Sunday, April 25, 2021

This morning I told DS that Mike is moving in. He was quiet until I said "I hope the two of you get along". I said it because they really don't know each other at all. DS blew up and said I was accusing him of being the bad guy and an ass____, then he hung up. What???? I sent him a txt stating that I would have said that to anyone important in my life who I was introducing Mike to. He just seems so angry lately and I dread having to live with that at home. He needs to move out and find something to make him happy.

Anyway, I am at the beach with SILs. Mike is on his side of Florida with a childhood buddy this weekend and keeps sending notes that he misses me. Nice to hear.

Loved Shirl's pictures of Anzac Day!

Have a safe and healthy Sunday.

Weight 186.2 argh. 3 mile walk yesterday and ate sensibly. Somehow I didn't wake up until 10:30 this morning!

The painting is done. That was a stressor, so I'm glad it's done (this isn't the stucco, just trim doors and pergolas). Either the previous paint had really faded and changed color or this painter or the last one got an off mix, because the color is different. So I'm glad I didn?t have the pergola repair guys try to just paint the new beams. Likely it would have looked awful. Better to have it all painted fresh.

I've been binge watching Brooklyn Nine Nine. Such a funny, well-written show.

Liz, DS sounds like he could really benefit from therapy. I?m sorry he's being difficult and making what should be a happy situation hard...

DianeO, you put me to shame on the moving front!

DD, hope your chill passes soon!

I absolutely agree about therapy but I'm not sure he would consider it right now. My sense is that he is very unhappy which makes him feel angry. And he is taking out on the people closest to him.

Sounds like he paint job turned out well. I will have to check out Brooklyn Nine Nine. I have been looking for something new.

I agree about the "unhappy". It can make you lash out at others' happiness. I see myself in your descriptions of DS sometimes. Especially as it relates to my dad finding his wife (which I am 100% supportive of now, but was very upset about and resistant to at first). Therapy helped me a lot. When someone is in that place, suggesting therapy probably wouldn't be received well. But if he's mad already, what's a little more mad heaped on top?

Brooklyn Nine Nine is very silly, but the humor is right up my alley!

Liz, Sorry your son is having such a hard time. Best that you have now laid out the plan and he can prepare himself. Perhaps he feels too proprietary about YOUR house since he lives there by himself in the winter, and has begun to think of it as his house. But from what you've described, he reacts strongly, and then comes around. Painful cycle, but hopefully he gets to a less agitated place.

Cecily, how is your Dad doing in Michigan? They're probably having the same weather as we are here. The surge of Covid there is concerning, but he's vaccinated, correct? When is your 2nd shot?

DD returned from Boston. I half expected her to decide she wants to go back full-time, but I didn't hear that. She has several weddings to go to in July, so I expect she'll spend most of the month there.

Still chilly and rainy, but I did get much done yesterday, so I feel good about making some progress. And we finished watching the last episode of Bridgerton. Nice entertaining fluff, with a happy ending.

Today is a lazier day, though I did promise risotto for dinner, since its Oscars night, a sort of holiday for the movie devotees in my house. Doesn't feel as exciting, since everything was on the small screen, but DH and DD are still enjoying the award season.

My dad is doing great in MI, thanks for asking! They don't mind the cold, but they were topped up on sun after wintering here. Most of the Covid is around Detroit, Lansing, and Grand Rapids. The boonies where our house is is pretty calm. They've both had both their shots. He's started Keytruda immunotherapy last week for his cancer. It's intravenous, every 3 weeks and was approved in the last year for his kind of cancer. Fingers crossed it helps keep it in check. So far, he hasn't had side effects.

My second shot is tomorrow morning. I hope I don't feel yucky after! I was chatting with my next door neighbor this morning and she said she felt awful after her second Pfizer and was mad her husband felt fine after his. Her mom lives in India and I asked about her given the worrying situation in the country. She said she's had her first shot, but things are so bad there, there is no telling when she'll get her second. Her aunt died from it two days ago. She was grateful she died in her sleep as the hospitals are turning people away. I read they are telling people to bury their dead in the backyard as the crematoriums are overwhelmed. She said it's so crowded there, there is no hope of distancing. So sad.

I had my second shot right before I went to Vegas. I felt a little bit like I was coming down with a cold, but it could easily have been from leaving Minnesota and going to a warm place with blooming stuff. So no big reaction for me. If you do have one, sounds like it won't last long. A nurse gave my daughter a tip to drink Gatorade. Guess it couldn't hurt. DD had an easy time with the 2nd shot too. She did buy the Gatorade :)

I knew the situation was bad in India, but that sounds unimaginable!