Valentines Day 2019

Weight 125.2, down a pound due to PPT (productive potty time).

The get together with our friends yesterday afternoon was fun. Today I have to borrow a car to take DH to have his TB test read for senior daycare (it is clearly negative). DD and friend are still at Universal with our car. Other than that hoopefully it gets warm enough for the pool (it was 45 when I got up at 6:30!).

Maybe I will wear pink pants and top today for Valentines Day? And maybe get some new flowers? It is tough to get excited when DH doesn't understand it.

Have a thoughtful Thursday!

1. Within Range: yes
2. General Wellbeing: 9 on SS
3. 10,000+ Steps: 15,121
4. Fitness: shoveling
5. Self-Care: hair, color, manicure; exercising healthy boundaries
6. Play/Leisure: Reading
7. Intentions: Seek balance & relax, rejuvenate, & recalibrate !!

Inquiring minds want to know... based on your insights and my experience yesterday, there is NO ON RIGHT WAY to do most things. There are soo many factors that impact what works at one moment in time and not so much in a similar experience later. The best we can do is expand our repertoire of responses/options and continue to learn and build skill sets. Leaving a bit of snow to catch the ice clearly did not work so well this last storm. However, I had a fabulous time setting the edges and stacking piles and DC started the snowblower for me and I knocked them off ! I typically view the snowblower as cheating, but those are old tapes. The simplest path is not necessarily cutting corners or the easy way out, as I used to be told. There is nothing wrong with simple, easy and direct !!!

Funny you mention snow blowing as cheating. I remember as a kid my dad getting angry with my mom for vacuuming the kitchen floor instead of sweeping it with a broom. As long as the floor gets clean (or snow removed) it doesn't matter how!

Happy Valentines Day my friends! Had a very nice dinner with Kevin last night at an upscale steak house (I ordered the bacon wrapped scallops from the appetizer menu). We also shared crab cakes and I had a few bites of the lobster Mac n cheese side dish. Su****oday and maybe some snowshoeing.

Same 'ol, same 'ol at work which isn't a bad thing.

DS #1 is out in his own apartment and the household seems a bit calmer.

Had a heart to heart with the younger two boys the other night. They are struggling with Ben's death and my new relationship. I'll need to find ways to make sure all of our needs are being met. I think I will start with a once a week date night with just the boys to connect and plan for the coming week. We all seem to be going in lots of different directions these days which makes connecting harder and then there's the damn electronic devices that take that precious time away too (mostly them on their phones or gaming systems).

As you know weather here has sucked. We got 12 inches of snow the other day and I snow blowed for the first time in my life! Learning to navigate some new household responsibilities! Taxes being another new one.....uuuggh!

Love to you all!

Weight: 181.6

Ha on no right way to do things. I'm very very bad about thinking my way is the RIGHT way--just ask my husband. I still have an impulse to want to correct him, but I'm starting to let it go. Sometimes other ways are just fine but different. Sometimes my way is still better--but I've learned it's better to get help!!

I like Valentine's Day. But it makes me sad that it's a sad day for so many. I see nothing wrong with pink and red and roses and flowers and nice sentiments and chocolate--more of what this world needs, I say! But I also wish people could know somebody loves them--their pets, their kids, their friends, their patients, their coworkers, etc.

This Valentine's day I decided not to have expectations. I can't remember which holidays it's been, but DH is so good that he's set the standard too high for himself. At first I tried to help him out by telling him "hey, a card is most meaninful" but then he didn't even do that and I was more disappointed--so not how I wanted to react or feel! So this Valentine's I decided to focus more on the whole "do unto others." Silly holiday? Maybe! But I spend money on silly things plenty. And if some candy and an overpriced card can get a huge rate of return for my grandma, I'm SO in. I bought chocolate covered strawberries for DSD (who came over last night and asked "where can I buy chocolate strawberries"...so she got hers a day early!). I bought DH some red jelly beans and a card (and some strawberries for us, haha!) and set it out for him when he woke up. I took donuts to work, but first took some to Becca's babysitter and her son, and had one at breakfast with my grandma, and the rest for coworkers. And lastly the folks got some chocolates and a card. I'm feelin' the love today.

Yesterday was an insanely stressful day for my parents. And that's a real downside about working for family--their stress is my stress.

Weight 174.8 Still moving the right way and enjoying my fatty food.

The trainer and Pilates were great yesterday. I really like both even when they're hard. I never thought I'd ever be someone who says that!!

Today it's really nasty out and pouring. I kind of like that too... I have my therapy appointment and nothing else planned yet.

So it's Valentines Day. Not a favorite of mine as far as holidays go. But as a lifelong failure when it comes to men, it wouldn't be! Oh well. I'm extremely lucky in many other parts of my life for which I'm very grateful. Love just has never been one of them. Can't win 'em all, as they say. I'll see if I can get Ferg to cuddle with me later. He's not a cuddly dog - leave it to me to have the one golden on the planet that isn't!

I have to go get moving on some breakfast! Very behind this morning...

Greetings My Valentines

156. No candy for me yet though DH continues to stockpile Andes Mints. I am able to eat 2 or 3 and not the whole box but still too many. I got him three tiny but very good choc raspberry hearts. I think I will wait a week and get myself some roses. They jack up the price this week!

Hey Paula good to hear from you. Sounds like spending some special time with the kids is a good thing. Really every modern family should do this regardless of the special issues. How hard for your kids (and you) to lose their dad at such a young age.

Hey Cecily, I didn't get married until I was 43 so for much of my adult life Valentines day was a bust. Go to the gym and check out Mr. Butt Checker-outer. I met my DH at the gym.

Snow blowing as cheating? Are you kidding me? DianeO I can't believe how much you shovel. I need to shovel out my house. Wish there was a "junk blower" that would blow all the stuff in the house back to where it belongs.

Nephew arrives tomorrow. He is fun. But I am down to the final countdown of getting the room ready. Not even sure what time his plane lands but there are only about 4 per day here.

Tonight I will make the Wagyu beef. Hoping its good so I can add another item to my list of easy stuff. Got some baby broccoli to go with.

DH is off to lunch with buddies and then Costco. Lord knows what he will come home with.

Just spent an hour fooling around with a $50 error on our gallery sales tax return. Shades of income tax to come.

Yesterday I ate part of a leftover hamburger for breakfast. It was great. I think I will get some boca burgers or other such things for breakfast. I am so sick of GY all of a sudden and want something I can easily nuke.

Wow, we just had a torrential downpour. Hope it's done. Glad I am here drinking coffee. Diane S

I will be first in line to buy one of your junk blowers!

Haha about the butt checker outer! He didn't do much for me, but maybe if I just wear Lululemon pants everywhere I go, my rear view will snag another...

It's been a charming day. I bought heart shaped cookies for my classes, and many of the kids are so gracious with their thank you . And then there are the kids who are not, who are unaccustomed to little kindnesses and they're not sure how to react. They are the ones who need it the most.

DH and I had an early dinner at a new Italian restaurant. My goodness he looked handsome tonight. I was just shy of 22 when I met him. I can't believe my good fortune that I met him, and that I had the presence of mind to recognize it when I actually was pretty young and not so experienced in love.

We don't always celebrate Valentine's Day in traditional ways, but I've been feeling sentimental lately. However you view the day, I hope there are loved ones, humans or 4 footed ones or both to bring you some joy.