11/07/18, Wednesday

Diane, I truly appreciate your support and suggestions.

I am so sorry (on many levels) for the whole family. What a tragedy.

Since you are science-y, midwestern and meditate, I thought you might be interested in an Iowa State University study that showed that an introduction to meditation helped people stay a bit more active in autumn. ISU meditation relationship to activity

Makes perfect sense to me!

Doing what we PLAN to do in one arena increases our commitment to other plans and intentions we make.

Put another way, carrying through daily in one area reduces our resistance to forging through in other areas.

Tldr, self control begets self control.

And you don't have to do the hardest thing first. What a relief.

Controlling narcissistic people can be poisonous. Keep breathing fresh air (as deeply as you can with bruised ribs) and be glad you don't have to see her again.

Healing vibes to all of you!

B150, I love your Kachina -- powerful magic, there. (Maybe add some sage per DianeO's suggestion?)

Quick aside, Amazon is offering vibes of all sorts to me today....e-stims (which it must have seen suggested for muscle recovery in my mountaineering book) and a Kegel stimulator (for which I have many snickers but no words.)

I bristle at the talk of "settling" for our real selves. Words matter. Look at the you! All of you! I marvel at the wonders of you each and every day. Your real selves are not some fall-back position.

I'm not done with this yet: New people start posting and I marvel more! Diamond with her think tank (sorry, I can't remember correct term) and Shirl the used-to-be-city-girl now fearless farmer fire fighter who has awesome non-ostrich boots.

Rant over.

I have been enjoying winter squash. I love it roasted with a side of egg.

Don't get too excited, but new lipid guidelines should drop this weekend!!!!!!! I think there will be a report on exercise recs, too.

Go look in the mirror and marvel!

Shel

I agree. I do not wish to settle for my real self. I don't believe I conveyed that. I sure hope I didn't. I want to be my BEST self. That means pushing and honing and refining. I truly want to be that first rate version of myself. My first step in that direction is really accepting myself for who I am - NOT WHO I HAVE WISHED TO HAVE BEEN CREATED LIKE. That means accepting and giving a hug to my "faults" and "foibles" and understanding how my not so positive behaviors have worked for me on some level for so many years. Only when I know who I am can I "fertilize" the real me and grow into my full potential. Make sense?????

Yes! Makes sense to me.

And your "sense" aligns with my own late-in-life recognition that being my toughest critic isn't a role that benefits me very much. Instead, loving myself, feeling self-compassion, forgiving myself for being human -- and for being the very specific, imperfect human I am -- empowers me so much more.

As The Rock said ....

I get this! I have spent a few moments wishing I was Diane Lane. I am not. Or ever will be. Cue the singing, I gotta be me, what else can I be? Yes, being the best version of me, the version God, or the universe intended. And forgiving myself for the choices I made that distracted me from finding my best potential. One mantra I say to myself when I feel like I've failed in some way, my intentions were good. Because there is in me, that little girl who thinks she is bad. But she is not bad, her intentions have always been good, even if the outcome was sometimes imperfect.

Greetings Sage Lovers

Down a half. Still too heavy but there it is. I was forced to drink quite a bit of wine while watching election coverage. Must avoid that.

Ann, glad you are home safe and sound. The memorial experience sounds frightful. There are indeed negative energy sucking black holes of happiness in the world and such people are to be avoided. Cecily's aunt and crazy Pat are examples. By all means burn some sage. Enjoy some aroma therapy while you are resting up.

Yikes DianeO, you had a fall as well!!!! Be safe everyone.Falling for us seniors is no joke. I absolutely hate it when a stair rail is not available. Glad you are in a warm place. Borrego Springs area is beautiful. Keep hydrated in that heat! Serenity requires water!.

BB, by all means keep Becca safe from virus. We had no lines at our polling place and it makes me sad to see that others had lines and outright efforts to suppress voting. Wake up people.

Trip prep today, pre cleaning for the housekeeper, studio board meeting and more errands. The board meeting may be full of controversy. Scrabble yesterday was fun but somehow I found it tiring. Go figure. I guess I was just stiff and sore from sitting too much.

Cecily glad you had a good therapy session. It makes all the difference to be as kind to ourselves as we would be to others. Seems like we all spend our adult lives trying to recover from childhood issues though I do know a few people who had happy untroubled childhoods. A few.

We had the last of the Popeye pie last night. Gotta think up something healthy for tonight. Meanwhile time for some more healthy coffee. Diane S