathe that. I suffered from insomnia for many years. Lying in bed awake brings that all back. The morning came all too quickly, but I made myself get up so I would not have a repeat tonight! I can easily switch to staying up until the wee hours... Not a habit I wish to take up again.
I hope everyone can relax today and do what makes her happy!
PS - We all know what Ozempic Face is, right? I believe I have Ozempic hands! Or maybe, just maybe it's age?
What a great gift from your DH! The online version of the NYT (or any paper) just isn't the same.
I am sorry your day with your parents was so stressful. It's too bad they are both in the same state of denial about their capabilities.
Leftovers would be nice - I am definitely missing that now that we are back to the house and a mostly empty refrigerator. DH has ribs to eat that he picked up at his DD's home but I don't like them. Maybe eggs will look appealing by dinner time? Unfortunately I started the day with eggs so I'm just not sure.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
You have had a busy last few days with all the kids there. I bet that Coffee Shop date was nice and relaxing.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish