Thursday July 19, 2018

Just lost my post!!! recreating:

Weight still 117.6, calories 1108.

We went kayaking for the second time this season yesterday. The weather and pond were beautiful but getting the kayaks from our house to the pond was a pain. We could leave them there but there have been some thefts so I'm not too comfortable doing that. We have these wheels to use, but one has a flat tire and the other collapses frequently once the kayak is on if the straps aren't just right. We need something more sturdy. Any suggestions?

Today is dentist and hair cut/highlight day. Tomorrow we have much company arriving staying until Tuesday or Wednesday. It will be fun for DH and me but tiring. I bet I'll be glad when they depart in the middle of next week!

Have a themeful Thursday!

Liz.. so glad you got out kayaking ! Paula... I so envy the core stability that enabled you to paddle board ! Looks like such fun, but I really need to work on my balance to be able to accomplish that !! Cecily, I can relate to your fear of clothes. When I was MO, they were such a confirmation of how I felt about myself. Even now, I have a pair of slim fit size six peach jeans that I often avoid putting on. They are my better than a scale assessment of swelling, muscle tone and weight. I even have nightmares that I go to put them on, and they don't fit. My weight has been in a five pound range for over a year (a few minor blips above or below aside) and they have never not fit, but the fear is there. BB I, too, think your logic is right on target regarding daycare. The personalized attention is so critical now. Nugget could care less about social interaction with other children currently, and you have Plan B ready when she is. You did get me thinking about how unproductive second guessing is... a trap a human or dog parent can easily fall into. I've learned that we only have a finite amount of energy to draw from each day. We can either waste it worrying about what ifs or invest it in moving forward successfully. Yesterday was the perfect time to be reminded of this, and your post inspired me to make that connection. Devon, for a few days I felt like I was living at the vet too ! Hang in there ! Glad that the home team was able to support you and that Shel was so responsive, as always ! Ann... I hope the fact that you haven't posted yet means that you are getting some time zone appropriate sleep. I thought of you yesterday when I made a garden salad, from my garden... onions, parsley, cilantro, tomatoes, peppers..loving those veggies.

My the thought for the day is to invest in the moment !

Weight: 135.0
Macros: Cals 1,549, Carbs 182, Fats 42, Protein 95, Fiber 26
Sleep hours: 8.5
Vegetable/Fruit Servings: 6
Exercise: Home yoga, aquarobics

Good morning, all. And yes, I am very happy NOT to be the person starting our thread today. :)

Whoa! Overnight I'm down 2.6 pounds, which puts me below my 100-pound weight loss boundary of 135.6.

Not coincidentally, last night I finally slept 8.5 hours in the proper Ozarkian time zone from 9pm to 5:30am. Obviously, weighing at sunrise and not at midnight helped.

I swear ... every time I go on holiday, eat and drink whatever I want and gain a few pounds, then come home and lose the new weight within a week or two, it still freaks me out that it's possible to right the ship. Truly, before being sleeved I was never able to do this. In fact, looking back, I'm not sure I ever even tried to lose short-term weight gain, but instead succumbed to Why Even Try!? mentality. Yes, my sleeve is incredibly helpful. But so is My Fitness Pal, my therapist, and several years of experience getting back up on the horse.

And that's enough metaphors about ships and horses.

Yesterday included a luncheon invitation with friends (with more calories than I'd intended) and an enjoyable book club meeting last night. We agreed to invite another woman to join the group and will learn soon if she's interested. I wish I could be in a book club with all of y'all! Wouldn't that be fun? By the way, our club's next reading will be The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt, which none of us managed to read before it won the Pulitzer Prize in 2014.

Our weather this week has been hot, humid and rainy. I'll spend this coming weekend on the mower maintaining my Greek Island tan.

Today's theme is paraphrased from ****ro, who surely heard someone else say it first: Gratitude is the parent of all other virtues.

Love the theme.

Gratitude is something I definitely have to keep fine tuning. I think it is the lens through which every other good thing is possible.

I read The Goldfinch last year. It will be interesting to hear what you think of it.

Eta - I deleted the other comment because OH had it in the wrong place in the thread. So strange that the deleted comment is in the correct place...

