Saturday 10-20-18

Oh, Ann. I'm so sorry. I'm glad Del wasn't here to suffer this loss, too. I know parents who have lost children and I don't think there is a loss that compares. Be well, friend.

So sorry for your loss Ann. Not the first nor the last person to pass away in these cir****tances but that doesn't make it any easier. I hope there are more siblings there to comfort each other and you. Hugs. Diane S

I'm so sorry to see so many of my friends hurting this morning

Diane O.-I don't know the exact cir****tances, but i'm sorry you felt out of control, overwhelmed, and upset. I hope things begin to work their way out today. And please try to ask for help.

David-glad you sound to be on the mend. Poor Adalyn. Your daily trips to the mailbox actually sound quite nice--and more activity than I probably get. I really need to enjoy nature. I have a stroller and everything. It's so nice this time of year. Hope everything is okay with DD2

Devon-sorry to hear Ron's event was actually a stroke, but hoping this means a quicker route to getting the issues resolved.

Ann-So sorry to hear about your stepson. That is just so terrible to hear about unexpected death of a young person.

The other day we found out the manager of our favorite restaurant died in a fatal car accident last weekend. My mom commented "and he was such a young guy." The young waitress hesitated and said "um...he was 37." In all inquiries, 37 is young!! Heck, I think anything below maybe 80 is way young to die :(

DH is gone and things are actually going okay. This has been a big week for Becca. She has begun clapping AND as of yesterday is officially crawling forward! Ut oh. Game changer.

I think part of the change in my mood is attributable to the fact that I went to bed at 8:30 on Thursday night. Perhaps on the weeks Rich isn't here I will do that more often. I'm trying to remain hopeful about the job. But resigning myself to the fact I cannot change it and let's say this is our last year in Oklahoma--I probably ought to enjoy it.

I made a banana bundt cake last night and am making a white bean and sausage stew to take over to my parents' house today to watch the OU game. Their last game was a dismal loss to Texas.

I can picture Becca clapping. What a happy beautiful little girl she is!

Oh, Oh, those growing milestones your children share with you. So joyful-to the point of wonder. Absolutely puts what is important in life into correct perspective. Definitely a Game changer (well put, you). Get ready for more as the years fly by- and by that, I mean ALL the years of your children's' lives.

Since it is seemly pointless to have any kind of hope for poor, pitiable KU---

GO OU!!!!!!!!

I hope she gets to use those shiny new clapping skills during the game today!

I am into day 3 of a 4 day weekend. Dh took Thursday and Friday off, so we did some staycation activities, and visited some small towns in the area know for their historical charm. One of them held the oldest operating bar in Minnesota, so of course we had a drink there, (wine, beer) and also the 2nd oldest operating brewery in the country(the oldest is apparently in Pennsylvania). Interesting history about how it stayed afloat during prohibition making near beer and root beer. Two beautiful sunny days, in the low 70s. I can hear the cold front that came in last night, the wind tearing at the last of the fall leaves, as the temperature plummets into the 30s. Time for some indoor activities today.

So here I am, a new member of a maintenance board, without much to say about food or maintenance. Eating has been less than stellar, although I do have a fridge full of leftovers. My sleeve might not always prevent me from ordering the non maintenance food, but it sure does prevent me from eating all of it. For that, I am grateful.

I like hearing what others are doing even if food isn't at the very center of story. For me maintenance is where food takes a back seat and I can enjoy the other pleasures of life. I NEED food to take a back seat. (Tho, let's be clear, I am always happy to read a food/maintenance centric post, too!)

If nothing else, seeing people navigate the world, boldly going where our pre-vsg selves feared, is helpful. Ditto stories about our relationships with others. These may not seem food related on surface, but we all know better.

I NEED food to take a back seat.

Such words of wisdom. It is a hard lesson to master - for me, at least. For some reason I found those words to be quite powerful this morning. Perhaps because I have been food focused this week, yet trying not to make food a major focus throughout the day.

So enjoy getting to know you, Diamond- I'm thinking that we are so much more than the food we eat, or the relationship we have with it. (mine overwhelmed and consumed (pun intended) me to the point of utter isolation), and while our common experience , WLS, brings us together, it is in the relationship I find here, and the friendship that is so precious to me. So, go on ahead, and let us know you better!