Friday, October 2, 2020

Shirl, you can do only what you are equipped to-no more. A-guy's perception and communication filters are no doubt difficult to navigate. Not his fault-not yours either. His frustration level must be almost unbearable to him as well as everyone he is in community with. Is he so high functioning that he has no appointed advocate to advise and assist? It is clear he is not open to your help at this time, and indeed you are practicing self care in respecting his (albeit rudely expressed) desire to be left alone.

He wasnt diagnosed till his teens & as such missed early intervention. My Eldest son was diagnosed at 3yrs 9mths- allowing me to access great support.

My best friend & I are the only two people who support him. I advocate for him when needed. He is by no means an easy person, very rigid and set in his ways.

This is best for now. I will use it to regroup a little so down the track Im better equipped with a full tank to contend with him - however that will be after an apology and discussion

It sounds like you're doing the right thing with your friend's son. I'm sure your friend would not want you to be a punching bag for her child!

Long and painful story there but boundaries need to established- of which I have done & respect his right to be left alone

As I said to Miss- it will allow me to have some downtime

Take care of that shoulder x

You have done the best you can Shirl. Always being the caretaker is not easy.

Thanks Liz - as you know no its not