Tuesday, September 17, 2024

Weight 118. 11 days until DD's wedding. DD broke the pinky finger on her ring hand this weekend deflecting a rugby ball which flew into the spectator area (keeping it from hitting her friend's baby). It is rather purple and swollen and I think her ring finger is a little swollen too (not good) - hopefully it will subside by the wedding. Not an unusual occurrence for DD who has always been prone to accidents.

The trash issue isn't getting them to take the regular trash - they are actually really good at taking anything at the curb which is small enough to throw in the truck. But I have about 10 trash cans that need to be thrown out. Maybe I put a label on them in the last week: "Take Me!". DH's house is another story - he has to take everything to the dump as there is no curbside pickup. He has hired someone to remove the junk from his basement as that is where my wardrobe cabinet will reside once it is cleaned in addition to junk being removed. He is de-junking other stuff in the house too including 2 rooms of furniture which will be replaced with my furniture. Their over-stuffed living room will remain that way as the girls like it, but we get to replace the sunroom furniture (as well as the master).

Time to get the trash out to the curb - I have a super full recycling bin and several barrels full. I feel like I have gotten rid of most of the truly excess stuff though I am sure there will be more found in the last packing. Have a terrific Tuesday!

163.8, another smidge down. Yippy!

Putting together the last of my scrapbooks today. I may run out of the plastic page protectors so probably won't get it all done but I definitely see the light at the end of the tunnel!

Weather still picture perfect here, if not a little hot. Have to return some of Mom's online orders and then we plan to go out to eat for dinner. Pretty sad when Red Lobster is one of the better choices for seafood in the area ! Mom is only here for 2 more full days and then I take her home on Thursday.

Liz, sorry to hear about DD's broken pinky! Hopefully all of the bruising and swelling will be gone by the wedding! You've done such a great job on getting rid of stuff! Wanna come my way and tackle my basement?

LOL - there are people who actually do it professionally (sorting for you). My stepdaughter hired someone to do that in her aunt's home. Not my cup of tea!

Good Seafood is hard to come by in this part of the country, although I do like white fish from the Great Lakes. I've been to one fish boil in my life (in Door County). I prefer my white fish in fish and chips form :)

You have to experience a Door County fish boil at least once but in my opinion the only part worth eating is the boiled potatoes and of course the cherry pie! If you do venture to Door County again, I highly recommend Alexander's. I actually had the best seafood I've ever eaten there!

Sadly, Red Lobster was a disappointment tonight. Ordered grilled shrimp and scallop skewers and the scallops were awful and the shrimp dry and over cooked.

Hi, everyone,

Just thought I would pop in for a quick hello--I'm trying to get back into some semblance of a routine. As you can imagine, the last few weeks since my DH's passing have been full, trying to get organized, planning, and of course, grieving the loss of my most wonderful DH. My DD has been staying with me most of the time. Her company in SF not only outright gave her the week and a half my DH spent in the hospital (she was with me the entire time) but then told her she had a 4 week paid bereavement in addition. She has been a Godsend, helping me in so many ways to forge a new path forward. She and her dad were incredibly close, so it has been good for her, too.

Anyway...I'm trying to figure it out as I go. I'll try to pop in every day.

Thanks again, everyone...

Lizanne

So happy you stopped by Lizanne. How great that your daughter has been able to be with you as you both grieve! I remember those first few months after my husband's passing! I swear it was a full time job just to get bank accounts, credit cards, utility services etc. in my name (and for us the death was not a surprise). I wish you strength and peace as you start this new chapter of your life! Please don't hesitate to ask questions, vent, cry, whatever! Several of us ladies have been where you are right now and I am sure any one of us is willing to lend an ear. If you want my private contact information, please just ask for it!

Ditto, Lizanne. DM me for my contact info if you'd like to visit.

For me, grieving was a long, long process. One thing that was so helpful to me was finding a widows/widowers FB group that was exactly the kind of group that matched my needs. There are so many varieties--religious, non-religious, widows and/or widowers, spouses/partners of people who committed suicide, etc. etc. etc. Whatever vibe you're looking for or need, there's at least one great group out there for you.

One of the things I loved about the group I joined was that I didn't know a single soul in that group. That allowed me to be completely unfiltered and receive sincere feedback, whether it was agreement or "here's another way to look at it."

As I'm sure you've read and sensed, there is no right way to grieve or any proper timeline or schedule. Anyone who says you're doing it wrong needs to go jump off a cliff.

May I ask the name of the group? I hadn't thought about joining a FB group, but that's a good idea, thank you!