Saturday, September 28, 2024

Weight 120.6 (unchanged for 4 days even though I am "resetting" the scale). Weird.

Wedding day! Why do I feel nervous? I am just the mother. I woke up at 4:30 and finally gave up trying to get back to sleep at 5:30. At least it gives me time to get my act together this morning and I did get 7.5 hours of sleep.

We have to get the cake/cupcakes at 10:15, pick up a deli platter for today and quiches for tomorrow at 10:30, and get dropped off at the hair/makeup house at 11. DH and 2 SILs go to the wedding venue to decorate at 11:30. The wedding commences at 4:00 on the beach next to the restaurant where the reception is on the second floor. I hope I make it to the after party!

Why do I keep feeling like I forgot something? Have a stupendous Saturday!

Happy wedding day! I know you will all have a grand time!

Forgot to post yesterday. Got caught up going down a rabbit hole of research regarding being Florida snowbirds vs. permanent residents. Considering staying in WI (possibly near my Mom) for the next several years and spending January-March in Florida as snowbirds. It would give us a better idea of where we want to live, if we even like the FL lifestyle, if we might prefer another warm location etc.

160.1 today, saw a flicker of 159.9 but it landed on 160.1. So close to the next decade.

We are traveling to DH's sister's about 1 1/2 hours away to disperse some of his Mom's estate to them. The joys of being the executor!

Have a great Saturday everyone!

That sounds like a good plan! We made a decision on where to live in Florida quickly because deceased DH already had dementia and I realized he would not be able to stay in a different place every year. We had visited our friends in that community many times so it was already familiar for DH. It was a quick change in retirement plans but made sense with his dementia. We might have made a different decision had that not been the situation.

134.0

If you remember nothing else today, remember this: The minutia is no big deal, so stay in each moment as it happens, and take delight in the altogether goodness of the celebration.

Sending lots of good vibes toward the wedding!

182.4! I looked back at my extensive catalog of prior weights/dates and see the last time I was under 183 was March 23, 2019.

But this is interesting personal insight, 5 other times since I've gotten to just around the normal BMI threshold of 183.8 and stopped losing, then regained. So that "normal" designation is a mental finish line of sorts to me. Like finishing a marathon and going to eat pancakes. I must place too much value in reaching that number and not enough in maintaining it or lower or the health benefits that come with it. Logically I know the work is never done, but mentally I just want to sit down after crossing that line and have a snack as a reward.

Fun to see my friend yesterday and meet his new boyfriend. We had lunch first just my friend and I, then went to the gallery reception, which was a big to-do with champagne, (why can't I spell hors d'oeuvres right and why won't Apple help me!!?). Fancy. I also got to meet the artist who made my painting with the stones/ammonites. She was so nice and fun to talk to.

Kirby did meet his BF's maltipoo, Archie, but Kirby was too much for him. Which Bill said wasn't a bad thing as Archie is normally the bully. I guess he usually likes big dogs, but Kirby and his exuberance was many steps too far. Doesn't help that Kirby's exuberance for new people is as over the top as that for new dogs, so I nearly face planted trying to control him. Sigh. I wish he'd calm down.

We have lunch together today and dinner tonight. I may see them Sunday as well, as Bill wants the BF to see my house. Fun, another Kirby meet (sarcasm). Avoiding it won't make it better in the future, so best just to do my best. I know the common wisdom is to have everyone ignore him. But hard to do when a 70 pound missile of furry muscle is trying to jump inside your skin, knock out your ACLs, and pull me off my feet. Maniac.

I think that's it for me today. I should go walk Kirby as he'll be alone a lot today.

Take care!

Kirby is still a puppy. My stepdaughter's bernadoodle had that kind of exuberance and was difficult to be around when she was 1, but at 3 now she is pretty calm.

Happy, happy wedding day!!! Love the description of the fun the young people are having! Truly celebratory. Best wishes to all.

My wedding started at 4pm, and there were still little details being attended to in the morning. I had lots of feelings, but one of them, standing in the back of the church as the music started was nobody could ask me anymore questions or offer any opinions. Nothing more could be tweaked or changed. What would be would be. It felt so peaceful, and I was able to shift to being in the moment, standing at the altar with my beloved, surrounded by my best friends.

We are in Wisconsin, visiting our son. We met his new girlfriend last night. She was lovely, just lovely. When she went to the restroom, DH joked with son, you're being on your best behavior, right? Son laughed, Yes, she's great, isn't she. He was so relaxed in her presence, and happy. And she seems to really LIKE our DS. And she has a darling dog :) DS has met her family, and apparently got a thumbs up from her brother. She gets a thumbs up from us. :)

Paula I feel you on the snowbirds plans. We had so hoped to be able to afford two homes, one in Minnesota, and one in Florida. I wanted to spend 4-6 months down south, and develop community there too. Join a church, book club etc. Like you, I also considered selling our current house and just moving south, but DH was not on board with this plan. After Covid, my thoughts changed too, and I wanted to keep our Minnesota connection. With housing costs being what they are now, 2 houses are out of reach for us. So what does a new dream look like? It seems you may be in that place too: if you don't relocate, what does a new dream look like for you? We will likely be snowbird nomads, traveling to different places each winter, at least for awhile. And maybe being free to escape the snow and cold whenever you want makes it easier to have a home in a winter state? The next few years will tell.

Yes! Our situation exactly! I think if we snowbird, we will try out different areas, maybe even in the same winter. I could see doing a month each in 3 different places!

I like that idea!

We did that in the first 3 months of 2021 by using the money from renting out DH's Florida home: One month in Hawaii, one month in Arizona, and one month in the Florida Keys. We really enjoyed it - packed too many clothes and had to come home in between month 1 and 2 to get the dog and winter clothes for visiting the Grand Canyon but it was worth it. I would do it again but it does require that you both be healthy and fairly fit. Negotiating airports is not for the infirm. If we didn't have a second home I would do that for multiple years. But I have to admit that at almost age 70 I am looking forward to packing only once and staying put for a few months.