Last Day in February 2022, Monday the 28th

Good Morning All

At work after an eventful/stressful night - my eldest DH had a car accident whilst driving home from work. Im thankful the car did what it needed too and crumbled around him in order to protect him. Its a write off but its only a material thing. The other driver was also ok. My DS was checked by the ambulance at the scene. My youngest DS got to him first - Im so proud of how he handled it as DH and I where on the way to see DSD for her birthday when I got the call and that put us over an hour away. He made it there first. We met them at the hospital and due to Covid I couldnt go in. It was a long night but hes ok. We got home after 11pm. Poor thing is very upset about his car but we will sort a replacement over the coming weeks. He starts back at Uni this afternoon so I have told him to rest. It reinforces to me - if we have our health - we are truely rich and blessed. Im thankful to have my son in one piece - will post pictures on TT

I will pop back later. There will need to be many cups of tea today I think - its going to be a long one. I didnt sleep well at all - I think when I could finally step out of the "mode" it took a long while to uncoil.

Love to you all and hug those dear to you

S

Oh my go**** puts a lot of things into perspective, doesn't it? And beautiful to see that your children have learned from you how to care for each other...

Something like this really does put things in perspective. So, so glad your DS is okay and only property was damaged.

So Ocean Diane, much to ponder here. A parent group offered to buy us some classroom supplies, but they wanted to know specifically what we wanted. I want an electric pencil sharpner, but I was surprised how hard it was to type that into the spread sheet, like I was asking for something that was too much. And its not even for me, its for my students! On the other hand, the older I get, the easier it is to "treat myself". I feel like I sacrificed a lot for my children and family (sacrifices that were appropriate and I was happy to make) when I was younger, but it is my time now. I've worked hard my whole life, and if there are discretionary funds, its okay to spend on myself. And its also okay to say no, or, change expectations. It's okay for me to spend my downtime to please myself too. It took a long time to get to this season where there might be money and time to spend as I wish. And some time to realize I am worthy of of it. I'm mostly there. What I'm still not always able to accept is someone else's offer of care, except from a very trusted few. That's another issue to unpack.

More interesting points. I have had the philosophy that is okay for me to use my investment funds to do the things I couldn't do when I was younger and not worry about maximizing my children's inheritance. When I met him, Mike had more of a tendency to consider that now that he is retired he needed to conserve for his childrens future and/or provide it to them now (and cut back what he was doing). For better or not, he has somewhat revised that into feeling that he too should enjoy life as long as he can. It helps that between both of us we have that ability and unless we go completely crazy or live a super long life we should be okay. Unless dementia strikes one of us but I already know you can't really plan for that.