Friday, March 15, 2019

Weight still ?, calories 939. Yes, I tracked yesterday! Mostly good eating except for the small piece of cake at the 80th birthday party.

DS and his boyfriend went home mid-day which makes me sad. I miss him though having my house somewhat back in order pleases me. But then I had to wash the bathroom down this morning at 6 am due to DH's issues lack of toilet control during the night so it isn't really in order... TMI, I know, but I think it is an indication that he is going back downhill after almost 2 relatively good weeks.

Today there isn't much on the agenda. Mostly doing laundry from DH's issues and putting the Murphy bed back together in preparation for our next company arriving Tuesday (other SIL). Oh, and a scheduled call with my financial planner.

Speaking of SILs, I have come to some epiphanies around the SIL who lives with us here in the winter and has some drinking issues. Though she always seems very quiet and sweet, she is VERY angry at her mother (now deceased) and her brother. Apparently she is angry over times when they took control for her or advantage of her because she wasn't taking action or making decisions. I know her mother was a strong personality and SIL's inability to function at times made MIL step in a lot. Apparently SIL is angry about some of those occasions especially when she feels that choices were taken away from her. BIL definitely did take advantage of her, but she could have told him at the time and avoided most of it. So maybe she is angry at herself too? She continues to be unable to make decisions for herself. She won't go to the pool, sit on the porch, or turn on the TV to watch a program unless I do. And if I do, she has to do it with me. Yesterday she tried to go with me to drive the boys to the airport and to my 2 hour hairdresser appointment. But there was no reason. I was leaving the 80th birthday party early and she already had a ride! I left quick and just told her there was no need. I'm actually looking forward to when she is gone for a while. It is claustrophobic to have DH be so dependent and she adds to that claustrophobia.

Anyway, it is obviously easier for me to look at others and analyze them but not myself!

Have a fit Friday!

I'm glad you were able to do your errands without SIL tagging along this time. I am happy to shop by myself (in fact I think I prefer it), I don't mind company, but I'm content to go to the beach or the pool alone, and I certainly don't want company to a hair appointment. It's hard for me to take the perspective of someone so passive. One of my many mottos: I'm not bossy, I just have good ideas! Sometimes when I'm a house guest, I disappear into the guest room and just sit on the bed to take break. Does she have abandonment issues? Does she help you at all with your husband? I can see whereit begins to feel like just one more person to take care of.

So travel karma has shared it's grace with us again. DH had six days off in June and we wanted to do something for the two of us to celebrate dear son's college graduation. (At last!) But due to trip to Ireland in August, we couldn't go crazy. So last night dear husband found airfare, nonstop from Minneapolis to Mexico City for $275. My bff lives in Mexico City (when she's not visiting us for weeks on end, but that's a story I've already told). So no need for a hotel. I've been many times back in the day when I had big hair and Gloria Vanderbilt jeans ( you know, the 80s), and I really love that city, but dear husband has never been there. I'm so excited for him to see it, and so excited to return myself. And so affordable for the adventure we hoping for.

Liz, Thank goodness you started the thread today, or I would be here all by myself. Is EVERYONE at a dog show this weekend?

I'm late! Sorry!

I had an early hike this morning, took the dog to the vet this afternoon for a blood draw, and had dinner out with a friend. Busy busy!

The hike was actually a paved 6 mile trail given the mess our regular trails are after all the rain. Here's a pic from the turn around at the beach and a snake friend we came across. It's the first warm day in months so the reptiles (and humans) were out soaking it all in!

Hope everyone was off having fun!

Liz, your SIL frustrates me and I don't even know her.

DD, how cool you get to go to Mexico City! It's a beautiful place. (Though the kidnappings make me nervous. My friend's family lives there and two of them have been kidnapped for ransom in the last few years!)

The crime in Mexico City is a concern, but not enough to keep me away. My friend's ex husband has been car jacked, but my friend who has lived there for over 30 years has never been robbed, car jacked, kidnapped etc. She's very Nordic looking so maybe they think the gringa might be too much trouble, and leave her alone.