She didn't have WLS, right? (I'm trying to remember). If not, then I would vote for her to see an MD. I don't think they would find anything serious (and maybe nothing at all.)

But, it is a bummer to assume you know the cause of something and find out months later it was something else entirely, that could have been fixed long ago, if you had only asked the doctor to look into it.

No, she did not have WLS, but has lost about 40 pounds. I'll suggest she see her doctor.

At time of VSG my surgeon pointed out that hair loss is pretty common because four of the strongest triggers for hair loss come together at once: Physical Stress (surgery), dramatic weight loss, initial lack of protein, severe calorie reduction and in some cases, even hormonal changes. Reduction in calories and weight loss are alone enough to cause temporary hair loss. Anemia is another big cause.

Wouldn't hurt to have it checked out. Better to play it safe.

Dear Warrior, Choose What Brings You Closer To Your Goals.

A random keystroke took me to an unplanned website and that was the headline. The internet is speaking to me. And, it meshes nicely with Ann's theme.

Ann, glad to see you posting so I know you are not pinned to the ground. But, so early! Safe journeys and have good fun. You might already be there by this time. BB, I have had my fingers crossed about DH's job interview. And, I loved your beautiful family pics of the baptism!!!!!

Thanks all, for your thoughts in marijuana. And, a deep bow to the Lawyer of the Redwoods that provided some thoughts on how I might help DH get a move on his parent's paperwork.

Just having a few talking points opened up that he hasn't kept up on a few things (understandable since he works full time, has some health issues, and he isn't supposed to intuitively know how to close down an estate!) I can help in a limited daughter in law way which will include finding a lawyer to finish the job.

Enjoy the day....I'm hoping to do some home stuff plus a local hike. It is amazing how much one can get done when you don't have to work at a regular job.

Shel

Weight: 165.4.

Becca's sleeping seems to be getting worse. I need to do something about that.

Would I do vsg again in the case of regain? Even before I had vsg, I thought these questions through. After all, in the past, no diet ever worked, so it seemed prudent to consider my plans if VSG didn't. I also had an aunt who had very early VBG (?) I think and lost weight and regained. And I definitely don't consider myself "cured"--I know at any point I could bounce back up. But I'm pretty sure I would do it over again. It has been one FANTASTIC trip. Some people take $12,000 trips. Last night I sat at my alumni board meeting and the conversation starter was "what was your favorite homecoming memory?" I was regaled with stories of sorority pomping and "cheer and dance" competitions and parties after homecoming, and winning homecoming court. I felt sort of out of place. I felt sad. I was a loner in highschool and college. Sororities cut me faster than you could say "plus sized." Perhaps it wasn't all due to my size, but I was unable to be who I wanted to be! Even standing during a football game was taxing at 250+. I had surgery right after graduation. And for nearly 8 years now, I have been able to experience things without weight being a factor. Law school, falling in love, getting married (in a gown that I loved!), vacations, activities, pregnancy...all very different experiences than I think I would have had at 277.

Greetings Tous le Monde!

Still in orbit at 151. Last night's party/meeting was fun but I ate too many nibbles. I stuck to the healthy stuff for dinner - chicken leg and grilled veggies and 1/4 of a brownie. I found myself being stunned by the amounts other people were eating and at the same time slightly envious. Why can't I have cheesecake? Of course, the big eaters were obese. Thats why.

Well, me too on the college drug experiments. Decided it was a waste of time and money. Around here people are connosieurs of pot and know all these kinds and get all kinds of recommendations from the dispensary. Sort of like wine snobs. I have a tincture that is supposed to help sleep but it doesn't do much.

DH is out running errands consisting of taking a Tesla poop sample to the vet and going to the post office. He just wants an excuse to drive the electric car. Fine with me. I am not interested in poop delivery or standing in line at the post office.

Yeah, being in a committed relationship is not for the faint of heart. I didn't get married until age 43 and had pretty much concluded I would never marry because I was fat. But I found a fat guy who is a sweetie. I poke fun at him here but he is indeed a gem and I am grateful to have him in spite of his hoarding and other strange habits. So I guess we all need to remind ourselves of what it was that we saw in this other person we live with. In my case, DH has this deep core of goodness and kindness (not reflected in what he yells at politicians on the tv).

More gallery duty today and then a membership meeting tonight. Another finger food fest. My downfall. I still have to print out financial stuff for my report that no one listens to or reads.

Bonnie150 so glad you got the FMLA for your surgery. How could they not do that for you? I sure remember the days when there was no such thing. And no COBRA or Affordable Care Act. Is your surgery scheduled yet?

