Thursday, February 21, 2019

Weight 127.2, calories 829. I got the keto book and started reading it. I didn't really start anything but did have 1/2 ounce of cheese when I was feeling really hungry (instead of a carby snack) and it stopped my hunger. Duh! I used to do that right after WLS, but forgot that good trick.

I went to the Alzheimer's support group yesterday. Lots of tears there! One poor woman who is always there has had lifetime depression resulting from some childhood trauma (which she does not divulge). She had been well controlled for quite a while, and made some serious life decisions selling their main home and moving into a retirement community which has lifecare included (including memory care). So now that her DH is taken care of, she apparently has been ignoring herself and is an absolute mess. She told us about her thoughts of possible suicide. She was going with someone after the meeting to get help. So tough! Another woman I met for the first time has been caring for her DH for 13 years and is ready to put him into care. My god, maybe faster progression is better! We talked a bit about the cost of memory care. It starts around $4000 a month in Florida vs. about $6000 a month in Massachusetts. A lot of $$$$$.

jus****ching this Jussie Smollett story (false report to police of a homophobic, racist mugging). There is enough of that around for real. What a waste of police time. And apparently for press? I don't get it!

Today, no plans. I don't know if/when I am trying the senior daycare again. Maybe tomorrow?

Have a transformative Thursday!

Good morning!

Ms Plum, thanks for the link to B150's write up...I will eventually get to it. Ditto Cecily for the keto book. I haven't started but will eventually get there, too!

Shirl and Cecily's comments about citrus trees reminds me how much I enjoy seeing CA's fruit laden trees....truly something Dr. Seuss to my midwestern eyes. The fruit trees I grew up with don't give me the same thrill. DianeO, when is your trip?

Liz, fingers crossed for daycare today. You need all manners of a break. Very interesting that Florida is less expensive for memory care.

Most of our snow is gone, at least in the lowlands. I forgot to post a pic of a waterfall from a weekend snowshoe. The second pic is from Tiger Mtn which is a lowland mtn but had plenty of snow up top.

Dropping yogurt, my gateway healthy food, has decreased my nighttime eating. As Liz said, duh.

Enjoy the day (hopefully at a beach),

Shel

Peps, you are going to live to be a thousand ability to do push ups may predict longevity

I can now do 20 real push ups (tho my nose doesn't touch the floor but I am still declaring victory) It wasn't that long ago that one was a horrible struggle and was most likely to result in a push to collapse than a push up.

Hmmmm.... I will have to count. I usually don't do more than 15-20 at a time and I rarely do just straight push ups. I usually do walking push ups or leveled push ups or push ups with weighted back rows or T pushups with dumbbells. I'm guessing I can do 30 or so in a row. I will let you know. However, I am feeling the push now to be able to do 40+! LOL! Cuz, who doesn't want to be a studly, he man firefighter?

Remember that study a few years ago that predicted increased probability of death within 6 years if you couldn't sit down and stand up without using your hands? Apparently I'm not going to make it 55!

1. Within Range: two over
2. General Wellbeing: 6 on SS
3. 10,000+ Steps: 8409
4. Fitness: walking
5. Self-Care: working to maintain healthier boundaries
6. Play/Leisure: walking with audiobook
7. Intentions: Seek balance & relax, rejuvenate, & recalibrate !!

Clarification... self-talk does not always result in patience and selflessness.. an aspiration I am successful with from time to time. My weight is all over the place. Not happy, and no logical reason. Liz, my heart goes out to you ! $4,000 per month is actually very good. If you can find a place with progressive options, DH will be on a short list when the time is right. Miss 150...off to find and read your article. Shel...great pictures !!

You guys are all on my heart today. I love how raw this group is because life happens and I do think our food patterns are so intertwined with it.

Definitely a lot of sadness from our friends. I can't believe we were in this position just a year ago. He had a few calls from former employees wanting to vent. There is definitely a sense of--is keeping your job truly a reward at this point?

Received a voicemail at our office from my ex-uncle. I don't know how to feel about it. He was married to my aunt for 31 years before she found out one Christmas that he was cheating. A lot of other sordid details and lies followed. I have never talked to him since. He keeps trying to be a "good guy." And normally I'd applaud that. But I'm very protective of my aunt and I feel like he's just trying to disrupt her life more. Wasn't stealing 31 years enough?? No--you don't get to be the "good guy" after you did what you did. You can live with it and move on and try to be better but I feel kind of mad that he puts me in a position of feeling icky. He's sending old love notes and other family notes to our office for us to give to my aunt. I don't know what we'll do. This is my aunt who found her BF of 2 years dead in the shower just a couple months back. My ex uncle sent a huge flower arrangement to his funeral. Nice? Sounds well-meaning, but it sent my aunt off the handle (and she was already so upset). I know it seems backwards to say this about someone trying to do nice things but I feel as though he's reopening her wounds while trying to heal himself and that is still selfish. But I am so mixed up about this because it sounds so bizarre to be angry at someone for trying to do better.

I've been so exhausted today. I'm about over winter. I can't wait for nicer weather and grilling and time outside!!

Golly, I don't know about what motivation prompted uncle to send flowers--

However, sending old love notes at this point is NOT trying to be a nice guy-TOTALLY inapppropriate! No doubt you feel icky- HE has done an icky thing in asking you to be complicit in action that very likely will make your auntie upset. Send that correspondence and all the icky back to him. Take no part - you are right- this business is not yours. Do not feel badly about not helping him appear to be a good guy. Good guys do things to make others feel better- he may well be serving his own ego here.

Bonnie, you and I were typing at the same time. I'm glad we came to the same conclusion, I was a little concerned I sounded harsh.

I don't think he is trying to do better. He's not respecting anyone's boundaries. He's contacting you, when he has not been encouraged to do so, he's burdening people with his old letters, he's making himself front and center by sending an inappropriate floral arrangement to a funeral that has nothing to do with him. He's doing all these things because he wants to, not because it's for anyone else's benefit. If he wants to do better he should stop forcing himself on everyone. If you want to be in contact with him, you would be. The same for your Aunt. He needs to respect that. That icky feeling you described happens to me too, it is my signal that my boundaries have been invaded.