Thursday, June 23, 2021

Getting us started.It's already been a tumultuous morning! Good news, I've lost 3 pounds since Monday, so that's nice. Things shaking up the morning, a dear friend (friends since 8th grade) collapsed while training for a triathlon and is scheduled for a bypass tomorrow. His 60th birthday is June 30. Happy Birthday.

Something happened between my kids a month or so ago. They are talking through it, I think, but it's bumpy and painful.

We are going to a wedding in July of a very good family friend. Some things are going down that I don't want to post about on a public board, but I wish we did not have tickets purchased. We will go to Boston as planned (also have plans to stay a few days with my Aunt), but not sure we will still attend the wedding.

On tap for today, getting my haircut in the afternoon, and some gardening will happen. I will try to recalibrate. This happens infrequently, I don't have an appetite today. I guess I'll run with that.

Thanks DD! Busy morning here - I had to declutter prior to the maid's arrival at 8:30 am, then clear out while she cleaned. We went to breakfast then took Justice for a long walk. Right now we are sitting on the beach for a couple of hours before we go off-Cape to see Mike's sisters.

Two more or less clean eating days, followed by two not so good. Sigh... I don't think I gained in Aruba at least. Generally I don't because I walk a lot and snack less.

Not much else going on except I am working with DD on planning her graduation party on 7/17. I am also looking into a sailboat charter to distribute DH's remaining ashes (most are buried with eldest DD). We were unable to do it because of Covid last year so I want to get it figured out.

Have a safe and healthy Thursday!

More of my woes. My Mom texted me a couple days ago, asking if I could drive out and help her with some household things. I said of course, I could come on Friday. She thanked me, plans made. Then she texted and said just wait to tackle the task., She wasn't feeling too good. (Everything under the stairs closet got pulled out into the living room by someone else helping, but didn't get put back). I said it would just get worse, that I was fine coming, and if she needed to stay in bed, I could get everything tidy, and make her lunch. She said, maybe. I told her to let me know today. I know she's depressed, should I just go out and take care of it? Do I give her agency to make her own decision about this, or do I just force the help on her that I know she needs?

It sounds like making the decision for you to come is too much for her right now. I say go and do what you suggested to take the decision out of her hands. It'll feel better for her the task being done.

I agree. But now she is texting don't come tomorrow, so since that is so specific, I'll honor it.

Weight argh.

I've been a bit depressed myself the last few days. It happens here when my major start of summer tasks are done and it sinks in that I'm really isolated here. My dad and his wife are joined at the hip, so I begin to feel like a third wheel around them and I don't have my own friends here to do things with despite efforts over the years. I wonder if it's the transient nature of my time here or if it's just me? Regardless, I spend a lot of time alone and while a little of that is nice as an introvert, a lot is lonely.

Rain today, so I'm hanging out reading listening to the squirrels run across the roof. They are funny, jumping out of tthe oak tree at the middle of my house and scampering to the oak tree at the other end. Slam! Scamper, scamper, scamper... All day and night, back and forth all summer. Oddly soothing and cute.

DiamondD, glad you were able to post more after your initial post! I logged on to your single sentence and was a bit worried. Funny, how a change in writing can alert us to the fact that something may be off in someone else's life.... Hope your day improves. The stress and woes of others' can have a real negative impact on our own emotions. Hopefully, the haircut will freshen your mood as well as your look. As for lack of appetite, consider it a little gift. It's so rare for me, too! I may not have a physical appetite all the time, but my emotional appetite is firmly planted in my daily life.

Liz, your house and Mike's couldn't be any farther apart on Cape Cod! You are literally on one end and his house is all the way on the other. I'm guessing the drive between the two places is an hour and a half, maybe 2 hours with traffic? I also love the phrase, "Off Cape". It's kind of fun how regional phrases influence our writing. For example, where I live, we tend to say things like, "...drive UP to Oregon..." or "...DOWN to LA..."

As for my own weight.... eh..... I am not seeing the number on the scale I would like to see. However, I am not doing anything helpful to see a lesser number. I am trying to be realistic about expectations. If I am not walking the walk or talking the talk, then why would I see the results of doing so, right? I wonder how much of our demeaning self talk is related to unrealistic expectations. I think for me really looking at the eating behavior honestly has helped accepting the results/symptoms of the behaviors. It is less of a crazy maker for me anyhow.

This morning I received instruction on how to wash dishes properly. Health Code was cited and I was chided when I said I didn't know health code (I managed restaurants in the distant past). I bit my tongue, but it really bothered me.

Yesterday's construction woes: crushed down spouts, "steam" shovel banged up the siding, which now needs repair, and contractor forgot to turn off water to the demolished water lines in the front yard. The sprinklers went on at 11 pm.... Luckily, I heard the water and after a few minutes made the connection and rushed to turn off the automatic timer. Water waste was kept to a minimum!

On the docket today is some dog grooming and a training session and a zoom national dog club meeting. I am ready to start planting, too, but nothing is ready for planting yet.... soon, I hope.

On the rare occasions that I start the thread, I usually type a sentence, and then post, and then go back and edit. I type kind of slow on my tablet, by the time I finish several other people may actually be finishing a post, so at least my one sentence let's them know it's started. :)

LOL, our houses are an hour apart, but we are living together at my house and just go to his a day or two a week. It is actually kind of neat to have both very different areas to spend time in. Mike's kids are at his house in shifts most of the summer.

Greetings All

Its a quiet moment here in puppy land. They are asleep but not likely for much longer. Tesla goes and looks at them and wakes them up. They had a good backyard romp yesterday and even had old dog Chip galloping about. Some of our yard is overgrown and pups can hide out under the rhodies and such. I don't think there is any place they can get out but you never know with pups.

DD sorry you have some stuff going on. I think you should just tell your mom you are going to take care of the stuff and she can be queen for a day. Anyone old enough to remember that show?? I am. And yeah, go to Boston even if you skip the wedding.

My niece is scheduled to come out here July 1 to stay a few days and get a puppy. Her mom, my SIL had a hip replacement redone a week or so ago. She was in a rehab center and something went wrong and I think there is surgery today to redo the hip. This will be the fourth time it has been done. Niece says its bad bone. My SIL is a medical lightning rod - seems like whatever can go wrong with her does. I am worried about my niece as her dad died two years ago and her brother 20 years ago. She does have a husband and a 6 year old but still life is not easy for her. I hope all this does not interfere with the puppy trip but fear it might. But worrying won't help.

Squirrels on the roof Cecily!! Fun!! We donn't have many here. Too many predators. They were the tormenters of our dogs when we lived in the midwest.

And Cecily, when we moved out here I joined a garden club to make friends. Worked out well. Still have the friends even though I long ditched the club. Too many tea parties.

Peps I am amazed at all your home improvement projects. Dang bulldozer trashing the down spouts. And yeah, I live with mr. health department who does not know how to make a hamburger but is sure I leave food sitting out too long. Like five minutes.

Someone came to see the pups yesterday and brought two pieces of cheesecake. I nice thought but this person should have known better. So its just sitting in the fridge waiting...

Errands to run and dinner to be determined.

Diane S