Sunday, March 5, 2023

Greetings all

I am still lounging about drinking coffee. So what else is new? It was hailing earlier but the sun is out now. Five minutes, who knows.

I checked my gallery sales and it seems I am running low on banana slug wine stoppers. I have the figures made but need to get them glued on the stainless steel stoppers. So if I get that done there will be a gallery run which leads to grocery store and post office.

So I talked to my brother yesterday and he actually seems interested in visiting or having me go down there. I can fly on an odd day and beat the crowds. Will check into it. I think he is feeling mortal since he has this weird disease though its stable.

CC hummingbirds! So fun. There are loads of them around here as it's a coastal flyway. On a garden tour I once visited a hummingbird garden which had all the flowers they like as well as a little mist fountain. They love mist and when I watered the garden outside in the summer they would often hover in the mist around the hose. They like fuchsia. Not sure what grows where you are but they will find your feeder.

Chinese take out shrimp and broccoli last night. Pretty darn good. More pad thai tonight.

Finally tried on the new pants that I thought looked huge. Well they are roomy but not too big. I can ignore the scale but not pants fit. Of course they are 3 inches too long.

Liz enjoy the keys. What a great time. Ever go deep sea fishing there? We did once when I was a kid. Got sea sick. And yeah 4 people with one bathroom kind of sucks. I had a law school roommate for a while who hogged the bathroom doing her make up and made me late to work.

We are continuing to watch the 12th Victim, show about an early mass killer in Nebraska where I grew up. Lots I did not know about the events.

Studio buddy came over yesterday for some computer help. DH is very patient. Took two hours to essentially do one internet order of a medical device. She talks and emotes so much that she doesn't absorb instructions. But at least we got it done and it's an oxygen concentrator which she really needs. And this morning DH got an early call from his other computer ward who could not figure out how to close a window.

Not much else. I am being a bad person and skipping the gathering for our friend that died a couple of weeks ago. Just not up to meeting bereaved strangers.

Diane S

You could never be a bad person. Grieve for your friend in the way that's right for you.

I totally get needing to avoid bereaved gatherings.

I do my makeup and hair in the bedroom, so I am only using the bathroom for things that have to be done there...

Very interesting discussion with my group. Someone brought up the Laura Ingalls Wilder books. Beloved, stands the test of time, but anti Native American. Should this be edited out? Group pretty much agreed that art must be left as is, but if something is problematic, we should provide context. This was what people thought, or did etc. We see it differently now ...

After brunch, went to Costco. Then I remembered I was in charge of purchasing some bereavement items for a coworker/friend whose younger brother died last week on behalf of my department. I was able to buy her a couple of things, one was a Peace Lily the size of a small tree. DH also knows my friend, so he went with me to drop off the gifts, and we had a good talk about her brother. DH lost both his parents before his 33rd birthday, and his sister a few years ago. I think because of those experiences, he is so kind, and attentive when he talks with people about their loss. Some people are uncomfortable talking about grief and death, he can sit with someone and meet them wherever they are at.

And now it is snowing again! It was supposed to be just a nuisance snowfall, but it is coming down fast, and the roads are very slick. Hopefully done before morning, so I don't need to slip and slide to work.

Here comes Monday. The next few weeks will go quickly I think, and then I can make a break for Southern Texas, where I'm counting on no snow the first week of April :)

Your DH is very kind. When my eldest DD died it was helpful when someone was comfortable talking to me about it. Most people seemed to have a difficult time handling my grief. When they asked how I was I could tell they wanted me to say "good", so I would reply that I was "okay" (which I really wasn't but enough to get around).

Years ago when buying songs on Apple was more of a thing, my friend used to laugh about how I would never buy the "clean" version of a song. I would rant about I would only buy what the artist intended even if it had a few F bombs in it because who was I to mess with artistic vision? Plus I had no kids in the car. (CeeLo Green's catchy "F*** You" song comes to mind. The "Forget You" radio version just didn't hit the same!)

Haha, the first time I heard the real version, I was, say what? Much more powerful!