168.2

Diane O.-Do as I say, not as I do! I spend so much time worrying. I know I shouldn't. I can look back and realize things turned out fine, or even well, but I guess it's my personality to be a worry wart.

Shocked the scale wasn't up today since DH and I had a lovely dinner. A salesperson/friend took us out to an amazing steak dinner (we Okies do steaks best!). We had last seen them the week before Becca was due. So, so much has changed since then. It was nice to almost transport back. I'm glad that, although she knows DH from his previous job, she still cared to stay connected and even treated us to dinner. Although it's minor in the whole scheme of everything, one benefit to DH's job was how much his opinion was valued and--like it or not--people wanted to schmooze with him because he got to make decisions especially with salespeople. DH takes all of his relationships to heart/is a people person. Obviously he's doing less of that now since he's now longer at the big company. But it is nice (and smart imho) that several of the people are still keeping up contact with him--since it's just a nice thing to do, and second of all because it's a small world and even smaller industry and you just don't want to burn bridges. (Wish I could get this point across to the stepkids)

Very nice kid-free dinner! And the first time I've been able to eat a larger meal without having to throw up. Mixed emotions. I think the food was so satisfying because I was able to eat it and not feel ill. Yayy. But then wondering why I've been so hungry recently and wth is wrong with my sleeve that would enable me to eat so much!!

Going to be very hot. Ick.

I guess my theme would be some version of: be a nice person. It costs nothing, takes no skill, and yet it can pay off in spades

Bonnie, I second all your observations about the wonderful value we add to others' and our own lives by being kind and respectful.

And that puts me in mind of the meaning of Namaste: "The Divine in me salutes the Divine in you."

Good morning, sweeties, sweet tarts, dogletts, and mindful soul searchers, all.

151.

I've been here- but not, these last few days-not posting; the connection puts me in a solid, secure place- even amidst the wandering, wondering, griefs, growth, back -and-forth-slipsides common to all. You all let me know that I (and what little or big is going on) am a part of the human condition- no mor or less.

You also remind me that navigation is not only desirable, but necessary- It's not the state of the water- or path that I am on---that's just life, -So much of the time I am either hoping my situation will change - you know, get fixed, which makes it really easy to deal with---I am very good at doing well when things are going well. The unknown- waiting- glitches, holes and boulders- yes, even stones and pebbles placed in front of my path --not so good at navigating. - I babble--

C S Lewis puts the thought better. When asked what he expected from praying he said, "Prayer dose not change things (situations out side of myself-life), prayer changes me" , (my ability to deal with- conquer, grow, wait, cope, even just endure).

I am currently reshuffling that deck of cards called food. The game I was playing (very nicely, I might add), called Weight Loss is over. Yep, I won. the problem is- that game is over. Time for a new game with the food cards...Maintenance, which I've played numerous time in my life (with and without the WLS wildcard in the deck)--and, damn it, I am horrible at that game, and lose (no pun intended) every time.

Food- that's the situation--- Navigation--that's the problem. I am comfortable playing the WL-WG game---but using those gaming strategies while playing (navigating) the Maintenance game is not working well at all.

I'm currently thinking this--new rule (behavior- attitude towards food)...Embrace and own the food experience as part of my being- how? I will invite, acknowledge, converse with and enjoy the company of food 3 times every day at the table with Kurt.

Previously, the thinking was either (WL)- ignore, discount, and generally put no more importance to it other than as nutrition or - which I have been doing of late--using food for the tasting experience--as in Tasting and picking at EVERYTHNG imaginable while pretending that food means nothing to me--this has sent me into craving and then minor, compulsive grazing. Bad news.

Slogging onwards- bonnie.

I really don't have any advice, just encouragement.

My sister thinks we don't truly have "maintenance," just simply smaller weight loss/weight gain cycles. For some that's 2lbs, so it's 10, some it's 20...etc. Maybe if it helps you to think that you eat intuitively until up 2lbs. and then go back to losing? I think "normal" people do some version of that.

I find it hard too because as I start to get comfortable with food--something you'll inevitably do in maintenance at some point--I give myself an inch and eventually take a mile. Because no food is a no-go (and something I find desirable if not preferable!), I start having a hard time deciding when enough is enough.

There is definitely no end point in maintenance, which is hard.