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142.0. Body wants to hold on to the weight again! Getting these last 12 pounds off is going to be a challenge I fear!
Have some errands to run today (Christmas gift return and grocery shopping). Tonight will be the Hibachi birthday dinner and then we will be mostly empty nesters again (except when DC1 has off work).
Overall an enjoyable Christmas. Temps are supposed to warm up which will be nice for taking down the outside decorations. I'll probably work on the inside ones starting tomorrow.
DH hasn't had any more vertigo symptoms since cutting down on his caffeine consumption, fingers crossed that that will do the trick!
Safe travels back to FL Liz and happy birthday CC. Enjoy your dinner out!
119.6 - no real damage from Christmas eating. The joys of GLP meds!
Happy Birthday CC! I hope you enjoy your entire day and your dinner out at that favorite restaurant. And that the tourists aren't too annoying. We are quiet on Cape Cod right now, but July and the beginning of August are tough here. Florida is busy January to March, which is part of why I enjoy the fall there so much. My brother's birthday is also today.
I was in a funk yesterday. I think it was a combination of realizing I won't see the kids for quite a few months and missing deceased BIL, DH, and DD. Today we are going to my SIL's home (near my former one) to hang around, exchange presents and go to dinner with her and my other SIL and BIL (who were absent on Christmas Day). It is our next to last full day here.
Have a Festive Friday!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
I know what you mean about thinking you can eat more than you can. I try to use a small plate at home to avoid serving myself too much but still overdo sometimes. But when I get it right I often worry that I haven't given myself enough and that DH will take the rest and I will still be hungry (never happens). So weird.
Those candles look cool! I have to try and remember them for next year!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Some great ideas from the others on how your friend can keep from being isolated. Someone else going with him or encouraging things like joining new groups such as Meetup may be necessary though. Like Paula, I took the initiative to reach out but many don't. A high school friend of mine lost her husband 3 years ago and is still wallowing in grief. Unfortunately she has MS and lives in a town rather remote so her contact with friends is generally by phone or social media.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
on 12/26/24 7:46 pm
'Twas a nice day after Christmas. I slept in (thank you, Kirby!) and lounged in my jammies until I heard the propane truck out front and remembered I have a slow leak and needed to tell them. I went to run outside and realized my lazy morning meant I was still in my flannel Christmas doggy PJs. So quick run to throw clothes on and caught him before he left. They need to send the repair guys out.
Then we ran errands. I so despise thoughtless tourists and they have descended on Sedona for what is generally the busiest week of the year here. So after wending through all the poorly parked hiker's cars, I was almost past the worst of it until 4 off-road OHVs were parked in the middle of the road taking selfies of themselves! They were waving me around them except it's on a blind hill which was full of oncoming tourist jeeps. I had had it by this point in the drive and laid on my horn. Claudia laughed and said at least she knows I come by my lack of patience honestly (pointing at my dad). I can't wait for this week to be over and will be leaving the house as little as possible!
We had leftovers for dinner and my eyes were as ever bigger than my appetite. Such a disconnect there.
Tomorrow is my birthday and we're going to my favorite restaurant for dinner. Hooray for making reservations 6 weeks in advance!
My best present was something really cool called Foton Pearled Candles. You can pour this candle wax that is the consistency of sand in any flame-safe container, insert one of the wicks they provide and light it. When you're done you can pull out the melted part, give it a little shake, and put in a new wick. It's like brand new. And if it gets knocked over, it goes out. So clever!
Anywho, that's all for me. Hope you all are well!
on 12/26/24 7:29 pm
Can the men friends start a ROMEO lunch or dinner group with him involved (Retired Old Men Eating Out)? Or for awhile band together to have him over to someone's house once a week? Love the idea of helping him pack up the Christmas decorations.
In answer to your question about what to do for your friend, I think time spent with him is the most important thing, especially down the road when most people have moved on with their lives and tend to forget how lonely he might be.
Helping him find new outlets for fun and fellowship would also be nice. I know after Ben died I joined some local groups with people who had like interests. Most communities have ?Meet Up? groups for that very purpose. Sounds like a dating service but isn?t, though I?m sure there are some meet up groups within the Meet Ups that are for finding new love! I joined an outdoor adventure group (hiking, biking, kayaking etc.) and a photography group. They have all sorts of groups from book clubs, to dinner/lunch outings, to gaming groups; something for everyone really! You find them online, www.meetup.com!
I think you are so right that what your friend will need his social support. When my FIL was widowed, some of their friends seemed to just forget about him. He ended up making a whole new friend group at the Officer's Club (he was retired Air Force Major). The weekly lunch with DH will be something very helpful for him most likely. Maybe a monthly or biweekly dinner invitation so he knows he can count on that? I suspect the evenings are sometimes the hardest.
Yes, it was wonderful and a chance to catch up with him 1:1. He is my chatter!
Yes, DH does love entry level hoarding (no actual garbage, or unsanitary things, but so. much.stuff) .Our agreement is to limit it to certain spaces. The garage rule is, there is a spot where I can safely park my car, and nothing can impede my doing that. I am not scrapping snow and ice off my car in the winter. His car sits on the driveway, because his parking spot is full of important stuff, like old kids bikes and toys.