Wednesday, August 17, 2022

I so wish the best experience for DS. University is what eventually pulled me out of a deep dark place I didn't even know I was dwelling in. Had nothing to do with academics, I always was a true student. My saving grace was finding community; safe, encouraging, freeing space to find acceptance-grow wings-and fly. In my case it was with an improvisational street theatre troupe who became my family.

Encourage DS to open himself to opportunity- step into relationship and affiliation with positive and healthy folk-groupe-activities-organization- a place to belong and share and grow into the person he wants to be. This cannot be done in isolation.

His "people" are out there and just waiting for him to join in.

What an exciting time--enjoy!

Update, they couldn't find the thing from the Pet scan they were looking for on the ureter, so no biopsy on that. They will leave it to his urologist to decide to approach through his back to see if they can see a place to biopsy, but that would be a different procedure at another time. He did see a red area in his kidney that he took a biopsy of, but said it could be inflammation from the stent. He should hear back about that next week.

Hmmm... Difficult when there is nothing definitive.

Greetings all

Oops guess I missed yesterday. Our neighbor was over - the carpenter who is going to fix our fence and make it dog escape proof. She is a very nice and very capable woman and its nice to have someone work here who I know well and who commutes from next door. Its her daughter who has the lime green school bus which is now out of sight. DH loves to play tool time and spend time discussing tools with the fence fixer but he does not get the idea that he needs to get out of the way. Best way to distract him: a sandwich.

Scrabble yesterday and I won two of three but lost to the killer good player as usual. And this friend has the bear who visits her backyard and robs the plum trees so we saw video of that. Then I stopped at the flooring store to look at some kind of laminate for the kitchen and great room. I got a sample piece of what looked right but with it home I can see its not the right oak shade. Too dark. So I will take it back and I had DH take a cupboard door off so I can take that to the flooring store and see what works. Not trying to match it - just looking for what works. The cabinets are oak from 25 years ago but still good. We shall see. I learned that with this type of flooring you don't have to empty the entire area but just move stuff around as work gets done. A relief.

Listening to NPR there was a doctor who wrote a book "Smashing Mindsets" that pertains to getting over addiction to sugar, food, booze, cigarettes etc. I did not hear all of it but it sounds like feel grateful, drink water, breath and look out the window plus exercise are the main things. But there were some more specific things like tracing lines on paper strengthens a certain brain part that gives self control. I might look this book up.

Tesla gets out of her little dog jumpsuit today as its two weeks. She is already running around at 100 mpg

Ravioli tonight from Costco. Then we are about done with that and I will have to find other food.

Thats about it. Cheers. Diane S

Tesla is literally charged, LOL!

If you do track down that book, please let us know what you think. Always looking for more knowledge about how to win the war with myself.

https://www.amazon.com/Smashing-Mindset-Recharge-Reinvent-Ma tters-ebook/dp/B076HLTQ5F

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Finally got the living room put back together-not perfect by any means, but improvements were made (at least for the next few days). Got in 3 days of serious strength training in anyways.

The 1.6" of rain we got last night dampened the earth and washed the dust out of the trees- Late afternoon you wouldn't even known it had rained. BUT the day itself was wonderful- cool breezes and low 80s-

Diane, I googled "Smashing Mindsets" and found all kind of reference to growing healthy (good) and smashing-changing fixed-etc...(bad) mindsets....25 ways to fix...mindsets. Mindsets, the new buzzword. I even found a Facebook group link specifically related to Bariatrics and - yes, you guessed it--mindsets. Will check it out- sounds interesting - and report back.

It's off to the wannabeartstudio. Ive been trying to work with hot press watercolor paper and all I have seen for my efforts is a Hot Mess.

Healthy mindset advocates suggest that I drop the "a Hot Mess" to above and insert "haven't figured the process YET, but with practice expect success in the future".

Now, how to transfer the same attitude re weight loss, maintenance and body image issues---