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FRIDAY, April 19, 2019

VSGAnn2014
on 4/19/19 2:52 am
VSG on 08/14/14

Weight: 141.8
Macros: Cals - 1,256, Carbs - 142, Fat - 31, Protein - 81, Fiber - 29
Sleep: 7 hours
Veggie/Fruit Servings: 10
Water glasses: 7
Exercise: 10,800 steps
Meditation: Yes

Another kick-ass yoga class yesterday morning! Yowzah! My legs, back, arms, shoulders, ass are sore, letting me know those muscles are coming back HARD after a two-month class hiatus. I've now been going to yoga classes for three years and two months. It still feels a bit strange that, after so many decades of not caring for my body, I've been training physically at anything this long.

BTW, when I get a pedicure I usually choose a purple polish because that's the color of my yoga mat, and when I look down at my toes I think, "I do yoga!" And that's another thing I'm better at than I used to be: positive self-talk. LOL!

I got a lot done yesterday and have another respectable to-do list for today. My six-foot lawn mower is at the dealer's for spring maintenance and should be delivered tomorrow. If the ground dries out enough (it's been raining here a lot) I plan to mow this weekend like a wheat harvester.

I'm starting to read books about Antarctica in preparation for my big adventure to the seventh continent this December. The first one is Ernest Shackleton's diary of the survival and rescue of his 1914-1916 expedition that attempted to cross that continent. I read the book many years ago, but it will have new relevance now. To be clear, I won't be attempting to walk across Antarctica--just to traipse around some coastline, meet a lot of penguins, and drink champagne every night.

Shel, I re-investigated the Iowa Summer Writers Workshops and decided I WILL go there this summer. On Wednesday I talked to a registrar and am now deciding which of the dozens of great-sounding classes to take. If others find this an interesting thing to do, check out their website at https://iowasummerwritingfestival.org/.

Cecily, I'm glad you liked your prepped meal, which sounded wonderful. Today I'm having that Mann Nourish Bowl Basil Chicken thingie and will let you know how it tastes.

Today's theme: I loved yesterday's so much that I'm reprising it today: Accept all help offered.

ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22

POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.

brownblonde
on 4/19/19 4:19 am

Weight unknown

MissBonnie-glad your pain meds kicked in. HOping you can get back on track with treatment

Liz-I feel you on the needing uninterrupted night's sleep

DianeS-what a good question about co-dependency. Maybe needing help isn't such a bad thing. And definitely it'd only be bad if we are too proud to accept it!

Cecily-You know I have recent scale frustration. I hate that they write it down each time as though it's going to have such importance and yet there's so many variables. Like I said at my ob, one of their scales is 4lbs. lighter than my home scale, and the other is 2lbs. higher--so that's a 6lb. variation just based on which scale they use. Not to mention clothes and food intake etc. Ugh

Ann-My European history prof in college was an expert on Shackleton! I think my parents may have some of his books. Maybe if I'm up rocking the baby late at night (ha!) I'll join you in your research. One can dream!

Life has been pretty great but pretty hard recently. I thought Becca was just having trouble sleeping and maybe teething. Yesterday she woke up early (4:45) after a poor night's sleep. But we still got out the door, even remembering everything for her Easter party (including the eggs I'd filled for her party, and the veggie tray and t-shirt I was late to work the day before for)...only to have just ordered lunch and have daycare call me to come pick her up. What a mess! I also had my parents in my car so we had to cancel lunch, I had to go in the opposite direction of the office to pick her up, wake her up from nap, she was inconsolable for a bit, drive the half hour back to take my parent's back to work, get lunch, drive half hour back home, and she never would sleep. Luckily we did get into Dr. and found out she had one ear infected. And that is not something she got from another kiddo. But sheesh I give up! It would have been better for everyone, in hindsight, if I'd just stayed home all day. I'm really thinking about giving notice. I'll miss working for my parents but I think all the signs point to this being the best solution--they have less work, I need some flexibility to work on the rental properties and as it is I've missed at least 20% of my work time from Becca being sick over the last 6 weeks. It's just not fair to anyone.

DH and Becca have today off for Good Friday. I'm thinking DSD may come over nad they'll have a bit of a daddy daughters day. I hope to pick up groceries for Easter tonight and then maybe grill out in the beautiful weather.

        
VSGAnn2014
on 4/19/19 4:53 am
VSG on 08/14/14

Bonnie, I'd love to talk with you and any others here who are interested about Shackleton's diary. It's really a mythic story!

ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22

POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.

CC C.
on 4/19/19 7:15 pm

I feel like there have only been a few months out of my entire life where weighing at the doctor's office didn't upset me! I know I've gained weight. I just didn't want them to know I gained weight. Like they care right?

Liz WantsHealthForAll
on 4/19/19 4:23 am - Cape Cod, MA
VSG on 03/28/16

DH loved Shackleton's diary. He was very intrigued by his trip. It is great that you are doing so much for your physical and mental self-care. Such a great example!

I went to see another Memory Care facility yesterday which I really liked and is about half the price of a comparable one in Massachusetts. But I was depressed afterwards again as I was after I visited the first one. I don't feel like that is going to happen when I plan the visits and not during them but afterwards I feel like crap. Maybe I should do a bunch in one day and get it over with (I have 3 more I want to see here). I'm having so much angst over when to do this, but realizing that there are other people already in these places who are around DH's stage. And the incontinence/nighttime issues are really dragging me down. I wish I knew when the best time to do this placement was. Now when he would be aware of it and potentially be angry/depressed? Or later when he is less oriented to his world (or would that make adjustment harder)?

Sigh, not WLS related, but the stress doesn't help my planned eating.

Today DH is in daycare and it is going to rain so I may go shopping (retail therapy).

Have a fine Friday!

Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish

ocean4dlm
on 4/19/19 4:33 am - Liverpool, NY
VSG on 05/27/15

I agree with Ann, we need at least two more buttons: LOVE and I support you 100%. My used of the Like button was the later !

Age: 64; 5' 5"; High weight: 345; Start weight: 271 (01/05/15); Surgery weight: 218 (05/27/15); Pre-Op (-53); M 1 (-18); M 2 (-1.5); M 3 (-13.5 ); M 4 (-13); M 5 (- 8); M 6 (-12) M 7 (-5, Xmas); M 8 (- 9) Under surgeon's goal and REACHED HEALTHY BMI 12/07/15!! (Six months and one week.) AT GOAL month 8. Maintaining at goal range (139- 144) ~ four (4) years !!

VSGAnn2014
on 4/19/19 5:03 am, edited 4/18/19 10:04 pm
VSG on 08/14/14

Liz, like DianeO, I love you and I support you.

Based on my personal experience with moving my mother to a nursing home, there is NO single, perfect time to do this. Many elements have to be rationalized -- his needs, your needs, his feelings, your feelings, everybody else's feelings, price, space/room availability, staffing, location, etc. Unfortunately, all those elements will NEVER be ideal at the same time--that simply won't happen. I also think it requires immense courage to make that decision.

For many folks the realization that "it's time now" comes when the family is demonstrably in crisis. The decision becomes easier as caregivers' resistance to making that decision is eroded by their exhaustion and the sudden evaporation of other caregiving alternatives.

ANN 5'5", AGE 74, HW 235.6 (BMI 39.2), SW 216, GW 150, CW 132, BMI 22

POUNDS LOST: Pre-op -20, M1 -10, M2 -11, M3 -10, M4 -10, M5 -7, M6 -5, M7 -6, M8 -4, M9 -4,
NEXT 10 MOS. -12, TOTAL -100 LBS.

Shel25
on 4/19/19 6:41 am

Big ol' support from the PNW, too!

I'm totally flashing back to bawling in a parking lot after touring a beautiful memory care facility. I don't know if I could have toured multiple in one day, either.

I don't know about timing (but agree with everything Ann said) but I do know that your current living situation isn't sustainable much longer. There MUST be an additional caregiver, in some form, for YOUR health, which is just as important.

HW:361 SW:304 (VSG 12/04/2014)Mo 1:-32  Mo 2:-13.5  Mo 3: -13.5  Mo 4 -9.5  Mo 5: -15  Mo 6: -15  Mo 7: -13.5  Mo 8: -17  Mo 9: -13  Mo 10: -12.5  11/3/2015 Healthy BMI Reached Mo 11: -9  Mo 12: -8    12/27/2015 Goal Weight Reached!

DiamondD
on 4/19/19 3:30 pm
VSG on 06/13/12

I know you will face it with the resolve you've already demonstrated, but what a tough decision. How smart of you to do your research, however sad, before a true crisis.

CC C.
on 4/19/19 7:47 pm

What would your DH in healthy times have advised? What would you want him to do for you if the tables were turned?

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