Thursday, May 25, 2023

Hmm, I wonder how many white Costco towels I have? I decided awhile ago I wanted white towels like in a hotel, and, if they got stained and weird I would just keep replacing them. Over the years, I buy 4 towels whenever they are on sale at Costco. They are holding up well, so my towel stack is rather unwieldy...

Sadie, I don't know her in person, but I love that dog!!!

CC, love your house is all tidy and lovely, do not love dear friend's flakey behavior. I suppose you've been dealing with the flakiness for years, and his other good qualities off set it ...

Diane S, there is no weirder place than the ER these days!! Our healthcare system is teetering on the brink, and it is all exposed at the ER. When I was there with my embolisms this fall, there were people all over, slumped in chairs, Ivs in their arms, throwing up on the floor, moaning, yelling... Same hospital where 25 years ago, they were blowing up surgical gloves and covering my children up with stickers to entertain them when we brought them with croup. What happened??!!!

Better day at work, or, at least I was in a better mood and able to cope much more effectively. We are going to my parents house tomorrow, so when I got home, DH and I went to our favorite Friday spot a day early. It was 80, and we sat on the patio, overlooking a pond, with so many pretty birds.

My parents, who have very poor boundaries, predictably have co dependent friends. I had a frantic phone call from one of the friends, telling me I needed to call them back, they are so worried about my Mom. I've been down this road with the friends many times, and of course all the things they think I should do, my parents will not allow. I know my Mom gets on the phone and tells them no one will help, and she's all alone, etc. etc. So I decided to text them instead, telling them I couldn't talk tonight because I had too many things to do to prepare for the weekend away at my parent's house. I also added how grateful I was for their loyal friendship to my parents. That's about all the time/energy I can afford to give. Maybe I should give them my brother's number? That would be interesting... It's kind of like Diane S. and her crazy Pat stories.

The scale does not show a significant weight loss after 3weeks of Wrgovy. But my wrists are definitely smaller, as one of my bracelets that I wear every day keeps almost slipping off over my hand. And today someone stopped me in the hall and said, wow, you look amazing! Are you losing weight? Ha! Maybe its my minimizer bra that I haven't worn for awhile

Thank you, DD! His frequent canceling does hurt my feelings, but you're right, 28 years of it, I'm used to it. I know he loves me, but I am fairly low on his personal totem pole most of the time. If my needs are big enough, he comes through. Like when I was hospitalized with my PE, he dropped everything to go stay with Fergus. But he didn't come see me in the hospital (no one did, so he wasn't alone!) or stick around to see me when I got home. So dire straits he's there. Less than that, not so much.

I tried to make the best of it as our lunch reservations came with a $25 less than 24 hours cancellation fee. I called two new friends who were both busy today, but one arranged to get together on Saturday and one next week. My 3rd call was to my fun real estate agent and she was all in. We had a lovely lunch!

Your story of your parents complaining to others reminded me of my grandmother convincing hospital staff she needed to be signed up for meals on wheels because she wasn't sure my mom would get her food. My mom bent over backwards to make sure she was cared for and bought her a condo less than a mile from my parents in the same golf club and paid all the master association dues so she would be close. Some people are sieves and can't retain any love or attention. They need constant filling up, but it never registers.

Maybe your weight is shifting in preparation for a drop? Weird results.

It is so difficult to help parents who want to be independent but aren't coping.

Here is the three ingredient onion dish (ok 4)

cut up 3 vidalia or other sweet onions into big chunks. Place in a baking dish and drizzle with olive oil, salt and pepper. Roast at 350 for a half hour until fork tender. Remove from oven, sprinkle with bread crumbs and then top with crumbled bleu cheese. Return to oven and roast until cheese is melted and bubbly. Serve warm.

I am making this again but using gorgonzola cheese. We shall see.

The original recipe called for grilling the half onions on a bbq grill but I decided thats too difficult.

Diane S

Do you think one could cheat on the first step and use a microwave?