Saturday, October 2, 2021

I had a great night out with a few of my girlfriends and didn't eat too much (though what I ate wasn't ideal). One tough note was that one of my friends who has been married for over 25 years had to leave early to meet her husband because he gets jealous whenever she goes out. In fact he is jealous all the time apparently. She is an extrovert with tons of friends and he is an introvert. Really difficult relationship. I don't think I could stand it.

Thank goodness Mike isn't at all like that nor was DH. Tonight is date night so we are going to a fish restaurant which overlooks the Cape Cod Canal.

Today I am going to go to a couple of condo open houses. Just to see what might interest me in the future.

Have a safe and healthy Saturday!

My heart goes out to your friend. Red flag, red flag !! I see it so clearly from the other side. I hear you saying "I" not "we" in reference to condo open houses ?

I so get why this is one of the most walkable cities in the world ! I am grateful at my good fortune to have found this Airbnb ! I'm in a renovated 1895 carriage house with a south facing deck. Next there is a large shared gazebo covered patio with comfy outdoor furniture, surrounded by cedar stockade fencing connecting to the main house facing the street. There are four single and double residence homes on the other two sides of my yard. I have not seen another soul in any of the homes but one, who had a backyard gathering I could hear the night I arrived. Sadie and I have the space to ourselves so far. There is sufficient grass and space for her to do her business and she loves sunning on the deck and patio. We encounter enough green space during our walks to meet our needs. I'll be heading to Ann's favorite park tomorrow.

I had a whineless/wineless day yesterday. (Ceci...DP for me ! Can't do Coke !) Going for a repeat today ! Diane, hope your foot feels better ! DD, enjoy the weekend and recharge ! Peps enjoy the anticipation for your upcoming trip and time away from the classroom. I'm sure your competition is shaking in their boots knowing they are about to be Blitzed !!

Your place sounds perfect.

Mike is coming with me this afternoon to look at a condo but he was golfing when I looked at the one this morning. His last 2 golf days here on Cape Cod were this morning and tomorrow morning.

I'm feeling a lot of anxiety today. My dad had a call with his oncologist yesterday who said they can't keep cutting his bladder and the Keytruda isn't working so he's now in the hands of the urologist who will very likely need to remove his bladder and do a stoma. It's a grueling surgery and recovery that my dad was really hoping to avoid especially at his age (80). As soon as his catheter comes out he says he'****ting the gym and needs to get in shape to give himself the best possible outcome. Glad that's how he's thinking as he's been avoiding it all summer. Changes in his status bring a lot of anxiety as I don't want to lose him. I'm also sad about my aunt, feeling lonely which is compounded by the MI guy turning out to be a dud, anxious about transitioning back home, overwhelmed by thoughts of relocating but feeling like staying in CA is untenable, concerns over the state of our country, etc. Every time I woke up last night, it all hit my heart like a brick. My phone was playing music or YouTube relaxation videos all night to distract me. Makes for a not good night's sleep.

I need another long walk and some very deep breathing to burn some of this off... And continued control over my eating will help give me some grip as I feel like I have none at the moment.

That's a lot on your plate. I notice that your dad, aunt and MI guy situations are all out of your control, so those are things just what they are and nothing you can do can make them better. Just gotta be there to support your family. The time you devoted to Dickwad can be used to nurture your new friendship with Sally!

If you need to leave CA there is no better time. You'll get great $$$ for your house and will be able to move where ever you like, get settled and get that new Golden puppy I know you want!

At this point it does seem like having control over something such as your eating could help you feel better able to cope with what's going on.

Scary news about your Dad. Will he get a second opinion to make sure that having his bladder removed and having a stoma is the only option? My DD had her bladder removed due to cervical cancer and they built her a new one using part of her intestine. Not that it is necessarily what would be recommended in your Dad's case but it was amazing the different approaches different surgeons recommended for her.

It's that amazing what they can do? I think we all feel really comfortable with Mayo's doctors. They helped him avoid this outcome 6 years ago, but he's run through and out of other options. They are the #1 hospital in urology in the country, so there is some comfort there. As a young woman like your DD, I would definitely want the one that gave me the most normal life post surgery. My dad and his wife were thinking whatever one has the best outcome for an 80 year old man... Rebuilding would mean more cutting of organs and longer recovery. They meet with the head urologist Monday to get his advice and talk about next steps. Cancer sucks!

Cancer definitely sucks! I forgot your Dad was at Mayo. He already has the best possible physicians.

I am seriously considering getting resleeved in Mexico. I would seriously like some thoughts - blunt works for me.

First I need to put into motion all the stuff I know how to do to eat WLS forward and see what happens. But I also know I did not sign up for a stomach this big. Anyhow, I have found a surgery center with excellent ratings that will do re-sleeves or conversions.

Got to get a move on. My brother is coming with his dog for a grooming.

I can understand the impulse. I miss the size of my early sleeve. But my current size suits me when I eat what I should. I just think any size sleeve can be eaten around with the wrong foods and grazing.

Just be sure to pick your surgeon and center really carefully. I care about you and want you to be safe! I think there are some good surgeons there, but some bad ones too to avoid. I have heard some people have trouble with the nurses and support people not speaking English. Bring a reliable translation app on your phone!