Monday, June 17, 2024

It feels like we are getting to the end of our vacation though we still have 4 more full days. DD will be here for 2 of them.

We went to breakfast in the morning and had the worst buffet I have ever had because it was all that was available on Father's Day. It was at the new restaurant in our resort so I have to determine the best way to give constructive feedback. At least I didn't eat much... Yesterday afternoon we took DD for a little tour around the island since it is her first time here, including a drive around San Nicolas to view the many murals on the buildings (see below). Last night we ate at the pier with the music. The food was good but the place was rather subdued apparently because Father's Day is a big holiday in Aruba with people gathering at homes. I had a really good beef taco which filled me right up (DH ate the second one).

We are up early this morning. It is only 6:30 am - we are leaving for boating/snorkeling at 8. This is a much larger boat than last time so there is a chance it has stairs to get back out of the water. If so, this time I may be able to snorkel.

Time to get suited up! Have a molendinaceous Monday!

Kirby is itching his ear this morning. Of course I cleaned them yesterday. I remember this with Fergus, cleaning ears which should be a good thing sometimes leading to ear infections. It doesn't look bad (red because he's scratching it, but no debris or inflammation). I put in some thicker enzymatic stuff that you can use for 7 days and it clears things up and is soothing. We've been so lucky with ears and poops (except for the worms/food issue), I thought I had a super golden!

Today the handyman is coming to switch out the fans and fix the drywall. Last call for a free fandelier! I ship!

My house watcher is also coming by to get the key and chat. She is so nice. I really like her. And knows her stuff. She watches two other houses in the neighborhood, so is up here a lot.

Scale was up 1.2! I was very much craving carbs yesterday and my system isn't running as regularly as normal. Must up the water.

Here's a thing that is bugging me a lot. I have often said to my bff who lives 2 hours south that he and/or his longtime partner could come up to the house in the summer when it's 10-15 degrees hotter down there. Now they are no longer together, but the offer obviously still stands for my friend. But post-break up he is casually dating a few guys I have not met. I do not feel comfortable with strangers staying in my house especially if I'm not here. So I said something in the nicest way I could possibly think of and said he was welcome to bring people I know (several of his good friends I know from my old job), but I really would prefer he not bring people I haven't met.

Now he's playing the martyr saying he won't come by himself because he'd be lonely, so don't bother giving him the key. Am I being overly sensitive? I don't know these guys and he barely knows them. Even though I think he's a good judge of character, what if they spilled on my new sofa that I haven't even gotten to enjoy? Or got bored and went through my drawers? Or left my difficult door partially open and lizards and scorpions moved in? Or were otherwise not careful with my home or privacy? Ugh. My home is my safe spot. Offering it to even my friend when I'm not here was a push of my comfort zone, but I did because I trust him and love him. But strangers is too much. Why is setting boundaries so hard? And why when someone makes me feel bad about my boundaries do I feel like I should cave and apologize for having them?

Argh. I'm going to go drink a protein shake and tidy before my people come. Take care, eat protein, drink water, and enjoy your day!

You are not out of line at all. Most anyone would agree with your reasoning. For myself, in your situation- even if my own sister, whose nearly new (hypothetical) partner wished to spend time in my house when I?m not there would not have an invitation to do so. Even though your bff is totally trustworthy, he cannot yet vouch for someone?s integrity because it takes lots of time for that trait to be revealed as trustworthy or not.

You did well in speaking out your thoughts and feelings. Even if the way your bff expressed his hurt was sort of distorted (playing the martyr)?he has the same right to do that. Mutual Respect for one another?s feelings and boundaries is what bff?s is all about.

No apologies needed on either side.

Absolutely in your rights to set boundaries and not at all inappropriate!

Telling people what the boundaries are can be difficult but you are absolutely being reasonable not to want a stranger in your house even with your BFF when you aren't there. I have told my DS the same thing about my home.

Hell, no! You're absolutely right! You should not give the keys to your home to a total stranger. I wouldn't give the keys to my home to 95% of the people I've known for decades.

Just want to say that I'm eating a lot more protein today, thanks to Peps.

Love you!!!!

Love you, too! Xoxoxo

The murals are really cool. Sorry the Dad?s Day buffet sucked.

First injection last night went well. Didn?t feel the needle at all. Did have slight burning at the injection site for about 2 hours but then nothing. No symptoms today. Not expecting hunger to be decreased either at the starter dose of 2.5 mg.

Hot humid day here in WI. I am a trained Stephen?s Minister through my church. It is a lay ministry in which a care giver (me) is paired with a care receiver during a trying time in their life (death, divorce, sickness, parenting issues etc.) We really just lend a listening ear and provide non judgmental support. I met with my care receiver this morning and also have my monthly care giver?s meeting tonight were we can bounce questions/concerns off each other and receive ongoing education. It is a great service that many churches offer and I feel I?m a good fit to provide the care.

Mom is here until Friday. I?ll drive her back home and spend the night. Plan to meet up with one of my besties for dinner Friday night and then head home on Saturday. It is nice to break up the 6 hours of drive time if possible.

Time to hydrate!