Saturday, June 8, 2024

OH is so weird - I was having a tough time putting a reply in for Paula's questions yesterday and first they wouldn't post, then they were there 3 times. Sigh...

I jus****ched a video of Pat Sakak's farewell on Wheel of Fortune. We typically watch it at home and was somewhat sorry to miss it. I have never been a big game show watcher but somehow watching that and Jeopardy have become part of our weekday routine. You just couldn't help but like Pat and Vanna.

Today we are trying snorkeling again, but from the beach. I think I can manage it but I'm very tired. Usually I sleep well here but I have been having a really difficult time falling asleep almost every night. I was reading at 1 am last night.

Tonight we go to dinner at one of the most popular, long standing restaurants in Aruba, Madame Janette. DS loves the place. I will likely get the almond grouper which will take me 3-4 meals to finish but I always enjoy it even in leftover lunches.

Time to get my act together to take a walk. Have a salubrious Saturday!

Down another 0.2, which is a rounding error, but I'm happy given I went out to lunch yesterday which normally sends me soaring in the other direction.

I took my measurements today with my little electronic measuring tape. Coincidentally, I took my first measurements on 2/8. So in 4 months, measuring in 12 places, I lost 31 inches. The biggest changes were 4.6" off my waist (which I don't have so I followed the picture, it's several inches above the belly button), 6" off my abdomen and 4.6" off my hips. Funnily my waist to hip ratio is still terrible given I don't have a waist or hips! Darned ruler shape. So unless my natural shape changes, the charts say my death is imminent ...

Both of my friends gave me loads of compliments on my changing appearance. Both would like to lose weight. And while both were effusive with the lovely comments, one "jokingly" said she "wasn't going to feel comfortable hanging out with me anymore because I look so good". I have noticed she has very emotional reactions to people in her orbit and a lot of personal insecurity, so while I know she didn't mean it literally, there was so much worry in that statement. She felt more comfortable around me 31" ago. I have felt that feeling so deeply with thinner friends when I was not in a good place. You worry that the world is comparing the two of you and will find you lacking. She is the one with heart problems so she carries a lot of fluid too despite copious diuretics. Sigh. Human interactions are littered with emotional land mines!

I need to do the tidying I didn't do yesterday. My friend from the UK wants to FaceTime this morning to see my new furniture and to show me her new kitchen.

Still hot today, but it was 10 degrees cooler at 7am today than yesterday, so it shouldn't be unbearable.

I'm off to clean up! Take care all!

Relationships are complicated, and issues of weight/appearance complicate them further. It is mind boggling the impact one's own personal weight loss has on others. I've noticed too people react weirdly sometimes to wardrobe. I really enjoy dressing up, but sometimes I get comments that feel like my dressing up is an indictment towards them and their choices. It puzzles me so much.

I love dressing up, too.

You have made incredible progress. I don't think the waist hip ratio thing has any relevance except for the rare people who have great dimensions.

It is hard to know how to help when friends have a reaction to our success which seems to indicate that they feel discouraged about themselves. Most of us have been on both sides of that equation. When I have been on the negative side I am happy for my friend and there really is nothing they can say to make me feel better. I have to figure that out on my own. But we really want to help when it is our friend feeling that way.

We have watched Wheel of Fortune off and on since its inception. DH had a big crush on Vanna. Back in the late 80s, or early 90s, she wrote a book, and was in Minneapolis promoting it. DH went to the book signing, and came home with a signed book and signed headshot. It was kind of cute in a way I'm not sure how to articulate. Maybe like a grade school kid who has a young, lovely teacher they have a chaste crush on. Anyhow, I agree that they must be good people. They've been in the public eye for decades with no scandals.

Very interesting discussions about our medications. All of us have had overall positive experiences. Side effects I've had, is fatigue initially (but could also be a result of low calories) and constipation. Some GI stuff, but I don't fully attribute it to the medication, because my sleeve can be finicky on occasion.

Liz, it sounds like your family trip has been delightful. How wonderful that your grown children want to spend time with you and DH, and each other.

Speaking of sibling bonds, my DD wanted her and her brother to get matching sibling tattoos. DS is in favor of it in theory, but is afraid of needles. They got matching shirts to wear on vacation instead. :)

It's a delightfully lazy morning. We do need to leave the house in about an hour, so I should get it together here. I was able to make a massage appointment for Tuesday. I had a gift certificate for a 60 minute massage, and decided to really go for it and booked a 90 minute one. I've never had one that long. I hope I don't have to pee towards the end! I should be very relaxed Tuesday afternoon.

Oh, the scale moved another little bit to a new low. One of my summer goals is to figure out this protein thing in a more manageable way.

After reading the rest of yesterday's posts this morning, I am again so grateful for this group. I marvel at how generous everyone is with their kind words, and sharing their own knowledge and experiences and vulnerability. Tiaras for everyone!

Yes, indeed. Love you all!

Thank you all for your feedback with my GLP 1 questions. Looks like I should make a call next week and get things started. I told DH my goal was to be able to get into my wedding gown (navy blue, sleeveless) for DSD's wedding next May. Should be doable. I'm a 12 now and that dress is a 6. I won't cry if it is too big and I need to buy something new!

Had a baby shower today for a woman in my couple's Bible study group. Have not been to one of those in forever! DH and I are going to eat out at Red Lobster. Most have closed but ours is still open. I think I will splurge a little calorie wise tonight but be right back on track tomorrow. Will still log it all.

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I just finished deleting a huge chunk of worded garbage relating to why it was that the signed final draft for house sale had not arrived for us to sign . Trying to be more brief

Well, yesterday it did and some fur went flying. We had extended some time to sellers (big mistake) so they could " take care of some little bit of business insofar as locating warranty and seller mandated inspection/repairs etc that were required. Instead,

The grace time extension was used to stack cards that ended up with a contract that, in effect put the financial burdens of the sellers mandated, non negotiable costs for repairs and county code upgrades on us, the buyers. This was accomplished by conveniently withdrawing already negotiated and agreed upon (but not yet signed) considerations and repairs AND were expecting us to not notice the absence of those things off the list.

Now, I am nobody's Holy Spirit and their lack of integrity and sense of good faith in dealing with others isn't my responsibility, but it sucks that we should suffer as a consequence of their bad behavior.

As a result, we basically have countered with "return contract to previous agreement" and we wait, but realistically, we expect to be burned by the very match we gave them to do so with (because we try to right by others AND because we are evidently IDIOTS)

I feel personally cut, however ridiculous the financial consequences are (and they are substantial), and intensely wishing Karma deals with them in appropriate measure. Poorly played, sellers. Not cool.