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Monday, April 19, 2021
I'm back at my place, sleep deprived from staying up late and talking with SIL. It is pouring rain so no walk this morning.
I had been worrying about DS reaction to Mike moving in. He just blew up because his eldest sister will be staying at the house off and on until early June. Says I "lied" to him about how long she was staying when I said a couple of weeks. In truth, I really don't know exactly as she will be at her brothers in NJ for part of the time because he and his wife are having a new baby. I don't know why DS overreacts like that. I pointed out that it is my home. So I guess I should be prepared for him going off the deep end when I tell him about Mike.
Sigh... I told him I wasn't going to talk about it right now. There really isn't any point when he gets like this as there is absolutely no reasoning with him and he monopolizes the entire conversation.
5 years of dealing with DH losing his mind and now I have to cope with his nonsense?
Enough of that. Thanks for listening. Have a safe and healthy Monday!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Liz, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that negative energy !! It is time for him to suck it up and grow up !
Age: 64; 5' 5"; High weight: 345; Start weight: 271 (01/05/15); Surgery weight: 218 (05/27/15); Pre-Op (-53); M 1 (-18); M 2 (-1.5); M 3 (-13.5 ); M 4 (-13); M 5 (- 8); M 6 (-12) M 7 (-5, Xmas); M 8 (- 9) Under surgeon's goal and REACHED HEALTHY BMI 12/07/15!! (Six months and one week.) AT GOAL month 8. Maintaining at goal range (139- 144) ~ four (4) years !!
BOOOOOOO! Does he see a therapist? His reactions seem over the top. I know he's a "grown man", but his reactions sound very adolescent. He does need to realize that he is living in your home as an adult child and that he is not entitled to live there. If he is bothered by your relationship and cohabitation with Mike, he is free to get a job, move out and control his own environment. Harsh, perhaps, but true.
on 4/19/21 10:03 am
That is drama you don't need, Liz!
Weight 183.2 Down 1.2 this week and 38.8 overall. No walk yesterday.
Yesterday I dashed to the grocery store, read for hours, and put on new nail stickers. I went with one fancy sparkly nail. Much faster to get them on the second time!
Today I should get my car back with a working sunroof, I have Pilates class, and therapy. And a walk tonight. It's going to be in the mid 80s today, but not windy. So that's an improvement!
No wild cravings last night thankfully. So weird the way those hit with a vengeance and then vanish just as quickly.
Wishing you all a good Monday!
Greetings all
All puppies gained weight again. Some just a bit. The first born girl is really packing it on! Feels funny to be happy about weight gain.
So I have lost my glasses. Got up this morning and they are no where to be found. took the bed apart and got under it and under the night stand. I have looked all over the place. Of course DH thinks I am completely nuts. I have some older ones to wear but this is ridiculous! I think I am going to have to call and order new ones in order to insure the old ones turn up.
Sorry for your drama Liz. Your house, your rules is the truth but easier said than done. Some people have a hard time accepting change I guess.
Take care all. Diane S
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Okay, time for post #2.....
Oh, this figuring out my own food plan is taxing. I am doing a bang up job on maintaining, but boy am I finding it hard to find the exact calories to cut out. Sheesh.... I am trying so hard to NOT be reactive in the knee jerk fashion. I'm very good at that and know how to restrict calories to lose the weight, but this whole idea of losing weight eating the highest number of calories possible is tough. Yet, I can see how much this approach benefits positive interactions with my eating disorder thought process.
My trio of bubble people have been giving off a lot of negative energy lately. It has made me want to retreat from them. My BFF was so negative and cross on Saturday evening all I could think of was, "OMG, how am I going to manage this all evening? Why did he bother coming to visit?" I did my best to use my own positivity to buffer myself, but by last night I found myself nit picking my appearance - never a good sign. So, I hopped to it and started "counting my blessings" in the mirror. Made a big difference in my attitude at bed time.
I took an unplanned nap yesterday. It was delightful, but wrecked havoc on my sleep last night. I was still wide awake at 1:30. Fell asleep and woke up at 1:30, then again shortly after 3, then around 5 and then again around 6. I was in and out at other times, but didn't look at the clock. Luckily, I don't feel tired today.
That's about it from here. Just keeping on....
