Christmas 2021

Merry Christmas! The snow isn't completely melted so there is still some atmosphere here.

We had a nice visit at DS' birthmother's home last night. Mike got along well with her husband as they grew up in towns close to each other and had a lot in common in their early days. We were home early and watched Christmas shows with DS, DD, and DD's BF.

Last night was tough for Justuce though. He had vomited a couple of times during the day but we thought he was feeling better until we awoke at 1:30 am with it all over the bed. Lots of laundry to be done this morning. And he is a bit lethargic right now.

Mike gave me a beautiful nautical necklace. My gifts to him are prints of the formal portrait taken of us at the club and 2 nights in Boston for New Years Eve, staying at a cool little inn right on the harbor that we found when we stayed in Boston last time.

DS is up early cooking and preparing for the dinner at SIL's home later. We will exchange gifts with the 2 kids here in an hour or so, then go to SIL's mid-afternoon (after we all do an at-home covid test). SIL's son and family, my other SIL, and my DSD will join us there. The biggest gift will be my 14 month old grandnephew.

Have a wonderful Christmas Day!

Merry Christmas everyone! I'm watching Christmas shows in my pjs. It's the third day of rain here. How very unlike California! And more later this week. Usually it rains for several hours and that's it. I may wander upstairs and take a shower soon.

I made the mistake of continuing to talk to MI guy. He's been so nice, flirtatious, attentive and I was lured back in. And then he disappeared again Wednesday after promising after he did this at Thanksgiving that he wouldn't disappear on me again. I have maintained my pride and not contacted him more than once a day (doing anything fun today? Merry Christmas etc) and I've heard nothing. I'm not sending any more. Unless he's in a coma, there is no excuse. And as the old adage goes, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice (or in this case multiple times), shame on me. I need to stop leaving myself open to getting hurt by this guy. I thought I was broken. He gives that notion new meaning.

Sending healing thoughts to DD and love to all! Hope Santa was good to you!

YOU are not broken, but it appears that MI guy is. Have a relaxing day!

Liz, Mike just fits into your life so well. Enjoy your great nephew!!!

I'm hoping the rain is a good thing for California, and some of the reservoirs make up for lost time during the drought.

CC, people like MI guy are experts at reeling us back in. They are masters at "love bombing" and then ghosting. Its a classic gambit, because it works so well. If its got you, its because you're human. I fear too, that the complications of blocking him completely in your small town setting leave you open to his manipulations. If he was a guy you met in California, that had no social interactions with your friends and family, would it be easier to kick him to the curb? He probably is taking advantage of you wanting to play nice.

I am going to live. :) After another tumultuous night when I began to fantasize about driving to the ER because oxygen sounded so awesome, I turned the corner, and can see I'll get better. I was able to take a shower. I made my own toast.

My DD and DH left for my parent's house. My DH was sad to leave me here. In the 26 years my DS has been on this earth, we have never been apart at Christmas. It may not be the Christmas I planned for or wanted, but I know I am very fortunate. There are people I miss, who miss me. That is a gift.

I have a nice snuggly blanket, and if I can summon enough energy, I'm going to light a fire, and watch a movie.

Merry Christmas to the best support group ever!

Thank you, DD. Yes, in CA it would be very easy to cut him loose and never see him again. Maybe it's a good lesson to think about for when I move too. Small towns are great until they aren't!

A shower and self-made toast! Those are big milestones when you feel crappy... Hope this doesn't take up any more of your precious time off from work!

I'm glad you turned a corner yesterday but sad that you had to miss the festivities. We have a friend who spent the last couple of weeks in the hospital including yesterday. Thank goodness his wife was able to be there with him (unlike in the early covid days).