Friday, October 1, 2021

And just like that another month begins! 8 days until we leave for Florida.

The next 5 days in a row involve eating out with friends. Whew, a lot of work to be done on getting control of eating/weight once we get to Florida. One good thing is that they have restarted yoga 3 days a week there. I definitely have to get back into it!

This morning we put away all the deck and patio furniture as well as the hoses. Yesterday I shut-down the outdoor shower. so everything is ready for the winter. The years when I didn't have time to do it and left it for DS it either didn't get fully done or something was awry (I had frozen pipes at the outdoor shower numerous years).

I have been leaning recently toward selling my Cape house next year and moving to a condo. I am going to look at a few more places this weekend to see what is out there. First I will have to sell my Florida place but I wouldn't be getting it on the market until April or May so I have a lot of time to think about both.

Mike is gearing up to having a serious talk with the Ex about her moving out of his Cape place by May. His daughter telling him that it was time for him to talk to the Mom convinced him that he couldn't just assume it would happen eventually. He keeps saying that she would be fine financially if she did what he told her. I reminded him that it is best not to tell her what to do or reflect back but just tell her firmly that he expects her to find someplace else to live by May 1 because he wants to be able to stay there next summer. Whatever plans she needs to make to have that happen are her plans. She will have 7 months notice.

Off to look for a birthday gift for SIL. Have a safe and healthy Friday!

My salty (delicious) dinner And king sized peanut m&ms showed up on the scale today with an increase of 1.6! I'm not worried. I did do a 6 mile walk this morning as it's going to be 73 on October 1 in MI! Crazy nice weather.

DD, what you said about me deserving more from my dad really struck a chord. We were talking yesterday about catheters (as you do...) and my dad was asking about the spasm/pinching when I walked when I had mine after plastics. I said, I was in a rehab hospital for 5 days and barely could move at all for weeks, and I hardly remember anything from that time I was so drugged. He said he was sorry for not being there. I don't even remember him calling to check on me. But my friends were coming into my house several times a day to help me and empty the catheter bag, made sure I had food and drinks, washed my hair. Yet another time I desperately needed him and he wasn't there. Not sure it's any wonder I don't like to rely on anyone for anything let alone ask for help. I even still feel such guilt for needing my friends so much post-surgery. It's a bit if a self-perpetuating cycle: I've had to learn to be very independent because my parents weren't there for me when I needed them, and my parents didn't think I needed them because I'm very independent. Argh.

Not sure what I'm doing today, but first up is a turkey sandwich and a shower. I'll let things unfold from there.

I hope you all have wonderful days!

It is so hard to ask for help isn't it? I dread the day when I have to ask my kids. And I haven't told anyone about the cardiologist yet. BTW, I have an appointment in early January - the first available unless I find someone in Florida. I have mixed feelings about doing that.

It's so hard. That parent/child dynamic just adds another layer of complexity, doesn't it?

Have you told Mike?

Nope, not yet though he does know I have had issues with hypertension.

Hmmm..... parent-child, child-parent relationships are hard because the dynamic changes over time. My brother wants me to have the talk with my dad about giving up his driver's license. I am loathe to do it, but neither my brother nor my dad's girlfriend will do it. They both think he'll take it better from me. Sigh.....

Good morning !! I took advantage of the glorious sun and we had a two hour walk this morning. i must admit to most of an apple cinnamon scone and it was warm and soo worth it. I'm going to make October a month of less whine and wine ! how is that for a double barrel goal ?

Apple Cinnamon Scone! Sounds TOTALLY worth it!

Replace wine with Diet Coke for me and I'll join you

Greetings All

Went to the foot doctor today for my ankle that has been hurting for months. Walked in with a shoe, walked out with a giant boot on my foot! Like a ski boot only uglier and it inflates. Its some kind of tendonitis which he said can be serious. Have to go to PT and maybe surgery (hope not). Happens mainly to women younger than me. Fortunately the treatment plan is to stay off my feet as much as possible. I excell at sitting on my ass. No dog walks for awhile. Big at boot makes one leg longer and puts me off balance. At least its my left foot so driving car is fine. So I am busy plotting and planning how to use this to get out of gallery duties.

We have been watching the Steve Martin series "only Murders in the Building". Pretty funny.

Yep Cecily our parents sure load us up with a lot of baggage. My dad was out of the county over 50% of the time. In those days I guess earning a decent living was the most important part of being a dad. A generational thing but that does not make it easier.

And Peps, why do YOU have to do the drivers license thing? Reminds me I was always the one who had to do all the hard stuff with mom, get her moved, deal with crazy pat, get the care givers bla bla bla. Still makes me cranky. And I am still not over the fact I had to help cook holiday dinners while my brothers sat on their asses.

Hmm Liz, yeah Mike needs to talk to his x but you are right about the parameters. But I guess its up to him.

When I was getting ready to leave today I could not find one of my new purple shoes. Had to get others. DH found it in the yard, having been kidnapped by Poppy.

Well thats about it. Guess I am sort of grounded for awhile. Ocean Diane, take a walk and eat a scone for me. DS