Hey Ann, have a good trip. And DianeO, good luck with getting the RV in ship shape. Dealing with stuff like that is enough to make anyone feel a little off. Its like all the maintenance of a second home. Some of us can barely keep up with one home!

Well, no insights here so I guess I will get on with the printing of meaningless documents. Whatever happened to this paperless business we were supposed to have by now? Diane S

Your comment that we need to remind ourselves of what it was that we saw in our significant others reminded me of a twist or extension of that good advise that goes something like this-

Think of all the qualities that first attracted you to ___.

Now consider this: every quality that attracts you to a person is just ONE side of the coin you want to put in your pocket. Remember that every coin comes with TWO sides.

Any good thing can and usually be taken to extremes- the same quality that endeared __ to you will, later in life drive you totally bat****:

One side of the coin, generosity , has on the other side of that same coin a person totally incapable of keeping to a budget. Originally fall in love with someone because they wanted to take care of you ?--now it feels like a life with no real freedom.

I was originally very attracted to DH's deference to what I thought- wanted to do, etc. Now, sometimes the same behavior seems to me as slacking , I mean, why can't HE take charge, make the decisions, point the path to take? Freedom to choose now feels like a burden I would rather share more equally. Conversely, I am sure that some of my once "perfectly endearing qualities" now are experienced sometimes as irritating and yes, I too, can drive DH totally bat**** at times.

What does all this imply? Don't know. Heard this a very long time ago and from time to time have thought on it.

Diane, my surgery is scheduled November 16th.

Hmmmm.... down a couple pounds today. Not sure why, but I'll take it. LOL!

Last night's workout was kind of intense again. I went in and said I was "in a mood". She took that as her signal to "work" the mood out of me! Warm up was 4 sets of walking lunges with a 30 pound bar bell held over my head alternated with dead lifts (though using only the 30 pound bar bell). That was followed by super sets of combination moves all involving interconenctive abdominal tissues. Did 4 supersets and called it a day. Maybe that's where the 2 pound loss came from.

I think the new med is making me very sleepy. I basically collapsed into bed at 10:45 (early for me). The alarm snooze button wa**** multiple times this morning, too. I got close to 8 hours of sleep, but still felt like I could have slept for another 4-5 hours when I got up. I have been a bit draggy today.

Told trainer what was getting me down. She balked at the thought of me losing 90 pounds (which is my full regain from my lowest weight). I am assuming some of the regain is muscle, but I'm not sure how much. I digress... she latched on to something that I had not really verbalized or thought in to language: I have to do "it" all over again. That's a daunting task. No wonder I have been dragging my feet. Think about it - even those of you who have had no regain or even just a little. would you like to start from square one again after having had WLS? Can you imagine what a field day your old tapes might have if you had regained every last pound you had lost since VSG? Since only Bonnie 150 knows what I'm talking about, I guess it's a pretty rhetorical question. Consider it food for thought.

As I consider getting back in the saddle, I am looking at ways to make the ride a little easier to manage - e.g. a suede seat vs. slick leather, making sure the stirrups are the right length this time and not too long, Bozal / hackamore or snaffle bit, perhaps bareback - it helps to be one with the horse, etc...

I love your description of your workout! it sounds like a really good place. Your whole post, really.

I would not like to do it again. Most definitely not. The mere thought is daunting--so I cannot imagine the action. The worry of regain, fear of failure, almost kept me from having WLS in the first place.

For me personally, my biggest worry any time I gain weight or attempt to lose weight again is this fear of failure/internalizing those attributes everyone always associated with weight/old tapes, etc. I don't want to assume I know what you're thinking, or even what I'd do, I'm simply trying to relate and give encouragement.

You have a couple things really working for you: you have done this before. You've even lost regain before. That's incredibly hard and you've done it! You are also a very self-aware person and have a desire to get to the kernel of this and work towards your goal. I think both of those attributes will serve you very, very well.

Thanks, Bonnie. I think we all have similar, but not identical, issues surrounding regain, being fat, fear of failure, feeling feelings, etc... I think obesity comes with a handful of similar mental/emotional processes for everyone.

You are right about losing it before, having done this before, being self aware, and having a desire to get to the core of my issues. I'm currently willingly mired in my "I don't wanna" stage! LOL!

I have set up some markers to help me get started. I am promising myself to be 100% on plan by October 11, which is 3 weeks and 1 day away. I have some obligations that will revolve around food this weekend, then stage one of reset will happen. I will then leave for a grueling travel experience with Lucky in tow to take him to the nationals on a RedEye flight from San Francisco to Philadelphia on October 2. We won't return until late, late on the 8th. I will give myself a few days to rest and recuperate and get some shopping for food done and then I will be on track beginning the 11th.

That's the plan.