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And just like that, you're moving on! Wow, it feels like it happened swiftly. All good thoughts and energy towards the next chapter in your new home.
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Whelp, we are all but done with the business of real estate. Termite and house inspections completed last Friday morning, realtor said buyers received inspection and expected news very early this week. We got a callback Sunday evening that the buyers had accepted the property "as is", no repairs required. I was expecting to pass back some of the over asking price money for repairs, So super excited about having extra to play with on the new house. Signed final contract is at title company now and we close the 16th.
Packing up china and dainty things now, (if things get broken, better it be my fault, then I don't have to feel bad about someone else doing it). The possession purge continues; Goodwill is scheduled to pick up all the boxes of house hold items and furniture I don't need and St Vinny's has a good lot set aside, too.
Yep, a marvelous Monday, indeed.
Greetings all
It's overcast and kind of cold today. I had to drive to the big city without benefit of coffee to get a blood draw. Boy was that place crowded. Local lab has been taken over by Labcorp and they set up three kiosks with touch screens so everyone had to type stuff in and give scans of drivers license and insurance cards. So I had to wait in line with the other geezers to do this. Y'all can guess how thrilled I was. And after all that you still had to talk to a desk person and answer more questions. Looks like my doctor ordered some bloodwork that medicare won't pay for but my supplement might. Go figure. But I behaved myself as it's not the fault of these workers. After all that I made a beeline to the nearest drive through coffee place. On to the studio, gallery and then to accountant for payroll and back to the studio. Then glazing. Also got some groceries in there. Lots for me. At least this doctor office has an on line account so when blood work comes in they post it in my file with fairly easy to understand items. So maybe I will learn what I was tested for.
DH is napping as he is kind of tired. I attribute it to the overcast day which makes everyone sleepy.
Great hotel Liz. Glad it's a fun time.
Yep DD, parenting the parents can be difficult. I guess they chose how they want to live. It's hard to understand the logic - or lack thereof - of older people but actually there is plenty of that at all ages. My studio buddy does some peculiar rationalizing which I am starting to think is an age issue. Absolutely everything is a crisis (except when there really is one). What I learned from my aging mother is that a flat out head on argument usually does not work and one must be somewhat stealthy. Congrats on the thrift shop scores.
Paula I hope you can indeed grill outside. Much better. Enjoy.
Hamburgers for tonight. We still have some of the costco casserole but we are sick of it.
Yay I get control of the tv for awhile while DH naps.
Diane S
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My MIL was in a similar facility for her last few years thank goodness. It allowed her to live on her own as long as possible (she died at 97).
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
It's sad, but if the adults in question aren't incapacitated, they get to make their decisions. I have to tell myself, they know there are other options, but this is what they choose.
Oh DD, helping manage our aging parents is so difficult. Thankfully my parents moved into an independent living that could become assisted living and memory care if needed on their own. They started out with doing just one meal from assisted living, progressed to doing all meals, having housekeeping and laundry done for them, then help with bathing for Dad (he hated that!). Eventually Dad moved to memory care, went on hospice and died within several months. Mom is still in assisted living and does 2 meals with them, gets breakfast on her own because she doesn't want to get up and ready for breakfast and refuses to go to the dining room in her housecoat without hair done and make up on! They still do laundry and light housekeeping and now manage her meds too as she kept messing them up. Having the ability to add services as needed has been a God send. She also wears a pendant and can ring for help if (when) she falls!
5' 4" tall, HW: 242, SW:215.4 Weight Loss - pre-op: - 26.6, M1: -15.4, M2: -16, M3: -11.4, M4: -11.2, M5: -12.2, M6: -7.4, M7: -7.8, M8: -2.0 Goal of 130 lbs. reached at 8 months, 2 days post-op!
You can only try. Your conversations with your parents sound similar to the ones my stepdaughter would have with her Aunt in her last years. Her aunt never married and her health was really poor in her last years. She was living in a house filled after years of hoarding. She resisted most suggestions my stepdaughter made about getting any help of any type (personal care or help making the house more liveable).
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
No lab tests with HenryMeds so far anyway, though they do ask some health questions at each check-in including my weight.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
I think our group is probably one of the most informed group of lay people around about the ins and outs of safe weight loss. I'm getting my meds through my WLS clinic, they do continue to do blood work. I think they track a few things that arent standard with my PCP, but could probably be done if requested. Where it was once at yearly check up, they are asking for bloodwork every 6 months now, and want to meet with me every 4 months. I get a yearly labs from my oncologist also, so plenty of people are checking my blood! I think the amount of visits at my clinic is overkill, but my insurance covers it and the medication. If it didn't, I would go your route buying from a reputable compounding pharmacy.
We have friends who celebrate their 2nd date anniversary, because it meant the first date went well and they wanted to see each other again :)
The hotel looks splendid and very romantic. 
And how wonderful to have so much to celebrate.
Cool and rainy here, but I have a lot of reading to do, so it works. When we visited the thrift store I saw the book Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty. I've really liked many of her books, so I'm looking forward to reading this. I started watching the series (Pea****) on the plane to Boston, but really just an introduction. I think I will enjoy reading it with the characters already cast in my head. But first, the Sunday paper, because I didn't have time to read it yesterday.
We had our coffee and scone outing, and our look see of St. Vincent's de Paul (also dropped off a donation). Besides the book, I bought a never worn polo shirt from Pebble Beach Pro Shop ($8) and a never worn Miracle Suit swimsuit ($5). Feeling pretty fancy. On the way home we stopped at Chicos to replace a hoodie I lost in Amherst. Of course I didn't loose the Hanes hoodie, it had to be the one from Chicos. I'll wear it frequently when school starts, so I'm happy they still had one in my size.
During my visit with my parents I decided to push things a little. I talked with them about my concerns that my Dad was doing too much and might make himself sick, and my Mom's lack of autonomy because, for example, if my Dad thought something was okay (ex: her car not running) then she just had to live with it. She did have her car towed and fixed, and it was an ugly scene. In his mind, there was no problem with her riding in his pick up, because he made her a step stool to help her get in, even though she has a nice Traverse. We went round and round. My Dad is not opposed to hiring someone to help with some personal care, but not housework, because he's keeping house fine. (He's not). My Mom does not want personal care, she wants housekeeping. The one thing they agreed upon was maybe moving their beds downstairs, into the family room. I asked if they would make the living room (which is unusable and filled with junk again) into a family room. Nope. They would keep their recliners and TV in the family room with the beds, so essentially live in one room (plus the kitchen). It's a 4 bedroom, two story house. They have a stairlift. I now imagine myself sitting on their beds when I visit. Sigh. I am feeling okay today, because I spoke frankly and offered various thoughts and help to make it happen. There's not anything more I can do at this point. I'll try again some other day.
Well, time to dive into the paper!
